vicky

aww hun the hospital will look after you very well hun. glad you and babba are ok. sorry you feel so sick though. try relaxing hun.

Samantha675

so sorry love, hope you feel better soon.

clairebear

ah hun hopefully it means it wont be to long for u xxx

TashaAndBump

Thanks everyone. I might not be so anxious about having a hospital birth if the midwife and dr I saw yesterday hadn't been so bloody god awful; The midwife, for a start, she told me i should eat meat(!) because my haemoglobin level is below 9. It was completely unproffessional. I tried to tell her that my anaemia is not a result of what I eat - because I eat all the iron-rich foods I need, I take iron tablets now and I drink spartone iron-rich mineral water supplements - but there's only so much your body can absorb and mine just doesn't do it - so no matter how much iron I consume, it's not going to change my anaemia! My husband is on the same diet as me but minus the supplements and he isn't at all anaemic, but she was like "No, you need a nice bit of red meat - You should be thinking about your health first - you might prefer not to eat meat but it's not very healthy is it?" She all but outright told me i was being selfish for being a vegetarian ffs.

On top of that unproffessionalism, she made me feel like I was crazy because my back and my tummy hurt so much but when she looked at the monitor she was like "Oh you're just having little contractions - I hardly think you can call that pain." Excuse me?? I think I'll tell you if I'm in pain not the other way around!

And then the doctor - he didn't even explain why I've been bleeding really. I feel like I'm more worried about it now than I was before I went in to hospital!
All the doctor said was that my cervix was closed and they couldn't see the source of my bleeding but that if it continues i'll need to be induced.

??!?? **confused** ??!??

I still don't understand how/why my plug has fallen out if my cervix is closed, or why I'm bleeding, or why it might mean i need to be induced. I'm so confused. And angry. And tired. And ill I don't want to refuse an incuction if I really do need one - I want what is best for my baby - but no one has explained WHY I might need one, and I want to rest and relax, but I'm worrying about going into hospital again, I'm worried about who might be treating me when I do go in (because I really don't want either the midwife or the doctor that I had last time) and I'm worried about the bleeding - if the docs want to induce me if it continues, that means it's bad, right?

::sigh::

I'm just so .... blergh.

I was so happy and thought I was doing so well in this pregnancy up until now. I feel so rottenly ill and so blinking worried...

Thanks for all the support, girls - I think I'd go mad if I didn't have this forum to escape to sometimes!!

Rumpskin

BurtonBaby

Sorry things have been so hard right now for you! The doctor seems like a jerk. Maybe you can get a second opinion. I would also be very wary of just accepting the induction, without another opinion. If your cervix is not favorable for induction, you double your risk of needing a c-section. Is there someone else you can talk to to discuss you worries?*I hope things get better! And I would also tell them that you are doing all you can to get iron in you! It is very common for pregnant women to be anemic, and you are going what you can. Dont let them get you down hun. Take care of yourself and LO.

AquaDementia

That is such bullshit from that woman about your vegetarian diet making you anaemic. I have been a vegetarian for almost 8 years, and all the time throughout this pregnancy my iron levels have been consistently high without any iron supplements. Also, consider the fact that I mostly eat like crap and my doctor had not once said that I should eat red meat.
What a stupid bitch.

charlottecco2

what a twat sorry, that has really annoyed me as well, i also am vegetarian and have always had a problem with anaemia no matter how much iron i consume, pregnant or not. i would have given her a slap xx

amy_tea

hope you feel better soon hunny and that things get moving soon. Atleast then once baby comes you wont have to see a shitty midwife like that again

xxxx

wishing4ababy

is your community midwife not around for you to ring her and see what is happening - she might be able to shed some light on it and ease your apprehension. I also found that the docs and midwives in the hospital were more concerned with "doing their job" than explaining anything to the mums. the community midwives are so much nicer for some reason - and if you have built up a relatinoship with her over your 9 months she will know you a lot better and understand where you are coming from.
I honestly don't think it'll be anything to worry about - get some rest and wait for the real thing. LO will be here soon. If they were really worried about you they would've kept you in the hospital!! try not to worry - i know it is hard.
thinking about you - and wishing you and LO a safe labour.
xxx