Pregnancy - Third Trimester

charlottecco2 · Mar 28th, 2008, 22:07 PM

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Originally Posted by danielle7449

Hi Charlotte, I read your post and can sympathize. My OH is never here to support me either, I have been lonely throughout my pregnancy and am now 32 weeks and facing the prospect of going it alone now. In some ways I feel stronger thinking about going it alone. Every time my OH is involved I feel more stressed and emotionally drained.

Try to keep optimistic though hun, life has a funny way of working itself out. Whatever life throws at us a baby is a blessing no matter what the circumstances.

thanks danielle thats really sweet. It just really annoys me that he is totally oblivious to the stress he causes me, i put up with so much of his crap. But he is never understanding with me. I wouldn't put up with half of this if i weren't pregnant. I just want to be loved

x

charlottecco2 · Mar 28th, 2008, 22:13 PM

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Originally Posted by JennyOwens

Please don't feel bad - its normal to feel a bit hormonal and stressed - babies are a huge life-changing event. It would probably be more weird if your OH was acting like nothing had even happened! Have you spoken to him about how you are feeling? I think that with all the hormones flying round we sometimes have to cut them [the men] a bit of slack and tell them how we are feeling rather than expecting them to be mindreaders!

The university stuff can't be helping though - have you spoken to your tutor? Can you get any more help? Delayed deadlines...etc?

Don't appologise for the rant - we all need to let off steam!

yeah your right hormones don't help. I have spoken to my university but unfortunately they are not all that understanding, i'm just another figure on paper.
I'd be okay if i felt like i had support, but right now i really don't. i know i'm just having a down day. I'm just fed up of being made to feel worthless, (without him even realising thats what hes doing).
I'll just be glad when i have uni out the way, i think i'll go and visit my family in yeovil, somerset and spend some time with my friends. That will help.
Thank you xx

charlottecco2 · Mar 28th, 2008, 22:19 PM

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Originally Posted by alteasdale

You are certainly anything but fat and ugly... But i do understand how you feel.

I'm sorry you're feeling down, i wish you lived a little nearer then i could give you a little company. It hard going through all these changes on your own. Have you tried talking to you OH about it? i know you probably have, but keep talking to him till he realizes that you need his support right now. It's his child as well.

you're a really sweet person and deserve better treatment than what he is giving you now.

Try not to stress too much as your little boy needs you. I hope he is ok and all healthy. I hope the kidney problem isn't too serious and its something that can be fixed. We will all be here for you

Chin up chuck :-)

Thanks honey thats really sweet, i really wish you lived closer. I could really do with a pregnant friend that understood how i was feeling. A lot of things change when you are pregnant and men just don't understand that. And male company is all i have right now.

I always try and tell him how i feel but it either goes in one ear and out the next or it causes an arguement. Like he promised he wouldn't stay out late again drinking after he did it last 2 weeks ago. But where is he right now??? Who knows!!

I know he is stressed out with money worries and needs time to chill. But so do I. and him doing stuff like this does not help me chill. I just want him to hug me and make me feel loved.
Damn hormones,

xx

Samantha675 · Mar 28th, 2008, 22:26 PM

I am so sorry you are feeling so down love!

leeanne · Mar 28th, 2008, 22:33 PM

Gosh, people, have you seen her pictures!? She is beautiful and has a fab figure with a lovely bump!

Honestly, you are beautiful!

I am so sorry that you feel that way. I live away from my family and have a real good friend that I don't see that much, so I feel quite alone at times. Especially during my first pregnancy. My OH and I had our times back then and I cross it off to OH having to adjust. He's matured and gained so much patience since then.

After your baby is born, it gives good reason to join some groups and meet friends.

Hope you feel better soon!

maddiwatts19 · Mar 28th, 2008, 22:33 PM

Awww huni! Bless you!
Firstly...you are deffinitely NOT fat and ugly! Your beautiful! I know that what people say cant always help as its your feelings, but your not!!:P
Men are useless!! LOL! Dont get me wrong, i love my OH to death, but they just dont get it!!
Never forget that we're here for you, and we love you lots!!
xxxxxxx

charlottecco2 · Mar 28th, 2008, 22:37 PM

thanks girls, at least i feel loved by someone, even though its people i've never met. it helps to perk me up alot xx

charlottecco2 · Mar 28th, 2008, 22:41 PM

although i am really worried that i am going to lose it when he gets in, do i have a right to be annoyed or should i carry on like normal. I mean i will probably be in bed when he crawls in, but any advice on how not to lose it? I'm pretty worried i'm going to make it in to a huge arguement, which i don't need right now. xx

AquaDementia · Mar 28th, 2008, 22:44 PM

take a shower, cool off!!! things are probably not as bad as our hormones make them out to be

glamgirl · Mar 28th, 2008, 22:47 PM

oh sweetie, you are not the only one, my other half comes home sometimes having few drinks, i dunno why he does that? I`m so fed up with my OH myself that im just focusing on me and my baby, reading books, finding things online for me and baby... I can`t be bothered with my partner anymre to be honest... Dont worry soon everything should be ok... Trust me... xxxxx

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