Why can't my husband just understand? - Page 2

mummydee · Mar 6th, 2010, 13:00 PM

my hubby is exactly the same - he was off Thursday and only managed to complete one of the 5 jobs I asked of him - and have been asking of him since I got pregnant! LO is due in 3 weeks!

jolou · Mar 6th, 2010, 13:06 PM

no advice for you but i know what your going through, men are just plain useless at times!

Tink.x · Mar 6th, 2010, 14:27 PM

My OH is 30 years old and he is so immature! Yes he does as he is told. But if i tell him he's doing something wrong etc. it ends up in an arguement. Yesterday we moved our bedroom round and i had my expensive shoes in a wardrobe. I ook them out and put them on the floor next to the dirty washing basket. ( These all needed to go downstairs) He decided to move them into Babies room onto the new clean white carpet! I told him "the washing goes downstairs as well as them shoes, i have told you no shoes in that room, on your feet or not!" and then he turned and said right well tell me what to do, i'm not doing anything till you tell me what to do because if i do anything it is normally wrong. I told him that i wanted him to get on moving stuff. I shouldn't be lifting anything at all but i wanted to help. He said well tell me what to do, I walked downstairs and had to take a breather! Why do men not understand that its not exactly easy being pregnant. You feel achy and tired. Your hormones change like mad, one min i am fine next i want to scratch someones eyes out! I can't stand to be around him some times and i dunno why...just a pregnancy thing i guess...All i want is for him to realise he needs to mature, he says "i am mature" how can he be when he still scares birds or cats and acts like a tw*t in the street at times??! Help me please.... oxx

By the way i am 19 nearly 20 and i am more mature, yet you would expect it to be the other way round!!

Akira · Mar 6th, 2010, 14:50 PM

I'm still waiting for OH to finish painting the cot.....that we bought and started sanding etc when I was 10 weeks!!! Not to mention cleaning out his tip of a car so we can actually get a car seat in there.........oh wait.......that would mean GETTING a car seat first, its not like we don't have the money he would just rather spend it on going to the movies, xbox games, rugby tickets! ARGH!!

LogansMama · Mar 6th, 2010, 15:58 PM

OMG - so at least I'm not the only one dealing with an ignorant OH! I hope all you ladies find a way to get them to get their arses in gear! And when you do - please - tell me how!

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Originally Posted by moomin_troll

my oh didnt help me at all and it really got to me and he didnt change until i packed mine and zanes bag and left him.
how old is ur son?

Hmmm... Shall I start packing then? *sarcarstic!*
My ds is 3 1/2.

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Originally Posted by xminimotox

Now if i mention it i'm nagging! We only have about 10weeks left... x

And thats if baby doesn't decide to come a few weeks early! Ya never know!!

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Originally Posted by mamato2more

First, realize that you are nesting like a mad woman, as am I, and you need things done right, and just the way you want them..Normal!! Healthy! Our hubbies, well, they might not get that..Try explaining that you are nesting, trying to get this stuff done, and you don't want to nag at him at all...But, this would really make you feel better going into birth if this stuff is done...
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I did this --- like I said - he just ROLLS his eyes and tells me I am on the computer reading internet garbage... like "nesting" isn't a real thing... its just something we have made up to annoy our husbands! GRRRR!

cupcake · Mar 7th, 2010, 10:15 AM

oh dear, it is annoying when they dont do stuff you ask, I also end up just doing some stuff myself if I have to, but most of the time my husband is great as long as I remind him to do something. I am 37 weeks and have not got much ready I told my DH today we gotta get moving now incase this one comes early. To make matters worse we have a big religious holiday coming up with tons of preparations so I totally understand how you feel about wanting to get things done.
If you get frustrated just think of me so many weeks ahead of you with so much to do!

Clarissa · Mar 7th, 2010, 14:19 PM

Same thing going on here. My husband has been painting the bedroom ( which is not even that big) for over a week. I painted our whole living room a few years back in a few hours. Not to mention we have to tackle the living room and still put all the things away for the lil one and I have 4 weeks to go.

They just do not understand at all!!!!!!!!

DueMarch2nd · Mar 7th, 2010, 14:29 PM

I had the same problem at that stage. It is getting close and you are starting to want things done so you can relax. But he still think there is plenty of time. My husband is off today and is just finishing some stuff that "could wait" and i am 5 days overdue! He got the important stuff done early enough but it is as you say, you want the house to look lovely for company and there are always things needing finished. You just gotta be really firm like ok today x needs to be done. He will get there in the end... you can hope!

mandylou · Mar 7th, 2010, 14:45 PM

ive given up asking my OH to do stuff. the one thing that i need him to do is change the cat litter tray, yet he still leaves it till it stinks and is so full the cats dont even want to use it any more! so i have to nag him to do that one little thing round the house, and even then it takes him hours to get round to it.. and i mean HOURS! i dont see whay if I can see that it needs changing.. then why cant he?? does he walk round with his eyes closed?! grr men!

