Panicking about being a mother!!!

KamKol · Mar 2nd, 2010, 17:54 PM

Okay, so I'm okay with handling the newborn...the nappy changing..the feeding etc because I've helped my SIL do it with her babies.

But today it dawned on me...

I just watched my little one year old neice projectile vomit twice and scream bloody murder because she's caught the cold and I really can't imagine myself handling a situation like that by myself!

My mum will be helping me with the newborn but what about a few months down the line when I'll be living alone (DH works 2 jobs round the clock) and the baby starts up the way my neice did! WHAT ON EARTH WILL I DO!!!!

MrsGlitz · Mar 3rd, 2010, 05:10 AM

Panic has set in for me the last day or two, I spent an hour a day in tears the last couple of days. I really don't know how I am going to cope, my mum is no longer alive, nor is MIL, my closest family are in Bristol and I only have one mummy friend who lives in a different area.

Cactusgirl · Mar 3rd, 2010, 05:13 AM

I have no idea and I also have no idea about nappies and feeding as only changed my first nappy the other week using my friends kid as a guinea pig and I bottled the pooey one!!

MarieGx · Mar 3rd, 2010, 05:14 AM

I've done exactly the same hun your not alone xx

kristen77 · Mar 3rd, 2010, 05:16 AM

It'll be just fine ladies. We have no young children in my family and I only have a couple of friend's with babies, so I am very unexperienced, but I honestly think instinct will take over. Plus there are books to read with advice if you want to go down that route, and babyandbump will be here with thousands of lovely ladies full of advice! You are not alone!

bump_wanted · Mar 3rd, 2010, 05:33 AM

i said this to my mum when she was watching my little cousin whos ten months n he started to choke he had a cold n the mucus got caught in this throat i was in a panic and i froze (thank god i wasnt in charge eh) it knocked my confidence but my mum said to me not to worry i would have ten month experience and your knowledge of what to do with your own baby is built in she said one day you'll be sitting handling a situation and think how did i know to do that...all i can do is hope shes right lol but it beats being scared for the rest of my life eh! xx

KamKol · Mar 3rd, 2010, 17:32 PM

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Originally Posted by bump_wanted

i said this to my mum when she was watching my little cousin whos ten months n he started to choke he had a cold n the mucus got caught in this throat i was in a panic and i froze (thank god i wasnt in charge eh) it knocked my confidence but my mum said to me not to worry i would have ten month experience and your knowledge of what to do with your own baby is built in she said one day you'll be sitting handling a situation and think how did i know to do that...all i can do is hope shes right lol but it beats being scared for the rest of my life eh! xx

Oh gosh! I really hope she's right!

pinktaffy · Mar 3rd, 2010, 17:52 PM

panic has hit me aswell . i have 4 weeks left and im thinking omg my life will never be the same again im gonna have a whole person to take care of. i want my baby so much and i love her already. but what if im rubbish at being a mum lol. ive had experiance with kids aswell with my neice and nephew but i always got to give them back at the end of the day my baby i will have 24 hours aday and im just totally panicing.

happymamma · Mar 3rd, 2010, 18:02 PM

Like Kristen said, instinct WILL take over! What you guys are going through is completely normal fears, but one day you will look back and kinda chuckle at it. When I was pg with my first, I kept having panic attacks, wondering how will I cope, how will I handle certain situations, the baby doesnt come with a manual so where do I get my answers!?? Well, I finally realized, I will tackle each problem or dilema a day at a time. Don't worry about the what if, or the future. I was even worrying about what school I would put him in! That was just insane! Its unreal how you just 'know' what to do. You will all do just fine! For now, just try to think of the moments when you will be laying back on the couch cuddling with your lo. Just think, for those of you who plan to breast feed, you dont have to worry about any kind of food for at least 6 months! Just take care of yourself, remember that one. We all tend to forget.

