I have just had a visit from the health visitor and she made me feel so uncomfortable. Sorry for the rant here, but I am just left feeling stressed and a bit defensive.

She kept going on about do you have support? I said I did (felt like i was being bombarded with such nosey questions; Do you work? Are you keeping well (whilst looking at me suspiciously!) Is the dad involved?, How were your moods after your last two children?, Just really negative things like that. Your other children are a lot older, was this a surprise? Its a long time since you've had a baby... Maybe you'll need extra support....

And then it was like she went on about how having a baby can be isolating. Basically she was very negative about the whole thing. I am not at all worried about being isolated... I have loads of people I can meet up with and I intend to socialise with my baby if that makes sense. I just didn't like her attitude about babies as if they ruin your life or something!....

I couldn't wait for her and her student nurse to leave. I just found her really difficult to connect to. she said she would visit 11 days after i give birth.

Has anyone else had this kind of experience?

I don't think mine will come until after I give birth. The way she was talking does sound a bit negative, although most of the time people don't mean to be offensive. Was she older? That could explain it (not an excuse, but a reason type of thing). :-)

Yeah she was about 60 or something but then I am 33!!! Its weird I am so used to the people I meet where I get my private scans (they are so nice and friendly) it was bizarre being treated as though you were struggling even though you're not.. Maybe she's like that with everyone, I don't know but I just didn't like her!!

In MY experience all health visitors are idiots! Well just my opinion! I have seen mine for my two year olds speech and ALREADY has had a go at me for being pregnant with my third!
Best thing is ignore her I know thats hard but your the mummy and you seem like you have it all sorted plus the fact you have babies already! xxx

She does sound so negative! Did she just turn up unexpected? I thought they did not come until after the birth!

They really shouldn't be so judgmental! I would have thought their role is to be empathic and understanding. Omg I was hoping it was just her but maybe there's a lot more health visitors that are like this. It hardly creates the right setting to talk in confidence with her..... I should know I have studied counselling. Can't believe she "had a go at you for being pregnant!!" Omg thats unbelievable!

I don't think they don't usually come round before baby is born unless you are at higher risk of problems - physical or emotional. The only person I know who had an early visit had had some issues in the past which put her at a really high risk of PND. If you aren't aware of any reasons for the visit, it might be worth having a chat to your MW when you next see her to find out why.

I guess I can understand her asking so many probing questions in that scenario.

Oh yeah, people rub me wrong all the time! LOL. My DH thinks I'm overly sensitive, but I tell him I just don't like rude and aggressive people!

well she said she likes to come round to introduce herself before I have the baby. I knew she was coming... well she arrived half an hour early! So that took me back a little. When I answered the door I thought it was the delivery man. I just didn't realise she was going to question my entire life so personally.... I mean I have never met her before.

I don't know if all health visitors do this or if it's just where I live.

Its bad enough when its people you know saying "oooh you wont have a life now you have a baby on the way", but i suppose from a professional is even worse having lots of negativity. Maybe as she was a bit older it may just be a little old fashioned of her. I dont think i will be having one visit until after baby is born.