LogansMama · Mar 7th, 2010, 15:12 PM

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Originally Posted by mandylou

ive given up asking my OH to do stuff. the one thing that i need him to do is change the cat litter tray, yet he still leaves it till it stinks and is so full the cats dont even want to use it any more! so i have to nag him to do that one little thing round the house, and even then it takes him hours to get round to it.. and i mean HOURS! i dont see whay if I can see that it needs changing.. then why cant he?? does he walk round with his eyes closed?! grr men!

Same HERE!! Not even SEE it - but can't they SMELL it? I mean really? I know my nose is extra sensitive now - but seriously - if the pan is full of piss and poop - it stinks whether you are pregnant or not!

I actually have been changing it myself this time around, cause if I wait for him, my cat will pee on the floor before it gets done! He may have done it 4 times since we found out I was preg this time! I can't even bother asking him to do it anymore. GRRRRR!

Mar 6th, 2010, 13:00 PM	#11
mummydee Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: Kent, UK Posts: 1,159	my hubby is exactly the same - he was off Thursday and only managed to complete one of the 5 jobs I asked of him - and have been asking of him since I got pregnant! LO is due in 3 weeks!

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Mar 6th, 2010, 13:06 PM	#12
jolou Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: Prestatyn, North wales Posts: 1,429	no advice for you but i know what your going through, men are just plain useless at times!

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Mar 6th, 2010, 14:27 PM	#13
Tink.x Mum (Mom) Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: Derby, United Kingdom Posts: 491	My OH is 30 years old and he is so immature! Yes he does as he is told. But if i tell him he's doing something wrong etc. it ends up in an arguement. Yesterday we moved our bedroom round and i had my expensive shoes in a wardrobe. I ook them out and put them on the floor next to the dirty washing basket. ( These all needed to go downstairs) He decided to move them into Babies room onto the new clean white carpet! I told him "the washing goes downstairs as well as them shoes, i have told you no shoes in that room, on your feet or not!" and then he turned and said right well tell me what to do, i'm not doing anything till you tell me what to do because if i do anything it is normally wrong. I told him that i wanted him to get on moving stuff. I shouldn't be lifting anything at all but i wanted to help. He said well tell me what to do, I walked downstairs and had to take a breather! Why do men not understand that its not exactly easy being pregnant. You feel achy and tired. Your hormones change like mad, one min i am fine next i want to scratch someones eyes out! I can't stand to be around him some times and i dunno why...just a pregnancy thing i guess...All i want is for him to realise he needs to mature, he says "i am mature" how can he be when he still scares birds or cats and acts like a tw*t in the street at times??! Help me please.... oxx By the way i am 19 nearly 20 and i am more mature, yet you would expect it to be the other way round!!

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Mar 6th, 2010, 14:50 PM	#14
Akira Mum (Mom) Inactive Join Date: May 2009 Location: New Zealand Posts: 709	I'm still waiting for OH to finish painting the cot.....that we bought and started sanding etc when I was 10 weeks!!! Not to mention cleaning out his tip of a car so we can actually get a car seat in there.........oh wait.......that would mean GETTING a car seat first, its not like we don't have the money he would just rather spend it on going to the movies, xbox games, rugby tickets! ARGH!!

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Mar 7th, 2010, 10:15 AM	#16
cupcake Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: middle east Posts: 4,375	oh dear, it is annoying when they dont do stuff you ask, I also end up just doing some stuff myself if I have to, but most of the time my husband is great as long as I remind him to do something. I am 37 weeks and have not got much ready I told my DH today we gotta get moving now incase this one comes early. To make matters worse we have a big religious holiday coming up with tons of preparations so I totally understand how you feel about wanting to get things done. If you get frustrated just think of me so many weeks ahead of you with so much to do!

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Mar 7th, 2010, 14:19 PM	#17
Clarissa Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: New York, New York Posts: 112	Same thing going on here. My husband has been painting the bedroom ( which is not even that big) for over a week. I painted our whole living room a few years back in a few hours. Not to mention we have to tackle the living room and still put all the things away for the lil one and I have 4 weeks to go. They just do not understand at all!!!!!!!!

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Mar 7th, 2010, 14:29 PM	#18
DueMarch2nd Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Grangemouth, Scotland (originally from MI,USA) Posts: 3,413	I had the same problem at that stage. It is getting close and you are starting to want things done so you can relax. But he still think there is plenty of time. My husband is off today and is just finishing some stuff that "could wait" and i am 5 days overdue! He got the important stuff done early enough but it is as you say, you want the house to look lovely for company and there are always things needing finished. You just gotta be really firm like ok today x needs to be done. He will get there in the end... you can hope!

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Mar 7th, 2010, 14:45 PM	#19
mandylou Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Ex pat. Gibraltar Posts: 1,244	ive given up asking my OH to do stuff. the one thing that i need him to do is change the cat litter tray, yet he still leaves it till it stinks and is so full the cats dont even want to use it any more! so i have to nag him to do that one little thing round the house, and even then it takes him hours to get round to it.. and i mean HOURS! i dont see whay if I can see that it needs changing.. then why cant he?? does he walk round with his eyes closed?! grr men!

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