I don't know if its just me but sicne i woke up first thing this morning ive done nothing but cry, like really sob , tears wont stop coming. I have been excited for the birth not even worrying about pain or nothing, but since this morning ive all over a sudden got into my head i cant be a mum, i dont think im ready and im really scared, i dont wana get called a bad mum and im terrified that because i suffer from depression in the past that i may be prone to post natal. im really scared and dont no what to do, i feel guilty for feeling this way coz i do love the baby but i dont think i can do this.i dont want to speak to my midwife because ive had a different midwife everytime ive gone to the doctors so dont have a relationship with her. i just dont think il be able to take the baby on, i act so childish myself so how can i be responsible for a new born baby, her life depends on me!

It's natural to be worried. But i'm sure you're going to be a fantastic mum. Just wanted to give you a hug.

xxx

everyone goes through this stage, it will just make you feel stronger in the long run. you will be fine, just look at your nursery!! all full to the brim of beautiful things for lo arrival. i still have thoughts like that and my daughter is 15mths old!! but i wouldnt be normal if i didnt question her up bringing. sounds like your getting itchy feet and just want to meet her and its dangerous to be alone with your thoughts sometimes as minds play horrid tricks and makes you think of daft things. hope you feel better soon xxxx

Hiya hun *hugs*

Ive suffered from depression as well since I was 14. Don’t really want to go into heavy details on here, but being pregnant has dragged it all up again for me. Most of the time I cant tell if Im actually depressed or if Im just hormonal, so I never feel like I should bother my midwife. I think you should definitely mention it to someone. If you can prevent PND then it’s best to do so. If you don’t feel like you can talk to a midwife, do you have a GP or health visitor you know and feel you can talk to? Its best to get it in the open hun. Maybe take your mum or partner with you for moral support.

Having a baby is a big change in your life and it sounds like you’re probably just getting cold feet… Its like before you get married… Ive heard loads of women say ‘I don’t know if I can do this!’ because it’s such a big change, but they’ve gone through with it and realised that it was the best thing they could have done. I bet you that 99% of the ladies on here who have had babies have had exactly the same thoughts as you have running through their heads.

Also, once your LO is here it’s not weak to ask for help. Do you have family and friends around you? Im sure there would be someone who could help you if you asked them… even if its just that you’ve run out of bread and can’t get to the shops or something like that. If you’ve got a good support network don’t be scared to use it!

I’m sure you’ll be a brilliant mum hun, I really feel for you because I know how nasty depression can be. If you need to talk to anyone send me a message

Hope you feel better soon.

xxx

Ahh hun it's only natural to worry and I think the fact that you are worried proves you'll be a great mum. You wouldn't care otherwise. I'm 28 and our baby was very much planned, but there are times when I think 'shit'!!! What we’re going through is HUGE! You’ll be just fine!

You are going to be a fab Mum. You wouldn't be normal if you didn't worry. All that worrying only goes to make you an even better Mum

By the way.... getting really hormonal at the end, can signal that things are about to get going.

I have suffered from depression in the past so was quite wary, I was very teary in the weeks leading up to the birth too. I read another post where you went into a little more detail, so I think you're very right to be wary. Just remember that a few days to a few weeks of tearyness is normal (baby blues) and even after that I had my days of feeling down one minute and very positive the next - you are going through a lot of changes in such a short space of time, so remember to take it easy and not put too much pressure on yourself.

I know all of that is so easy for me to say now, but I too felt very judged by everyone at first.. "am I doing it right?", "They're thinking im a bad mum" etc etc.. give it a few months and you will be fine and a LOAD more confident.

If you feel more down than expected, speak to your doctor as im sure there is loads of help out there and remember we are all here if you need some advice or just a shoulder to cry on.

You will make a great mum im sure, don't worry..