Ever since i got pregnant pretty much all of my friends have deserted me. I have 3 that have continued to text, ring and meet up with me every so often and I am so grateful for these 3 girls! My so called best friend has seen me about 6 times in the past 6 months and even then all she does is talk about herself. It was my 22nd birthday 3 weeks ago and she didn't even text me to say happy birthday. She called me a few days later apologising because she had been 'sooooo busy' with work and doing overtime- she still manages to go out drinking with her new work mates a good 2 or 3 times a week though- AND broadcast it all over facebook. She said she would call over soon with my present and card- hmph still waiting!
Guess I have realised who my real friends are. Just hope my 'best' friend doesn't come knocking when my little girl arrives because I don't think I will be able to hold off telling her what I really think. /rant over- sorry x

dont worry, i dont have any left either. I have some "friends" who make conversation on facebook, but i havent hung out with anyone since i got pregnant, except one friend that i havent spoken to in weeks and he's only been to see me like four times since i found out and we used to spend every waking hour together
Its ok though, we'll make new friends who understand what we're going through and who have babies to be friends with our babies It will all be ok! x

Hey hun,

I know how you feel. This has also happened to me. A bit when I got married, and now that Im pregnant...it is really happening.

My "best friend" stopped hanging out with me or calling and has now moved away.

I think its something to do with being young and pregnant....Im only 23.

This has happened to me too, although i did realise what my ex-friend was really like i'm glad we dont hang out anymore she's pretty self centred and heartless. Oh well it happens, but we make new friends and you have all the lovely ladies on this site too xx

I know how you feel hun - only ONE of my friends remembered my birthday in January...pathetic huh! And from all of my friends, only 2 have managed to keep contact with me asking about my pregnancy etc, but even then, it's literally a single text message after like 3 or 4 months!!!!

Everybody seems wrapped up in their own lives, and you know what, I think, with our LO's on the way, I couldn't care less if they stay in touch or not. I'll have my own life to be busy with when their times come.

It's so true. People choose their lifestyles and unfortunately can't see themselves moving forward in their friendships when one of their friends drastically changes their life, by having a baby or getting married, etc.. they just can't adjust to the idea of things and feel better being ''with their own kind'' so to speak. They just can't possibly empathize or understand until they too go through the experience of it for themselves.

I don't think it has to be this way or is even a natural, normal thing. It just seems to be really common as I suppose they try to imagine hanging out with their friends after baby comes, and just don't see it being nearly as fun or like it used to be because baby now takes center stage and plans often revolve around baby or getting childcare for baby, etc..

It's a shame some decide to be this way, but in another way, it clears house for you to make new friends, perhaps ones with children themselves, and you can enjoy new connections with people who are very often in the same boat as you!

Hey huni aww bless ya it's awful isn't it!! The same has happened to me it turns out I only have a few real friends and I didn't call them my best friends before. But you know what I am worried about who will I chose to be the godparent I really don't have a clue. Hope your ok huni xxxx

I've had a similar problem with my so called 'best friend' over the past few months. Whenever we have met over the last year or so all she ever talks about is herself, her nights out and guys she's met. She never asks about me/my daughter.

Last time I saw her I listened to her stories for the best part of 2 hours. I offered a bit of info into how I was feeling as me and my partner had previously had a few problems but for the last six months or so we've been really happy (thought as a 'friend' she would like to hear that). The reaction I got was, 'thanks, that makes me feel really good about my life'. I mean how selfish can you get!!! She would obviously rather I be miserable just to make herself feel better.

Anyway, the final straw came just before xmas when she contacted me out of the blue to see if she could borrow a dress for her xmas party. I lent her one I got just before finding out I was pg which I've only worn once together with some jewellery. She broke both my necklace and bracelet and I still don't don't have my dress back - funnily enough I've not heard from her since. I'm sure next time she wants something she'll be in touch, and 'll swiftly tell her where to go!

iv been through that aswell my so called best friend always use to rub my nose in it cos i was a single parent with not a lot of money and living in a crummy flat, she had the house and husband, we stopped tlkin a few years ago summit her boy done, i invited her to my wedding just over a year ago, which she came, with her hubby, and then i invited her to our brand new house 2 stories, yes i must admit i was enjoying seeing her face as she had her house repossesed and now she lives in a house ( council ) there is nothing wrong with council my flat used to be council. in a shitty area, the look on her face and i was thinking ye all them times u rubbed my face in it, revenge is sweet, now i dont have nothing to do with her, my life has changed for the better and i dont need anyone like that

hey, feel ur pain, my oldest friend told me she no longer wanted me as her bridesmaid or even at her wedding as I wasn't able to go away on a weekend hen do in Newcastle (I live in Scotland) after my baby was born.....that makes me the worst person ever...

It makes her self centred & not the fiend I thought she was....her loss xx

You find that your circle of friends change when you have babies !! xx