I'd have the broadband cancelled, and swiftly kick him up the arse.

I agree with Bee26, tell him to shape up or ship out, as you can't be looking after 2 babies xx

Hun, i know EXACTLY how your feeling...My other half did nothing around the house, i had to do everything. Even when it came to putting the cot together & painting the bedroom, i was the one who did it because he wouldn't get his back-side off the computer & help. Then i told him i wanted him to start helping me, & even though i do have to really push him, he does help out now!!

Just have a word with him, & explain how he is making you feel & how you want him to start helping you...Put your foot down & tell him!!



Good luck
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thanks ladies really appreciate your support and so sorry to hear that some of you are having the same shit if not worse

we have had so many arguments about this its unreal. i am just so fed up now i have no energy to shout anymore, i feel so disapointed in him. just feels sometimes like everybody just bloody well lets you down. he is acting like a teenager. even today i said i would call the landline until he answered as he didnt have an alarm clock to wake him. 9.30 i ring about 5 times until he anwsers and he then give me a load of shit because apparently i rang too many times. i cant win.

its not just the housework with him but its one of the big problems. i am just starting to slowly hate him more and more at the moment. i feel like the only good thing he has ever given me is more daughters and even then i actually created them with my body!

i am going to tell him if he doesnt start acting more like a man im leaving. i cant be doing this with a baby too

thanks ladies xxx

AAAAAHH hunni, I'm sorry to hear your not getting any help.

I do know how you feel. I work a 40 hour week, get home clean up, cook dinner and wash up after (sometimes). My weekends are spent food shopping and more cleaning. My OH is not working, only a maximum of 2 days a week and that's not every week and the rest of the time he spends sitting on the computer. If I asked for long enough, eventually he would wash up or maybe sweep the floors, but it would take a lot of effort from me. AND WHY SHOULD I HAVE TO ASK!!!! he can see that there is a pile of dishes or that some washing needs doing. AND just to p**s me off a little bit more, he even has the cheek to sit there sometimes and say that the house is a mess and needs cleaning!!!!!! I need to say something, but I'm worried I'm gonna explode, and then I will end up feeling bad

Hope he sorts himself out soon hun....

Can I just say not all men are like this. He's either got depression and should see a doctor, or is being a c**k and needs a kick-up the derriere! You shouldn't stand for this, you shouldn't mummy him. He's man enough to bring a baby into this world then he's man enough to have some responsibilty.

U need to speak to him before u make yourself ill-you dont need 2 babies to look after- one thing that did work for me was i did nothing, i cooked for me, washed my clothes, and just did everything i need to to look after me- my OH lasted 3 days. We ended up having a really good chat about it all- and i managed to stay calm and explain that if he didnt think that the cleaning and food shopping and general life with mewas worth putting an effort into then neither did i. Sounds hash but i did point out i am now heavily pregnant and being someones maid was not high on my agenda-I also find my OH forgets im actually pregnant sometimes and we went to a friends and he went off down the pub- i hadn't eaten + had a really awful nights sleep the night before!!! NOT IMPRESSED!!!! Ended in a blazing row but i did tell him once LO is here- they are the most important thing and next time i will just go and leave him there!! Im not making our son wait while daddy finishes his pint as its more important!!

Sorry ive gone on to a rant as well!!!

Hope you get it sorted

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It must be hard but I think I would leave if things were like that. I don't work just look after my DD all day but she is not hard work. My OH goes to work all day and when he comes home he helps me with whatever needs doing here! If he sees I didn't do the dishes all day he will do them all when he gets home.. and he will look after DD or do other stuff if I ask him to, sometimes I feel guilty cause I am at home all day and could do all those things myself but he never complains or asks why the stuff is not done and we still have our moments but I can rely on him to help me. But what your OH does is out of order, if he is at home while you work then he should be doing at least some house work!! Or at least not create any more for you when you get home
As someone else has suggested, has he maybe got depression? It just doesn't sound right hope it will get better for you!

OMG, your OH sounds horrid! But maybe its just cos he doesnt know how you feel? have you tried talking to him? explaining it to him might help.or even as patronizing as this sounds, right a rota of things he can do to helpl..and ensure he understands the hapier he makes you ie helps out maybe the happier you'll make him in other ways?? x

If i were you i'd give him a kick up the arse and an ultimatum. As harsh as it sounds tell him if he doesn't start helping you out, he's out of the house. Or you can say that you'll go back to your parents because you've had enough of him not helping out. It's not fair on you and you shouldn't put up with it xx

Agreed on giving him an ultimatum. Under the circumstances, what he's doing is beyond over the top, and it seems the many arguments you've had are to no avail. That's just me, though...just don't think I could live with the resentments that would undoubtedly build over time with that continuing and him not listening despite repeated pleas for fairness in the relationship.

Agreed that it's not a ''man thing'' and wouldn't paint it in that way. He could be depressed, that's a possibility, but even if he were don't miscontrue that as a reason to allow his behavior to continue indefinitely.

You have to do what seems right for your situation in the end and only you know how much you're willing to put up with...can only tell you that it would be completely unacceptable for me anyhow. So sorry you're putting up with that kind of bullshit.