toriaaaaTRASH

She keeps telling me she's the only one that'll know what's going on etc.. Well, maybe my mum and Rich don't know that stuff because if we knew everything certain things would panic me?!

Kooky

Oh for GOD sake!! Ignore her. There will be a midwife in the room does she really think she will be the only one who knows what to do? From the posts ive read on the information she has given you so far, i'd say she doesnt have a clue, no offence.
The midwife will tell you everything you need to know.

amy_tea

I know it's hard to tell her to not come because she'll most probably be offended but at the end of the day labour is going to be a messy job, and i'm pretty sure seeing visitors while you're still covered in gunk and smell like you've never been washed for a year, isn't the most pleasant thing to experience in the first hour of Caitlyn's life.

Maybe just explain to her as nicely as possibly that you would rather get all cleaned up and freshened up and then she can come see you and the baby. Labour is personal and when you have you're girl with you you'll need to snatch a few minutes of quality time with your new family before the visitors come in flocks.

As long as you make no exceptions (not including your mum) there is no reason for her to be offended as you are not singling her out in particular.

Hope she understands hun.

Tezzy

i agree with kooky.. the last thing you need is some trainee midwife trying to take charge. for a start the midwives will probably end up asking her to leave the room!

trust me hun... the midwives at the hospital will explain everything you need to know to you

toriaaaaTRASH

Yeah, I have noticed she does pretend to know stuff when she doesn't. I'm going to just tell her I don't want her there. Otherwise I'll just be stressed at the time and that's not going to be good atall.

Rach & Bumpy

Whether she gets pissy or not, it's your time! You are giving birth to your baby girl and have a right to say who you do and who you don't want in there with you.

Tell her straight, if she reacts badly, so what?! You've got more important things on your mind hun and you need to do whats right for you.

I'm only having my mum in the room with me... Justin my OH doesn't want to be there, he can't even watch it on the tv or even hear it. He'll just pass out and miss the whole thing anyway

fifi83

How many people can you have in the delivery room at your hospital? Just thinking its only 2 at ours if it was only 2 at yours you could say you can only have 2 in the room which is your mum and rich.

toriaaaaTRASH

Yeah ours is 2 aswell, which is another reason I have to get rid of 1 of them! Obviously I want Rich to be there and I need my mum there, I know I do. So, that only leaves one more person to cut out lol

Kooky

Sorted

Ratty

Personally I don't even want my hubby there. Its a moment when you are going to act and look at your worst. I don't want people seeing me all bloody, stressed, tired etc. I prefer to look like that on my own.

I can't really say to my hubby that he can't be there as its his child and a very special moment for him so he will be the only exception. Everyone else including my mom-in-law will just have to deal with the fact that I don't want them there. My mom-in-law can wait outside and be there for my OH, but she won't be able to come see me and baby until I'm ready.

Its your moment and you must feel as comfortable as you possible can. If that means hurting your friends feeling, so be it. This is all about you and your baby, no one else!!!!