Problem with 'friend' please help - Page 2

Alisha1985 · Mar 4th, 2010, 07:44 AM

I would also be one to say goodbye to a 'friend' like that. Friends are friends for a reason. You shouldnt chasing each other. It should be equal, just like in a relationship.

ellers · Mar 4th, 2010, 07:52 AM

Yep, cheerio to her I"d say. Let her make an effort, you're going through major life changes, it'd be nice for her to contact you instead!
I've ditched quite a few, none of whom have asked me ONCE how my pg has been.
It's like they can't be bothered because they're not in the same place in their life at the moment, god help them when they do get there and realise how lonely it can be when people don't care.

Sam9kids · Mar 4th, 2010, 10:24 AM

Agree with the others (((hugs))) xxx

kristen77 · Mar 4th, 2010, 10:35 AM

Awww hun, I was actually going to post today about by 'best friend'. Is this a problem that has just happened since you got pg or is that just what she is like? She sounds incredibly selfish. I think I would just forget about it - if she gets in touch with you then perhaps try and speak to her and tell her how she has hurt you?

I have been best friends with someone for 17 years now - but have been friends for around 23 (that makes me sound soooooo old!!). Ever since I got pg we have drifted apart. She has just moved down to London to move in with her new BF after recently getting divorced. She never really calls and when I do speak to her she is always really distracted and doesn't ask about my baby at all - all she wants to know is how big I am! It was her birthday the other day and I now know more about the bag her BF bought her than she does about my baby!! I think it is really sad but I guess some friendships aren't meant to last forever...

Sorry for ranting on your thread!

x

Shady_R · Mar 4th, 2010, 11:55 AM

I was good friends with someone till this pregnancy, my so called friend betrayed my trust and told everyone i was pregnant as soon as i told her. I tried to let it go but its the fact she tried blaming everyone else around her for it happening. Then she started to turn more funny so i said bye.

madasa · Mar 4th, 2010, 11:58 AM

If the friend hasn't been preg, then I'd cut them more slack.... they don't know what it's like, or they don't know what to say. But it sounds like this friend has had a baby too and is just a self centred person in general? I wouldn't ditch them, I'd just stop doing all the chasing and concentrate on other friends who are more present. xx

flame · Mar 4th, 2010, 14:59 PM

Im the other way around as i have cancelled loads of nights out and hen partys and even a wedding reception due to me being too tired and have hardly seen my best friends as they and i have lives of our own and different priorities right now, but we do see each other when we can and talk on the phone all the time. And i know once the baby is born we will get back into a semi routine again, as most of us have kids, jobs and partners who have to take 1st place in life.

Maybe things will change with your friend and maybe they wont but i wouldnt dwell on it too much as when your baby is born you will meet people at baby groups etc.

Mar 4th, 2010, 07:44 AM	#11
Alisha1985 Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2010 Location: United Kingdom Posts: 767	I would also be one to say goodbye to a 'friend' like that. Friends are friends for a reason. You shouldnt chasing each other. It should be equal, just like in a relationship.

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Mar 4th, 2010, 07:52 AM	#12
ellers Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: Suffolk...finally! Posts: 638	Yep, cheerio to her I"d say. Let her make an effort, you're going through major life changes, it'd be nice for her to contact you instead! I've ditched quite a few, none of whom have asked me ONCE how my pg has been. It's like they can't be bothered because they're not in the same place in their life at the moment, god help them when they do get there and realise how lonely it can be when people don't care.

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Mar 4th, 2010, 10:24 AM	#13
Sam9kids Pregnant (Expecting) BnB Addict Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: Cheshire, UK Posts: 4,928	Agree with the others (((hugs))) xxx

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Mar 4th, 2010, 10:35 AM	#14
kristen77 Pregnant (Expecting) BnB Addict Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: Manchester, England Posts: 3,018	Awww hun, I was actually going to post today about by 'best friend'. Is this a problem that has just happened since you got pg or is that just what she is like? She sounds incredibly selfish. I think I would just forget about it - if she gets in touch with you then perhaps try and speak to her and tell her how she has hurt you? I have been best friends with someone for 17 years now - but have been friends for around 23 (that makes me sound soooooo old!!). Ever since I got pg we have drifted apart. She has just moved down to London to move in with her new BF after recently getting divorced. She never really calls and when I do speak to her she is always really distracted and doesn't ask about my baby at all - all she wants to know is how big I am! It was her birthday the other day and I now know more about the bag her BF bought her than she does about my baby!! I think it is really sad but I guess some friendships aren't meant to last forever... Sorry for ranting on your thread! x

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Mar 4th, 2010, 11:55 AM	#15
Shady_R Waiting To Try (WTT) BnB Addict Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: Torfaen Posts: 3,343	I was good friends with someone till this pregnancy, my so called friend betrayed my trust and told everyone i was pregnant as soon as i told her. I tried to let it go but its the fact she tried blaming everyone else around her for it happening. Then she started to turn more funny so i said bye.

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Mar 4th, 2010, 11:58 AM	#16
madasa Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: Shropshire, UK Posts: 2,988	If the friend hasn't been preg, then I'd cut them more slack.... they don't know what it's like, or they don't know what to say. But it sounds like this friend has had a baby too and is just a self centred person in general? I wouldn't ditch them, I'd just stop doing all the chasing and concentrate on other friends who are more present. xx

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Mar 4th, 2010, 14:59 PM	#17
flame Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Feb 2010 Posts: 253	Im the other way around as i have cancelled loads of nights out and hen partys and even a wedding reception due to me being too tired and have hardly seen my best friends as they and i have lives of our own and different priorities right now, but we do see each other when we can and talk on the phone all the time. And i know once the baby is born we will get back into a semi routine again, as most of us have kids, jobs and partners who have to take 1st place in life. Maybe things will change with your friend and maybe they wont but i wouldnt dwell on it too much as when your baby is born you will meet people at baby groups etc.

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