Cut/tear? - Page 2

letia659 · Jan 2nd, 2010, 01:30 AM

with my first LO they cut me without asking or me knowing it until they were stitching me and I asked what she was doing and with my second LO I had a 2nd degree tear and asked if they were going to cut me but my Dr refuses to cut so I tore but I got to say with both experiences I seem to have healed quicker this time but dont know if that has anything to do with it...I didnt feel it either time because I had the epidural so it didnt bother me at the time it happened

rewizz · Jan 2nd, 2010, 04:36 AM

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Originally Posted by Luna

A cut is preferable to you tearing into your back passage - 4th degree tears are not great and can cause issues with bowel control permanently. You would only be given an episiotomy if you need one, and of course, as with any procedure, you would have to give your consent.

AGREE AGREE... I was very lucky with my 1st mw advised a cut ,as bubs head was a little stuck..
she slipped out easy ... but my sister in law tore in both of her births right to her ass.. and has had loads of probs since ... loads ... really not good.. uck ... but be strong and try to stay in control ,, and if ur in no position to ask make sure ur birthing partner questions everything .. that is happening.. my mom did for me and was sooooo grateful too her .. as i was screaming for an epi at the last minute the annthethstist came in and was all ready to go ahead.. but i couldn't sit still .. lol .. and mom said leave it as i was soo far dilated and as they had put me on a drip to speed it up .. i may not need it and as bloody always .. mom was right .. but she did have the midwife grilled .. lol xxx

Mitsuko · Jan 2nd, 2010, 04:41 AM

I don't think they automatically tell you. From what I've heard, mothers realise after the birth they've been cut or tore! Technically, they should ask for your consent but I guess it wouldn't be practical if they had to ask consent for every single medical procedure!

Best thing is to tell your MW/doc what your position on cutting/tearing is so that they know they can/cannot automatically do it. Personally I'd like to avoid an episiotomy so I also ask my OH to be on the watch for any suspicious "scissor action"!

21Rach · Jan 2nd, 2010, 05:04 AM

ouch tore to her ass!!!! how many probz wud that cause poor lil thing, would be brickin it everytime i needed the loo is she alright now?

Jan34 · Jan 2nd, 2010, 05:10 AM

my understanding is that they wait until the head is on the verge of being born so that they can see how much the perinium is stretched. If it's likely to tear or baby likely to get stuck then they will make the decision to perform an episiotomy at this point. Probably a little difficult to ask for consent at this stage I'd imagine.

21Rach · Jan 2nd, 2010, 05:31 AM

true... jus would be nice to be "warned" ideal world if i needed one that they would say "shut up and listen for a minute, its looking like we're gonna cut u because of *blardy da dah being stuck* best positions gonna be *blardy da dah* so do it now u got 1 last chance 1 push, if it doesnt work we will defo have to cut, im living in a dream world really aren't i lol?! think i showing my innocence here :s

dani_tinks · Jan 2nd, 2010, 05:44 AM

My Midwive's told me that they won't cut unless baby is in distress and needs to come out superfast. Apparently my hospital will just let things happen naturally.

moomin_troll · Jan 2nd, 2010, 05:51 AM

u ill be informed of anything they have to or want to do during labour so dont worry.

zane wasnt coming out at all so she asked me to push one more time and she then said i dont want to cut u but im going to have to as baby cant come out.

i then said if u dont cut will i tear and she said yes, i was very impressed with how she delt with it, so she went thru it step by step and cut me.

i was terrified about bein cut but it was fine after that zane came out so fast.

stitches are a b*tch but worth it to get baby out and help stop the risk of a bad tear

MummyKaya · Jan 2nd, 2010, 06:02 AM

They DONT ask consent in an emergancy. And if you have an assisted delivery you will have an episiotomy.

moomin_troll · Jan 2nd, 2010, 06:06 AM

must just be different hospitals do things differently then.

my hopsital is terrible but inform the woman of what they need to do before its done like they did for me and my friend who had a very difficult birth but they still told her what was being done and why

Jan 2nd, 2010, 01:30 AM	#11
letia659 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: Tennessee Posts: 2,766	with my first LO they cut me without asking or me knowing it until they were stitching me and I asked what she was doing and with my second LO I had a 2nd degree tear and asked if they were going to cut me but my Dr refuses to cut so I tore but I got to say with both experiences I seem to have healed quicker this time but dont know if that has anything to do with it...I didnt feel it either time because I had the epidural so it didnt bother me at the time it happened

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Jan 2nd, 2010, 04:41 AM	#13
Mitsuko Pregnant (Expecting) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: Belgium Posts: 1,731	I don't think they automatically tell you. From what I've heard, mothers realise after the birth they've been cut or tore! Technically, they should ask for your consent but I guess it wouldn't be practical if they had to ask consent for every single medical procedure! Best thing is to tell your MW/doc what your position on cutting/tearing is so that they know they can/cannot automatically do it. Personally I'd like to avoid an episiotomy so I also ask my OH to be on the watch for any suspicious "scissor action"!

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Jan 2nd, 2010, 05:04 AM	#14
21Rach Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: May 2009 Location: Somerset Posts: 1,879	ouch tore to her ass!!!! how many probz wud that cause poor lil thing, would be brickin it everytime i needed the loo is she alright now?

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Jan 2nd, 2010, 05:10 AM	#15
Jan34 Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: May 2008 Location: UK Posts: 370	my understanding is that they wait until the head is on the verge of being born so that they can see how much the perinium is stretched. If it's likely to tear or baby likely to get stuck then they will make the decision to perform an episiotomy at this point. Probably a little difficult to ask for consent at this stage I'd imagine.

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Jan 2nd, 2010, 05:31 AM	#16
21Rach Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: May 2009 Location: Somerset Posts: 1,879	true... jus would be nice to be "warned" ideal world if i needed one that they would say "shut up and listen for a minute, its looking like we're gonna cut u because of blardy da dah being stuck best positions gonna be blardy da dah so do it now u got 1 last chance 1 push, if it doesnt work we will defo have to cut, im living in a dream world really aren't i lol?! think i showing my innocence here :s

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Jan 2nd, 2010, 05:44 AM	#17
dani_tinks Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: Cornwall, UK. Posts: 6,349	My Midwive's told me that they won't cut unless baby is in distress and needs to come out superfast. Apparently my hospital will just let things happen naturally.

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Jan 2nd, 2010, 05:51 AM	#18
moomin_troll Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: staffordshire Posts: 14,583	u ill be informed of anything they have to or want to do during labour so dont worry. zane wasnt coming out at all so she asked me to push one more time and she then said i dont want to cut u but im going to have to as baby cant come out. i then said if u dont cut will i tear and she said yes, i was very impressed with how she delt with it, so she went thru it step by step and cut me. i was terrified about bein cut but it was fine after that zane came out so fast. stitches are a b*tch but worth it to get baby out and help stop the risk of a bad tear

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Jan 2nd, 2010, 06:02 AM	#19
MummyKaya Mum (Mom) Inactive Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: South Coast Posts: 788	They DONT ask consent in an emergancy. And if you have an assisted delivery you will have an episiotomy.

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Jan 2nd, 2010, 06:06 AM	#20
moomin_troll Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: staffordshire Posts: 14,583	must just be different hospitals do things differently then. my hopsital is terrible but inform the woman of what they need to do before its done like they did for me and my friend who had a very difficult birth but they still told her what was being done and why

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