YummyMummy

sorry if this is long i gotta get this off my chest

well last night i couldnt sleep, and my ex called me sayin he wanted 2 pop round (my ex is my babys farther & my 1st lover),
well i didnt tell him that the baby was his cause we havent met face to face since we made him, well i thought ok 2nights the night...well he came in and sat down in my front room and i was thinking how am i gonna tell him so i walked in the room and he goes 'wooow ur pregnant, my ex girlfriend gav birth to my son last month' my heart sunk, he then asked if i was with the dad i was like noo, then he started sayin how he misses me and askin where he stands in my life...his son so cute hes mixed race with blue eyes, i didnt tell him in the end it was his i jus went to bed and told him i was tierd.

so u think i should call him and tell him im having his baby? how do i tell him? am i right to feel upset and angry?

help me please

charlottecco2

oh sweet pea, of course you have a right to feel upset and angry. I would as well. However him having a son from a previous relationship, shouldn't effect yours and his chances together. He wants to be with you and you are having his child, it could work out really good for you. Regardless of everything you need to tell him that it is his child, he has a right to know.
And plus what have you got to lose? Things might work out really well, goodluck. xx

toriaaaaTRASH

You have every right to be upset, angry and super shocked! I think if you love him then you should tell him. Like Charlotte said, you have nothing to lose. Things could turn out great for the both of you. Good luck whatever you choose to do.

YummyMummy

i dont mind him seeing his son i know he'll be there for him, im jus upset and dunno how to tell him...he told me hes not with his ex but hes looking after his son...i think the fact that my feelings for him are so strong i wanna tell him but im angry he never told me he was gonna hav a baby. i jus dont kno how to tell him
i know i hav nothing to lose but i jus cant bring the words out.

toriaaaaTRASH

This is going to sound like something my Nan would say but maybe write him a letter?

YummyMummy

thats a gr8 idea, problem is i cnt even bring myslef to write a text to ask him to come over, but maybe if i write a letter then get someone to post it i may feel betta..thnxz 4 dat its a gr8 idea

toriaaaaTRASH

Good luck

sonny

I think you need to ask yourself the following questions......

What was your relationship like when you were together?
did he treat you good?
Why did you split up?
Would you be getting back together just for the bubs?

I think he definately needs to know but work out your own feelings first just on yours and his relationship before you jump back in with him just in case you are getting back for the wrong reasons
Hope this is making sense