hi

im not sure if anyone else is going through the same thing but i am just fed up to the back teeth of my husband at the moment. i actually want to punch his head in, im sure the hormones are not helping.

i am fed up of never getting any help. he does NOTHING and i mean NOTHING around the house. he doesnt cook, he doesnt clean, he doesnt do washing, he doesnt clean up after the puppy nothing. he leaves it all to me. i just want a husband who actually gives a shit.

i am having a high risk pregnancy too as my daughter was stillborn and i still work part time. he did this to me when i was pregnant with my daughter offered no help and i was working ful time then.

i have come home early from work as i feel really rough and have bad indigestion and the place is a tip. he has left all his washing up for me, he hasnt tidied up after himself, the dogs havent been walked and they need to be walked every day or they play up they are a high energy breed, the poor dogs didnt even have water in their bowl and one of them is only 14 weeks old

im just so fed up of being treated like a door mat. why wont he help. i just wanted to come home and relax not spend an hour cleaning up. he is even been sat online today looking at porn whilst i was at work after 6 hours of bloody sleep and thats it.

i must be a mug to put up with this

sorry for the rant i just feel like i am going go to explode x

Didn't want to read and run, just sending hon. Maybe you need to get tougher with him?

awww hun sorry ur feelin low...my dp is out of work and jus sits on his bloody xbox!!!!!! i could quite happily throttle him....decoratin needs doin as we have onli lived here 3 weeks and he'd rather play on that...he doesnt no how 2 work the washin machine!! he hoovers once in a blue moon!!! thats it....i run round after kids and am 28 weeks preg....not havin the easiest of pregnancies either!!! i'm here if u wanna chat or rant lol xxx

So sorry he's making you go through all this! Sounds like he does need a good punch. Sorry can't give you any advice..

Oh hun, sorry to hear your having to put up with this. I get stroppy with my OH as although he helps its like I have to ask him to do stuff...he doesnt just do it...saying that if im out he will its more when im at home. I think its cause he knows if he doesnt do it I will...I have to give him credit tho he does cook and empty the bins etc.
Its frustrating tho, i sent my OH back to live at his mums when he lost his job...i was newly pregnant and hormonal, he was laying in bed till lunchtime and i was working a 45 hr week and paying for everything.
Do you get accused of nagging when you ask him to do something?
Id tell him if he doesnt sort himself out before baby is here he can find somewhere else to stay as you cant look after 2 children!
Hope it gets better hun xxxx

men!!! I was at the hospital yesterday with some bleeding and they wanted me to stay in for 24 hrs for the steriod injections, to have a bit of a rest and be observed. I begged them to let me home because it was so much hassle with my other children and told them i would go back this morning for the second injection. Well i thought my husband would look after me. He didnt i ended up doing all the things i normally do and was washing floors at 6am this morning. I was fuming, we had an argument and then he admitted something that he had done just to upset me. I couldnt believe he would do this things this morning of all mornings. They really have no clue what we go through. I hope things get better for you hun. I'm making sure my hubby had a vasectomy because after 4 kids im pretty sure i never want to do this again!

Oh poor you! I really think you need to tell him to shape up and stop acting like a teenager. If he won't then I recommend you put a password on the computer so he can't access it until he has done his chores!

Have you confronted him about this? You really shouldn't have to put up with his bullshit, doesn't matter whether you're pregnant or not.. a relationship can only work if both pull their weight, you need to get him to understand that. Good luck sweetie.

I know how you feel hun I sometimes feel like that myself. My fella will help out if I ask (eventually) but it takes so much effort to get him to do it I find it easier to do it myself! To be fair he does the odd bit of cooking and he works long hours but like you say, when your working yourself it can get on top of you.

I think the problem is they don't realise how much needs doing, either that or they just don't care about it getting done as much as we do! If its getting you down so much then maybe if you tell him how you feel he might try and help out a bit more?? Sorry I couldn't be more help!

Sorry to hear you're feeling so down hun.. Simple solution is to stop doing everything for him!!! And tell him if he wants he wants to eat.. COOK... If he wants the house looking nice.. CLEAN IT... If he wants it doing tell him to do it himself.. You're rest and wellbeing are more important than his needs. Sounds like his treating you like a slave!