Flutterby1982 · Mar 3rd, 2010, 18:26 PM

I know its already been said but.....do not worry, your mummy instinct will kick in!!
Our little princess was a happy accident and I was always saying I couldn't see myself getting broody or having a child around me full time. About a month before she arrived I found myself panicking about this little person I will be responsible for but honestly, even on the first night in hospital I knew how to look after her better than the midwife did...and you'll find that every decision you make or little step like winding them properly or something lol, makes you far more confident. Emily Grace is only a week old but I am happy and confident that I can be the best mummy to her

Good luck ladies xx

Mar 2nd, 2010, 17:54 PM	#1
KamKol Pregnant (Expecting) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: May 2009 Location: UK Posts: 2,171	Panicking about being a mother!!! Okay, so I'm okay with handling the newborn...the nappy changing..the feeding etc because I've helped my SIL do it with her babies. But today it dawned on me... I just watched my little one year old neice projectile vomit twice and scream bloody murder because she's caught the cold and I really can't imagine myself handling a situation like that by myself! My mum will be helping me with the newborn but what about a few months down the line when I'll be living alone (DH works 2 jobs round the clock) and the baby starts up the way my neice did! WHAT ON EARTH WILL I DO!!!!

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Mar 3rd, 2010, 05:10 AM	#2
MrsGlitz Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: Bournemouth, Dorset Posts: 3,150	Panic has set in for me the last day or two, I spent an hour a day in tears the last couple of days. I really don't know how I am going to cope, my mum is no longer alive, nor is MIL, my closest family are in Bristol and I only have one mummy friend who lives in a different area.

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Mar 3rd, 2010, 05:13 AM	#3
Cactusgirl Pregnant (Expecting) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: Manchester Posts: 1,030	I have no idea and I also have no idea about nappies and feeding as only changed my first nappy the other week using my friends kid as a guinea pig and I bottled the pooey one!!

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Mar 3rd, 2010, 05:14 AM	#4
MarieGx Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: Nuneaton, United Kingdom Posts: 491	I've done exactly the same hun your not alone xx

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Mar 3rd, 2010, 05:16 AM	#5
kristen77 Pregnant (Expecting) BnB Addict Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: Manchester, England Posts: 3,016	It'll be just fine ladies. We have no young children in my family and I only have a couple of friend's with babies, so I am very unexperienced, but I honestly think instinct will take over. Plus there are books to read with advice if you want to go down that route, and babyandbump will be here with thousands of lovely ladies full of advice! You are not alone!

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Mar 3rd, 2010, 05:33 AM	#6
bump_wanted Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Mar 2009 Posts: 4,729	i said this to my mum when she was watching my little cousin whos ten months n he started to choke he had a cold n the mucus got caught in this throat i was in a panic and i froze (thank god i wasnt in charge eh) it knocked my confidence but my mum said to me not to worry i would have ten month experience and your knowledge of what to do with your own baby is built in she said one day you'll be sitting handling a situation and think how did i know to do that...all i can do is hope shes right lol but it beats being scared for the rest of my life eh! xx

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Mar 3rd, 2010, 17:52 PM	#8
pinktaffy Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2009 Posts: 2,301	panic has hit me aswell . i have 4 weeks left and im thinking omg my life will never be the same again im gonna have a whole person to take care of. i want my baby so much and i love her already. but what if im rubbish at being a mum lol. ive had experiance with kids aswell with my neice and nephew but i always got to give them back at the end of the day my baby i will have 24 hours aday and im just totally panicing.

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Mar 3rd, 2010, 18:02 PM	#9
happymamma Pregnant (Expecting) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: Canada Posts: 1,002	Like Kristen said, instinct WILL take over! What you guys are going through is completely normal fears, but one day you will look back and kinda chuckle at it. When I was pg with my first, I kept having panic attacks, wondering how will I cope, how will I handle certain situations, the baby doesnt come with a manual so where do I get my answers!?? Well, I finally realized, I will tackle each problem or dilema a day at a time. Don't worry about the what if, or the future. I was even worrying about what school I would put him in! That was just insane! Its unreal how you just 'know' what to do. You will all do just fine! For now, just try to think of the moments when you will be laying back on the couch cuddling with your lo. Just think, for those of you who plan to breast feed, you dont have to worry about any kind of food for at least 6 months! Just take care of yourself, remember that one. We all tend to forget.

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Mar 3rd, 2010, 18:26 PM	#10
Flutterby1982 Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: Dorset, UK Posts: 308	I know its already been said but.....do not worry, your mummy instinct will kick in!! Our little princess was a happy accident and I was always saying I couldn't see myself getting broody or having a child around me full time. About a month before she arrived I found myself panicking about this little person I will be responsible for but honestly, even on the first night in hospital I knew how to look after her better than the midwife did...and you'll find that every decision you make or little step like winding them properly or something lol, makes you far more confident. Emily Grace is only a week old but I am happy and confident that I can be the best mummy to her Good luck ladies xx

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