horrorheart13

I'm so sore and tired and sad today

First OH and I went out to eat with his dad and afterwards we went to the mall looking for something OH wanted. All the walking made my bump so sore. It was as if my abdominal muscles couldn't cope with holding my uterus or something. Then my tailbone started to hurt really bad. And OH was acting like I was being whiney. But tbh it really fucking hurts! On top of that I didn't get anything done that I wanted to today, I can't find my sketchbook, which has all my favorite and most important drawings in it (It's probably in my car but I don't have the energy right now to search my trunk for an hour), and my apartment is trashed and I don't have the energy to clean it

All that and when we went to the gas station that we go to nearly everyday, the girls marvelled at my bump (which felt nice) and told us what a cute couple we were. But for some reason the cute couple comment just made me sad. Because we seem like we're happy from the outside but in reality OH is such a closed off prick most of the time.

I'm really getting fed up with him never doing anything nice for me. Not one kind gesture. Not the tiniest thing. He won't even hug me in public and constantly makes "jokes". Like when I tell him I love him, he says "No you don't". Haha. Hilarious. And last night he told me I had forgotten to turn off the kitchen light when I got into bed (he wasn't in bed yet) so I said I'd turn it off when I had to pee next (which, of course would be within the next 10-15 minutes). He goes into the kitchen to get a drink, passes right by the light switch, so I get up, say something like "You were just in here, you couldn't have turned it off?" And he said "NUH UH! You never turn off lights for me." WTF? The tinest of nice gestures and he can't even do that. I love him to death but I feel like I'm the only one in this relationship with any loving feelings anymore.

I really don't know if when the time somes to move into our bigger apartment before I have the baby if I want to go with him now. I just don't see it being a very good situation having a baby and having to deal with a fiance who can't show love in the least bit. He wasn't always like this and it started before the pregnancy.

When I was pregnant the first time (miscarriage) he was so so happy. This time when we found out, we fought.

I just feel like shit today. And it always seems to happen the same day every week where I just feel awful.

Sorry this was so so long. I just needed to get this off my chest. I don't have anyone else to talk to

toriaaaaTRASH

My OH is being a dick too. Then he's on about getting a place together yada, yada. Whatever, asif I could bring a baby into what we have right now. We're so up and down the baby would just know. I guess some guys freak out when they realise they're actually going to have a little dependant person in their life. I hope he fixes up before he gets here. Then again, it might take untill he holds your little boy for him to realise what a dick he's being. We can only hope they'll sort themselves out on d-day.



Off topic but I just noticed your due date is what I want my babies date of birth to be! 04/06/08

horrorheart13

That's what I told him! I can only hope that he changes his tune when D-day comes.


That's weird! Why June 4th?

charlottecco2

oh i'm sorry to hear this, as you read in my post. i am having a shit day too. And i know what you mean about the kind gestures. Even if he offered to get me a drink when he gets himself one, i would be happy. It always seems i am running around after him and he never does anything to help me out. Like this week i have been really busy, so he said he would do the food shopping, which i normally always do. Yet 5 days later he still hasn't been, and i've just ended up going hungry as i haven't had the energy to do.
He just says he has been busy and hasn't had time to do it. well he finished at 4pm today and has just got home now at 1am. Drunk as i expected. He told me he would be home at 5pm, well he could have gone food shopping and done something for me, rather than go out like a wanker.
I'm just so mad.
I'm also not allowed to moan about any pregnancy problems because like your OH he just tells me i'm whining and gets annoyed.
I would love him to be actually sympathetic about something, i have to put up with him moaning day in and day out. grrrrrrr MEN!!
I hope you feel better soon, not sure i will till i've given birth xx

horrorheart13

I know what you mean. It seems that you, me, and toria have all been having a shit day. and I don't think it'll get much better till LO's arrive either

BurtonBaby

Oh girls, I'm sorry you are all having such shitty days! Men can be real jerks, especially when they are nervous or anxious, and just about every new parent is nervous. Not giving them an excuse, because they sound like jerks, but maybe if you sat them down and told them how you feel?

It sounds like you each need to get your men the belly and make them wear it around non stop! Then they would see just what the extra weight does to us. Let alone having a kid kick us in the ribs, constantly needing to pee, being hormonal. Your men need a reality check about whats caring and loving, how are they going to treat LO??

Hope your days get better girls, go do something nice for youself!

anita665

My bump hurts when I walk for too long too but men don't seem to understand. It's like they think it couldn't possibly hurt to carry all that extra weight!

DoobyJu

I really feel for all you ladies who are having a rough time with your O/H, my husband has been an absolute treasure. I do sometimes wonder if he is actually human!! He waits on me hand and foot, does all the cooking and housework and never goes to the pub or out with his mates. He has done a wonderful job decorating the nursery. He also puts up with me stealing all of the bed and covers.
I do hope things improve for those who are suffering with unkind or uncaring chaps, fingers crossed they are all just a bit jittery about becoming dads.
BIG HUGS TO YOU ALL.
Julie
xxx

BurtonBaby

I'm really lucky too actually. DH has been amazing to me this whole time. He had a hard time understanding in the beginning, but since I talked to him about it, hes be great! He does anything I need or want him to do, he doesn't go out to the bars or anything like that, he always makes me lay on the couch with my feet up, and everyday runs a bubble bath for me. He does a lot to make sure I'm comfortable, and I am lucky for that. I wasn't trying to sound like my DH is a jerk, lucky for me, we went thru that phase a couple years ago. I feel so lucky that I have him here with me, I dont think I could do it without his love and support.

amy_tea

Hope you, toria and charl get some nicer treatment sometime soon. You all deserve so much better than what you are getting!

I hope he realises that you'r carrying something precious sometime soon, its the most life changing thing that is happening to the both of you. Not just YOU. He needs to live up to his responsibilities which also includes looking after you.

Try to take it easy hun, your little one needs you in good health. I hope you feel better soon

xxx