In the UK, if the birth was registered befor September 2003 and the father is on the birth cert he has no rights so to say.
Any birth registered after this time with a named father on the cert the rights are fully equal.
If you leave the father off he has no rights to the child in a court of law.

I know this as i went through a lot of trouble with the father of my son who happened to be registered before it all changed.

Just checked, it is right. If he starts behaving then he can get a Parental Responsibility Agreement. I'd follow Aimee's advice and not put him on the certificate.

aww bless ya huni!! He is such a arsehole!! I think it is so nice to name your son after your grandads, you have carried him for 9 months huni and he is the one that chose to piss off so you have every right to call your son whatever you want!! And don't let him scare you huni am sure he won't be able to take him off you you his mum!! And I am sure you will be able to get something agreed where you have to be present when he is seeing your son especially if you don't trust him. If he was that bothered about seeing his son he would of tried to work through things with you so he can see his son when he wanted.

Hope your ok huni!!! big hugs Xxxxxxxxx

my OH got someone pregnant and they were never together, when the baby was born he went into the room after the labour and saw him and the arrangement they made before the baby came was that for the first month he would have to go to her house to see the baby becuase she didnt want him leaving her and then after that month we had him every weekend. i know its not the same - but after a few monhts she started getting really nasty and refused to let my OH see his kid - so he had to go to court and they were never togehterh or married but his name was on the birth certificate which gave him the parental responsibility and the court allowed him what he requested which was contact at our house ever wed night and every other weekend, but then she also agreed with this so it wasnt really anyone against anyone. i would suggest if you can to try and first of all decide if you are putting him on the birth certificate as that then gives him parental right and then secondly before the baby comes work out an arrangement of him being allowed to see the baby. im not sure what his rights would be if he took u to court if he wasnt on the birth certificate, but i do know the hole process takes forever!! xx

I know its harsh but if hes threatening to take the baby from you then leave him off the birth certificate and refuse a DNA test. Then he has no proof what so ever that the baby is his. Thats what i would do! x

Thanks for all the advice!!!
Its very appreciated.

I think I will leave him off the birth certificate. Im not sure how he will react to this though.

I will see how he acts and how he is in the 42 days I have before I have to register the baby, if no change then I will definatly not have his name on it.
If he sorts himself out and builds up that trust I will consider putting his name on the certificate.

One more thing, do you think I should tell him that I don't want him to be on the birth certificate, or should I just wait untill the time comes to register the baby, when I have decided what I want to do?

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I wouldn't tell him that you're thinking about keeping his name off of the birth certificate. It will only wind him up and could cause more problems and resentment. If he continues with his behaviour and you feel that you need to keep his name off it, then the purpose of doing so is not to hurt him, but to prevent future problems with him and Alfie.

If you tell him now, particularly in a heated conversation, then it turns it into something you're doing for revenge.

yeah i wouldnt tell him either, he's a bloke and will prob forget about it as well!! i think it will just cause more stress x

Seriously?? No disrespect but you're son has a right to know who is father is regardless of how much of an arsehole he's being and let's face it that IS what he's being. I think leaving him off the birth certificate is a bit extreme though.

Like you said his never hit you or been violent etc.. I think you're being a little petty over what seem's to me like an empty threat. Like the other ladies have said unless you're deemed as unfit there's no way he would stand a chance in getting full custody.. It's a sad truth that for some reason court systems prefer women when it come's to child matters (and believe me I know some women who shouldn't be allowed dogs nevermind children!) On the birth certificate or not that man is still you're child's father and nothing you do will change that.. Sorry if that sounds harsh but I think you're over-reacting

I will never let my son not no who his father is. Whether his name is on the birth certificate or not, I will always let him no who he is. As with, if I met another man, I will never let my son call him dad!
The only reason I would not put FOB name on the birth certificate is for his rights.
It may seem like an empty threat to you, but I suppose its just one of them things that you need to hear yourself. To me he sounded pretty serious.
Also, he may not of been voilent to me, but he is a violent person. He was a boxer for 10 years and I have seen him lash out. Just because he has never hit me bofore doesn't mean he isn't capable of doing so.

All i wanted was a bit of advice. I didn't want people judging what kind of person I am by not putting FOB name on the birth certificate. I may seem to be over reacting, but I just wanted to know what I am entitled to if this does go though court.
I don't know any laws on child rights, so I was just trying to get an answer in my head.
He has me awake most night scared! I just needed to clear my head thats all!