Mother In Law At The Birth ??

Louisa K · Apr 23rd, 2008, 10:53 AM

Would it be something you would consider?

I get on really well with my husbands mum and feel very comfortable with her, but not that comfortable !!

I know she really wants to be there at the birth and said when she knows im in labour, she's coming to the hospital

Its got to the point that my husband has even said he won't text her until the baby is here, but thats a little harsh I think.. I dont want it like that..

I did tell her that Im not even totally comfortable with my mum there, I only truely feel happy with my husband there..

But I think she might just turn up !!

I'm not being weird or nothing am I, it's pretty normal to feel horrified at the thought of your MIL at your labour!!

**Vickie** · Apr 23rd, 2008, 10:55 AM

I don't care who shows up at the hospital, the only person allowed in the delivery room will be my husband. I like my in-laws (don't live close to any of my family) and get on well with them, but I don't want them in the room!

Tilly · Apr 23rd, 2008, 10:55 AM

No, sounds like hell to me lol.

Linzi · Apr 23rd, 2008, 10:57 AM

I wouldnt do it out of choice but I may not have an awful lot of choice. Just depends if my own parents can make it, and Matt doesn't end up in A&E with a fractured skull from passing out and hitting the deck. If shes my only option, Id rather her be there than be alone.

Could you not tell one of the nurses about it and tell her to tell your MIL that theres a policy about only one person being in the room or something? lol

xxx

x-amy-x · Apr 23rd, 2008, 11:03 AM

when i am in labour the delivery suite will be a no go for my mum and his mum, and any member of family for that matter. I have asked my Best friend to be there.. but mainly it will just be me and my OH

xxx

Serene123 · Apr 23rd, 2008, 11:04 AM

I think I would rather give birth in a taxi.

LOL

x-amy-x · Apr 23rd, 2008, 11:06 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by toriaaaaTRASH

I think I would rather give birth in a taxi.

LOL

I've noticed you'll be moving up a box soon :-D

Ratty · Apr 23rd, 2008, 11:15 AM

I was worried my OH might want his mom there, but we spoke about it the other night and luckily he completely agrees with me thats its a special moment meant for just the mom and dad to be.

Saying that, we will sms her when I go into labour and I'm 99% sure she will be at the hospital eagerly waiting for news and a peak at her grandson, but she is very understanding and will respect my wishes to have no one see me in labour.

Its funny, I don't want my own mom anywhere near the hospital. She will just stress me out and probably call me a wimp when I cry out in pain.

coz · Apr 23rd, 2008, 11:28 AM

I personally think its nice just to have your partner there, my mum lives 3 and half hours away so wont be able to come to the hospital at all and my partners mum said to me that she went in with her other daughter in law when she gave birth , i think she was kinda hinting but i told her that its not fair on my mum if she was to be there so its best if just dave comes in with me , i wouldnt want her in anyway though and my mum said to me that she doesnt mind who goes in as she wouldnt want to see my bits anyway lol , but were just sticking to me and dave there xxx

anita665 · Apr 23rd, 2008, 11:47 AM

It's really down to how you feel. I'd personally not mind my MIL being at the hospital but not in the room with me while I was giving birth. She'd have to wait outside. On the other hand I would HATE to have my mum there as we aren't close and she's been fairly pushy about being there so we are not telling her until the baby is born. It does feel quite harsh - especially as I'll be having my sister at the hospital and telling my nan but it's just the way I feel & the last thing I need when giving birth is the stress of knowing my mother has turned up at the hospital!!

Apr 23rd, 2008, 10:53 AM	#1
Louisa K Pregnant (Expecting) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: London, UK Posts: 1,569	Mother In Law At The Birth ?? Would it be something you would consider? I get on really well with my husbands mum and feel very comfortable with her, but not that comfortable !! I know she really wants to be there at the birth and said when she knows im in labour, she's coming to the hospital Its got to the point that my husband has even said he won't text her until the baby is here, but thats a little harsh I think.. I dont want it like that.. I did tell her that Im not even totally comfortable with my mum there, I only truely feel happy with my husband there.. But I think she might just turn up !! I'm not being weird or nothing am I, it's pretty normal to feel horrified at the thought of your MIL at your labour!!

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Apr 23rd, 2008, 10:55 AM	#2
Vickie Mum (Mom) Administrator Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: Toronto, ON Posts: 75,703	I don't care who shows up at the hospital, the only person allowed in the delivery room will be my husband. I like my in-laws (don't live close to any of my family) and get on well with them, but I don't want them in the room!

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Apr 23rd, 2008, 10:55 AM	#3
Tilly Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: Guildford Posts: 5,389	No, sounds like hell to me lol.

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Apr 23rd, 2008, 10:57 AM	#4
Linzi Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: Leeds UK Posts: 15,769	I wouldnt do it out of choice but I may not have an awful lot of choice. Just depends if my own parents can make it, and Matt doesn't end up in A&E with a fractured skull from passing out and hitting the deck. If shes my only option, Id rather her be there than be alone. Could you not tell one of the nurses about it and tell her to tell your MIL that theres a policy about only one person being in the room or something? lol xxx

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Apr 23rd, 2008, 11:03 AM	#5
x-amy-x Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Teesside, UK Posts: 13,812	when i am in labour the delivery suite will be a no go for my mum and his mum, and any member of family for that matter. I have asked my Best friend to be there.. but mainly it will just be me and my OH xxx

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Apr 23rd, 2008, 11:04 AM	#6
Serene123 Other Active BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2007 Posts: 32,048	I think I would rather give birth in a taxi. LOL

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Apr 23rd, 2008, 11:15 AM	#8
Ratty Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2008 Posts: 1,030	I was worried my OH might want his mom there, but we spoke about it the other night and luckily he completely agrees with me thats its a special moment meant for just the mom and dad to be. Saying that, we will sms her when I go into labour and I'm 99% sure she will be at the hospital eagerly waiting for news and a peak at her grandson, but she is very understanding and will respect my wishes to have no one see me in labour. Its funny, I don't want my own mom anywhere near the hospital. She will just stress me out and probably call me a wimp when I cry out in pain.

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Apr 23rd, 2008, 11:28 AM	#9
coz Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: West Midlands, England Posts: 3,493	I personally think its nice just to have your partner there, my mum lives 3 and half hours away so wont be able to come to the hospital at all and my partners mum said to me that she went in with her other daughter in law when she gave birth , i think she was kinda hinting but i told her that its not fair on my mum if she was to be there so its best if just dave comes in with me , i wouldnt want her in anyway though and my mum said to me that she doesnt mind who goes in as she wouldnt want to see my bits anyway lol , but were just sticking to me and dave there xxx

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Apr 23rd, 2008, 11:47 AM	#10
anita665 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: Norfolk, UK Posts: 2,689	It's really down to how you feel. I'd personally not mind my MIL being at the hospital but not in the room with me while I was giving birth. She'd have to wait outside. On the other hand I would HATE to have my mum there as we aren't close and she's been fairly pushy about being there so we are not telling her until the baby is born. It does feel quite harsh - especially as I'll be having my sister at the hospital and telling my nan but it's just the way I feel & the last thing I need when giving birth is the stress of knowing my mother has turned up at the hospital!!

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