what do you make of this?
when I first told a friend I was pregnant back in September 2009 all I got was a Facebook message saying ‘Congrats have you had morning sickness?’

I had a baby shower at the weekend and this friend said she was going to come and then didn’t show up and text me YESTERDAY said she couldn’t make it cos she was booking her wedding on that day (which ive heard none of us are invited to!?)

Its my birthday soon and ive sent messages to people asking them to confirm in the next few days if they are coming as I need to book a table for dinner – she still hasn’t replied and if I don’t her from her by the time I book the table I wont book her or her BF a place.

Im just really pee’d at the whole situation but don’t know what to do about it or if I should just take it as a loss and forget about her – the thing is me and my friends have known her for about 12 years but she never makes the effort. Should I send her a message and tell her im upset or just leave it and forget about her like she seems to have forgotten about me?

Advice please
xx

I'd forget about her, I had a friend who was similar and I got soo sick of doing all the running, I decided I'd let her do it from then on- she never did, and we haven't really spoken for about 6 months!

I would say goodbye....I lost a friend in this pregnancy as I wasn't able to attend her hen do in Newcastle after my baby was born, so I got dumped as a bridesmaid & uninvited to the wedding......So long, can't be that much of a friend anyway!!

Some people have to have it all revolve around them, and now you've got something happening in your life, her nose is out of joint !!

Well she sounds a little selfish and I would just leave it. At the end of the day, you are shortly going to have your hands full and she knows where you are xxx

Awww hun, I would forget about her and move on. She may be jealous of you? And some women think that all of a sudden your going to be different as soon as your pregnant and dont know what to say but I dont think this applies in this situation. I agree with Katie, life is to short to be running around after someone who doesnt care. You are heavily pregnant, I would think about yourself and your baby hun. Be indifferent, if she reaches out to you great, if not who cares x x x

I would forget abou ther too. I've lost alot of friends since becoming preggo, but you meet new people who are also mums and know what you are going through. your not alone ! xx

is she jealous of you ? she doesn't sound like a friend to me ! she sounds really ignorant ! x

I never thought it would take "being pregnant " to realise who are the real friends in my life. But I am glad it has worked out that way. If not now, it would have been another time in my life they would have shown their true colours...x

Thanks so much for your replies and kind words I think im just upset its come to this.
I wont chase her anymore now and just see what happens – ive got lots of great friends anyway so I should stop wasting my time and feelings over this one!
GIRL POWER!!!
xx

I have lost a good 'friend' this pregnancy too - its true that pregnancy is a time when you really find out who your true friends are.... dont waste any precious energy chasing her when its clear she doesnt give a toss about you xx