Well, i was just wondering how FOB has been through out your pregnancy ect..
+ for any second time moms, how was FOB first time round..

my FOB completly gone off the rails.. its like an on and off relationship
i hate it.. its like he doesnt know what he wants ...

depression runs in my family too, and ive been really feeling depressed through out my pregnancy, its more than just hormones.. i just dont feel as happy as i should

Aww sweetheart I'm sorry you're not having the best time...

Have you been together long? Do you live together?

My FOB has been fine actually, I expected him to be a little more wild than he has been (making the most of his freedom), but he is nearly 41 so I guess we both got it out of our system before we got pregnant! (I'm 32 BTW)

My big brother went off the rails a bit when his girlfriend got pregnant, in your shoes I'd probably want to strangle him...

we did live together, then his mom wanted me to go when i fell pregnant..

thing is hes going over the top.. like hes cheated, and everythink.. otherday told me he doesnt love me + that he staying with me because im pregnant..
then he says he likes his space he likes to be alone.. and then next breath he loves me! i dont know what to do im so scared and feel so alone

that is a stress u dont need hunny! men r far more detached than us during pregnancy. it's like they dont believe it is happening. i wanted 2 strangle my oh earlier as i said i had a really sharp pain in the ribs and all he said was that i am always moaning and what's new. i had 2 walk away as i felt like bashing him over the head with a saucepan but the kids were there so i had 2 control myself me hormonal? yes! i hope he sorts out what he wants. he needs 2 either make a commitment 2 u or decide 2 call it a day as all this stress is so not good 4 u hope things improve

Thankz hun

My OH was similar the first time round. I was only 17 and he was 18. We broke up loads of times during the pregnancy, he even went missing for a week (as it happened I ended up in hospital with a kidney infection that week).To be honest looking back I think he was scared and really immature. But at the time I hated him for it. He had a lot of growing up to do. This time round he has been great.

Try not let yourself get down about it.

Hope everything works out

My OH hasn't been himself through this pregnancy either. Its our first. it was great during the beginning, but now he is being beyond selfish. I try to talk to him about it but it doesnt do much. I know he loves me But i feel like he is trying to get every thing he can because of the baby. like he thinks he is never going to get any time or freedom or any new things because of the baby. I hope this selfish jealousy thing ends soon. I only have 9 weeks left and im hoping he pulls his head out. I hope he figures out what he wants you dont need the stress its not good for you or baby.

Believe you me, my OH/FOB still acts like this now and I'm a day overdue, he thinks playing pool and going to pub is more important than when im sat in hospital. Im just hoping after ive had LO he steps up to being a dad a bit more. One minute hes like don't contact me I dont want to know you, and the next its im sorry i was stressed etc. Mine cheated 2 weeks after conception and since has valued me more as a partner which has been lovely, though the stress has been immense. Especially as i'm scared of going into labour and him being drunk in a pub somewhere. Im 19 and hes 20 btw x

Awwww hugs to you girls xxx

Mine has gone back and forth between total asshat and sweet darling father to be. The asshat stuff started when the morning sickness eased off and continued through most of the 2nd trimester. Once I started getting really huge though he's getting better each day. It seems like he suddenly realized he's about to be a dad and started acting the part. Lately he's been great. It takes some men longer than others for it all to be real to them. There were definitely moments where I thought I was going to have to leave him because I couldn't imagine having a baby with him being such a jerk to me. I am glad I didn't give in to those thoughts now though.

My ex didn't get the picture until he actually held baby. Before baby came he acted like I wasn't even pregnant and refused to help with tasks I couldn't do. He made me change the litterbox through the whole pregnancy myself and once left me stranded for 2 hours broken down on the side of the road in the snow (8mths pregnant!) because he *forgot* my car broke down. He ended up being an amazing dad though. He just didn't take it seriously until he actually saw the baby in front of him.

My current DH is progressively getting more and more excited a bit earlier than my ex did. It's been a nice surprise to actually have someone insist I sit down when I have a sharp pain somewhere. No one has ever cared about that stuff with me before.

I would say give it a little time... don't give up on him until you see what he's like once baby gets here. And as much as it may seem like your hormones aren't effecting your emotions, I promise you they are to some degree. You may have issues with depression outside of pregnancy normally but pregnancy takes it all to a higher degree than what you would feel without all those extra hormones in your system. I have never had a real problem with depression before yet I think I cried for 4 months straight when I got pregnant. I still have days where I just can't stop crying and have no idea why I'm doing it.

Best bet is to not make any decisions regarding baby's dad until pregnancy is over with to avoid any possibility of regretting it later. That is of course as long as he doesn't cheat, drink/do drugs heavily, or get violent. Those are immediate deal breakers.