Hi all please excuse me if a ramble on and this doesnt make much sense but there is so much to explain.Ive been an emotional wreck over this and dont know what else to do.

Ok first off as some of you may know my BF and i have legal custody of his 2 sons aged 4 and 8 and have done for 2 and a half years now.
They were neglected severely and were discovered in the most appalling conditions imaginable-to give an example which is recorded.....the youngest was found to be drinking from a toilet as they were left on their own for most days.Anyway they were placed with me and my BF and she wasn't prosecuted as they were then deemed safe.

So in theory have brought them up as my own and love them just as much as they were. They still see their mum quite often and this week they have had the whole week with her as they are off school etc.

Anyway i had a knock on the door yesterday and it was 2 police officers from a childrens unit a man and a woman. They were really nice to me and explained that i needed to be arrested on alleged assault charges on the boys from a date in the previous week in an incident where i placed them on the naughty step after they were messing about.In other words their mum has made more of this situation and has made a complaint to social services who even after the neglect wanted to place them back with her!!

So i had to go to the police station and was given my rights etc,had to get searched and all the other routine things they do,fingerprints,dna,mugshot,made to feel like a criminal etc etc
I got questioned on tape etc and at the end the officers said there is no further action and stated that they think it is all fabricated and a waste of their time.
Anyway we are supposed to get the boys back on sunday but now their mum has said that she is not giving them back etc and we phoned the boys earlier and it seems like she is putting words into their heads and coaching them as they didnt want to talk to their dad which is breaking our hearts as we know that they must be going through some severe mental/psychological things right now.
Their mum is desperate to get them back as it would give her more money as she gets income support due to depression etc......we do not gain financially at all(benefits/tax credits)by having them here.
Anyway social services are being their useless self again and not communicating with the police that there is no case to investigate etc and wont help us in any way.We now have to wait until monday when our solicitor gets on the case. Next week we also know that she will be applying for an interim residence order! if she gets that we may not get them back for months......but then there is no case to investigate for her to have the right to that.
I hope this makes sense. I have been wasted the last couple of days over this and cant stop crying/sobbing/getting angry. Last night i had some pains under my bump which were quite regular which i hadn't had before and all last night and this morning i hadn't felt any movement so went to the hospital today for 3 hours to be monitored and LO's heartbeat is fine thankfully but seriously......how much more can i take!!
Does anyone else have experience of the crap social service system we have here, they have failed us time and time again

This is just a nutshell of everything but just wanted to vent.

Oh my god, so sorry my dear you must be so upset. I know social services as great as they are sometimes can just down right piss you off too, they're very difficult where I live aswell. You're in my prayers, and hopefully you can get them back sooner than a couple of months from now! My thoughts are with you.

I hope it gets worked out soon and you get the boys back in your custody quickly.

You poor thing! I really hope things get sorted out for you and the boys very quickly! I can't even imagine how hard this must be for you.

Oh my goodness! That's a lot of drama in a short amount of time! His ex is obviously using the children to get back at him. They will have the emotional scars later on because of this womans selfishness. Now you have to spend your income on a solicitor etc. That is just horrible. I am sure you wish this woman would just disappear. Well, I am sure it will be an easy case for your solicitor if he just looks at her past recorded behaviour.Unfortunately at this time there is nothing more you can do.You need to take care of yourself and your unborn little one. It is just the frustration that is getting to you. Have a nice bubble bath and try to unwind. Hope things would get resolved as soon as possible. Take care!

I don't know what to say but want to send you . I hope everything works out in your favor for the boys. Sounds like a very complicated situation and you are doing everything you can do. Try not to stress yourself out too much as it's not good for the baby.

I'm so sorry! I can't believe that happened, what a..well, you know! I hope y'all get the boys back ASAP! I don't know what y'alls social services system is like, but my parent's used to run a home for abused/neglected kids and the system here sucks too...be praying for ya!

ah hun im so sorry for what ur having to go through, surely it doesnt make sense to leave them with this woman. stupid social services. hope everything works out hun xxx

I'm sorry you had to go through that.. I hope the situation gets sorted out soon

Im so sorry you have to go through all this... As well as the children... I hope everything works out