NO u are not being selfish or a bitch hun. Now as this is my first i dont know what to expect or how i will feel, but mu OH family havent really had much to do with the pregnancy no help, nothing. Maybe how are you but thats it, and i too expect they will all want to be involved when the LO arrives and i think i will probably react like you if they was to turn up unannounced with no invite. They have done it already i am sure me having just had or baby would not stop them or make them think i need some rest for a few days and get used to the MASSIVE thing that has just happened.
This happened when my mum had just had my brother, i remember it well, i was about 13 i think and my mums partners family came round, his mum, dad, sister,brother in law, brother, his wife, there 3 kids, his niece, and they stayed for rather along time. My mum was absolutely shattered and it just wasn't fair of them. She has literally got back from the hospital when the door bell rang. I think its really inconsiderate and you have every right to be upset. My mum certainly was and i think after 3 hours she asked them to leave. It is totally upto you when you are ready for visitors. xx

I definitely dont think you are being out of order at all ! I cant believe the cheek of them all turning up and wanting to be waited on hand and foot - thats disgusting!

This is our first baby so need idea what I am going to be like after the birth but will certainly be setting some ground rules about visiting!! In fact I know we wont have any impromptu visits from MIL cos would you believe it...she wants us to go to her!! Guess again love!

I do not blame you... that is precious time for you, OH, baby and siblings. You will need your rest, not stress. Do what works for you, it's not like you're saying that they can't come round for six months!! xx

I cant say much that hasnt been said hun. You said something about his family not caring much during your pregnancy. My husbands family have made little to no effort for me this entire pregnancy and that is after losing a baby (1st tri) in february. So you would think I would get a few "how are you"s but my SIL didnt ask me how i was until I was 25 weeks pregnant and hasnt asked since. she has now decided she wants nothing to do with my husband and me over a fb comment (childish) so if she tries to butt in after being such a royal b*tch to me during pregnancy, I will make it known she is unwelcome. I told my husband that if people didnt care about me and the baby while he was in me, then they are not welcome when he is here. Simple. I said it is like winning the lottery, people want to come out of the woodwork all of a sudden. But that is just ridiculous, each person will be as much a part of our life after bubs is born as they are now. So treat them as they are always treated... which is presumably, if they want to visit they need to schedule time that is convenient for all of you

Yes you're being a bitch, but with good reason!!! I think I would've swung for the lot off them if that happenend to me. Don't put up with it, put your foot down and tell them if they want to visit then they will have to make their own tea/coffe etc and to leave the sodden dog at home, If they're not happy then they know where the door is!!!
You take care of yourself and the little one, that is your priority!!!!

Jackie you need to do what feels right, even if it does make you feel selfish - it's not like we are supposed to please everybody else all the time Your first priority is your baby right now, that's so far from selfish. You are an adult and you'll find the right, more political way to do as you see fit without making everybody upset. You can say something like they are keeping you in the hospital longer or the baby got a little cold and the doctors asked for no visitors for a couple of days/weeks etc. There are tons of ways you can let them down easy without any hurt feelings and still get exactly what you need. It's not selfish at all, just the reality of things xxx

I'm the complete opposite. His parents will wait patiently when all I want them to do is just be waiting outside the door!! and my mum will more than likely follow us to hospital!! LOL

Dunno what to do really. Just gonna play it by ear

no one came to visit me when i was in the hospital (i would have prefered that), but as soon as i got home i didnt even get chance to feed the baby and they were all their. im not going to lie to them, i just want 2 days (the day i come home and the following day) where it is just me, dh, baby and my 2 sons i was even asked if it was ok for us to have the rottweiler over night, which obviously never happened.. i just dont want a repeat performance this time. i continued to have visitors more or less everyday all day for the next 2 weeks, they would always just sit their.. if i needed to feed the baby i had to go to my bedroom and leave who ever was here sitting in the livingroom. i also ended up with depression and refuse to let that happen this time.

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Oh dearie, I feel for you. I am now pregnant with my first, but have had 3 miscarriages in the last 2 years. My mom has always been there for me, and has done so much for us. She will be in the room with me and hubby when i give birth. But as far as everyone else goes...Maybe a few SHORT visits from MIL and whoever else while still in hospital...like a half hour tops. but once we are home I expect 2-3 days alone.

I would have lost it on all those people. i WOULD HAVE TAKEN THE BABY TO MY BEDROOM, CLOSED THE DOOR, AND LOCKED IT! I cannot stand when people are so disrespectful. And its not like you had a natural birth, you had an emergency section. You need more rest after something like that than normal, not to mention the mental effects it has on a person. This time if they show up and won't leave, i would just go to where they cannot follow, leave OH to deal with his family!!