I feel soooooooo fed up, we have only had sex once since our bfp and ive really tryed, we never kiss or hug any more, every night its the same thing sitting on diffrent sofas not really taking them him falling asleep at 8pm!! any free time he has is spent on rugby so we never do anything together just feels like hes not bothered any more dont know what to do I cant talk to him about it because he just thinks im being silly.

A family friend is being laid to rest tomorrow and his mum ha asked me to go along with them all but hes saying that if i go then he will have to drive and cant have a drink so i can stay at my mums tonight ( on the sofa ) im like oh thats nice WTF he wants me to stay out for the night just so he can hae a drink tomorrow???????? OH I LOVE YOU TOO!!!

Do you think im being silly or have reason to be upset?

sorry to rant

aww hun, just wanted to send some hugs you need to have a serious sit down with him and explain how you feel. Your defo not being silly xx

Maybe he's just frightened of doing something to harm the baby, we had a m/c early last year and my oh was terrified of coming near me in case it was something he'd done. Hopefully all will be well once lo is here xx

No you're not being silly! I have become much more insecure and needy since being big pregnant I can't imagine him being like that it would send me into a spiral and break my heart! Definately sit him down and tell him that he is making you feel bad...it's hard enough being pregnant with everything changing all over the place without having to worry about the person you love.... good luck and big hugs feel better soon!

you should really sit down talk to him about the drinking he shouldnt choose drinking over u . ive had this trouble with my oh 2 over drinking and being selfish over it and we have sorted it now. unless u tell him he wont know he is upsetting u.

over the sex thing some men find it all abit strange and dont want 2 hurt baby and things lol.

me and my oh are like that too, in my case it's actually my fault because i'm the one with no sex drive a cuddle would be nice though. the couple of times we did it (around 20 weeks then at 40 weeks) it really hurt and was incredibly awkward, didn't realise how big the bump was til then.

xx

Firstly, I don't understand why you have to stay at your mum's for him to go out tomorrow? I'm confused!

Secondly, assuming you know this family friend you have every right to go to the funeral and pay your respects. If you want to go (rather than go just because your OH's mum has asked you to go) then your OH should respect that and 'sacrifice' a couple of drinks! Talk to him and tell him he's bein selfish.

Finally, re your feelings you really need to sit down and talk to him. DH and I went through a major 'dry' spell due to my own loss of interest. As 'unusual' as it might sound, men can lose interest too. Not because they don't love their partners or don't find them attractive but I know a lot of men find the thought of dtd whilst their partners are pregnant a bit "weird". If that's the case then I can pretty much guarentee it won't be permanent and most likely has nothing to do with how he feels for you. Have you shown interest? When my libido returned I got upset as DH didn't appear to be interested but as I had been off it for so long, he didn't want to put pressure on me and he's not a mind reader! Maybe your OH assumes that you won't be interested? Either way, you need to talk to him Hun.

Firstly, I don't understand why you have to stay at your mum's for him to go out tomorrow? I'm confused!

Secondly, assuming you know this family friend you have every right to go to the funeral and pay your respects. If you want to go (rather than go just because your OH's mum has asked you to go) then your OH should respect that and 'sacrifice' a couple of drinks! Talk to him and tell him he's bein selfish.

Finally, re your feelings you really need to sit down and talk to him. DH and I went through a major 'dry' spell due to my own loss of interest. As 'unusual' as it might sound, men can lose interest too. Not because they don't love their partners or don't find them attractive but I know a lot of men find the thought of dtd whilst their partners are pregnant a bit "weird". If that's the case then I can pretty much guarentee it won't be permanent and most likely has nothing to do with how he feels for you. Have you shown interest? When my libido returned I got upset as DH didn't appear to be interested but as I had been off it for so long, he didn't want to put pressure on me and he's not a mind reader! Maybe your OH assumes that you won't be interested? Either way, you need to talk to him Hun.