Abbys_Mummy

Ok so today not only am i in a hell alot of pain but i`m feeling so lonely and my OH does really not care at all it makes me wonder why the hell i`m still with him he drives me nuts sometimes i cant stand him touching me all he ever seems to want from me is sex i`m seriously thinking about leaving i guess the only thing that is keeping me here is we have so many bills i know we have together but not that i`m bringing much into the house but i feel if i left i would be been a total cow and i`m not that person and another reason is i don`t want my little girl growing up wondering why her mummy and daddy don`t live together like all the other mummys and daddys i don`t know what to do or how i really feel i just want to cry and scream.

Sorry for the long rant

toriaaaaTRASH

I hated my OH in the first tri. I didn't want him anywhere near me. I can safely say, that was hormones.

Abbys_Mummy

we have been on and off like this since the start i feel so awefull i don`t want to make a wrong decision and make my baby girls life harder than it should be

Uvlollypop

i hope things get better soon

Ratty

Your reasons for sticking with him are not very good ones (I'm not saying this in a nasty way). A child is better off with one happy parent than two unhappy ones. Saying that, don't make ANY decisions until a while after baby is born. Its probably just your hormones playing with you and once you are past the first few months after birth then all will be well again.

As for your partner always seeming to want sex, I've got the same problem. I think men are just very insecure when we don't want it and battle to understand that its just because of all the changes our bodies are going through and not because we are not attracted to them anymore.

And I'm sure your OH does care, he probably just doesn't understand !!!

elliebaby

I hated my OH in the 1st tri too. I felt so sick and my boobs were so sore I couldn't bear to have him near me and it felt like all he wanted was sex and I thought he was so selfish and unsympathetic.

But, that passed. Like toriaaatrash says, a lot of it was hormones and, more importantly, I talked to him and explained how I felt. He's not exactly one of these men who is in touch with his emotions and he finds talking like that pretty uncomfortable, but it helped in the end and he backed off. Then, when I was ready to start getting close to him again, I soon let him know!

Can you talk to your OH about how you are feeling? Perhaps he is feeling rejected and that is making him try even harder to get close to you? I don't know, its just a suggestion. Its so hard to get the ball rolling, but once you have started talking it can be very healing for both of you.

You're really going to need each other soon when the LO arrives, don't start off feeling so negative toward each other.

Big to you

jen1604

Hi hon.I know what you're going through.If your relationship has been a bit on/off anyway then the strain of the baby and your hormones are not going to be helping.This is a HUGE change for you both especially if your relationship wasnt the most stable to start.I dont mean that to sound like I'm criticising,my relationship with my OH has been exactly the same. What I always do when I feel like I want to walk out is consider how I would feel without him..not how I would cope with the baby (because you would) or how I would cope with money but how I would feel emotionally if I didnt have him by my side.Right now youre probably only thinking about money and baby and not focusing on why you guys are together in the first place..I have a feeling this was a bit of a long and useless post but hope you can get a lil bit of help from it.X

toriaaaaTRASH

I think you should wait untill she's here untill you make any decisions. I've been so up and down while I've been pregnant. Me and Rich havn't been the same atall. We've both changed in so many ways. We're dealing with it, well trying to, and we hope it'll work. You should talk to your OH about how you're feeling though

Abbys_Mummy

thanks ladies we were fine before i feel pregnant we both have been through so much before and during this pregnancy and i guess i have been alot more emotional than him as i lost my daughter not even a yr ago and not being 100% sure about the health of this baby has made things hard but in saying all that we have talked and things stay fine for a week or 2 then we go back to fighting but yer i start it so i would probably say its my emotions sorry for tha long post again and thanks for your advice

toriaaaaTRASH

I start it most the time too. I've become so picky now.