MIL AGAIN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
She gave me and my OH our christmas presents today (which was lovely)
but she's bought presents for my, MY, UNBORN CHILD!
what the hell?!!?!??!
(im not ungrateful, of course not, but wtf)
ITS NOT HER FIRST CHRISTMAS, she's not even here!
(that sounds terrible but its true!)

ITS OUR FIRST AND LAST CHRISTMAS IN OUR NEW HOME TOGETHER.
nobody seems to get this...

WHY couldn't she just wait until she's born to give her a 'welcome to the world' gift or something?


she's trying to take over so everything MY child has is from her Grandmother.

i'm being so good and not making a big deal out of it so my OH doesn't feel bad, but im not pleased.

I totally get this. This is our first christmas in our new home together, and last one as just the two of us. I don't have the same problems as you, I just know where you're coming from. Plus I think it's abit bad luck to buy presents and stuff already, incase the worst happens. Ofcourse I don't want it to happen, but it's just something that I obviously think of in the bad of my mind.

Why don't you suggest you put them away, so that next year she can open them?

- you know, i was thinking of just opening them myself (well obviously little one cant do that anyway!) and saying how nice they are etc. like you say, i'll wrap them up for next year then.





It's not fair it's like i can't enjoy this christmas just me and my OH on our own, so i understand that you might be getting asked every five seconds, ''what are you doing for Christmas day'' - ''er, staying at home, eating stupid amounts of chocolate and watching everything on tv'' - what else do you do at Christmas?

arghh *pulls hair out*

sound like my gran, she is a flamin nightmare, to he point where last time she gave me a bag full of baby clothes she told me that 'we' didnt need to buy anything else - HELLO MY CHILD????

dont really know what to suggest tbh, she may just think she is being helpful, as my gran does, but it could get worse when lo is here

Yeah i understand its all 'helpful' and 'kind', but hello? annoying aswell? hahaha.

- thats my major worry, if i have no control over it when LO is here.

fingers crossed it doesnt though x

I understand completely where you're coming from. My MIL is still shocked each year that we don't want to spend Christmas day, the whole day, at her house. Our very first year together she threw a literal, hysterical tantrum because we didn't visit on Christmas Eve....even though we'd already agreed we'd visit on Boxing Day weeks before. This year she seems to think I should want to get in a car and travel to her three days before my due date....be at someone else's house if my plug goes, my waters break or I just start getting contractions. No thanks - I'll be slobbing around the house in my jim-jams and visiting no-one. My MIL also seems to forget I actually have parents of my own I might want to see occasionally......

Oh, and did I mention my MIL expects us to tell her (note: not "them", not my FIL too, "her") when the baby's born before we tell my parents? I mean, before she started on this one it hadn't crossed my mind which set of parents we'd tell first, but now she's making a big deal of it we'll be telling my parents first....it's me doing the actual birth-giving

You're not alone hun

Snoopy - HAHAHA, im telling MY parents first too!!! Just to spite her so she's doesn't go around saying 'Oooooh i knew first'
I feel your pain! i can't believe your MIL threw a fit like a 4 year old! Grow up love.

My MIL is divorced from my FIL, SHE CHEATED ON HIM. ohhhh gossip. so she is NO saint. My FIL is amazingly lovely and caring. MIL is just pushy and programmed to try and treat my OH like a child for the rest of his life.

do you think this is because maybe she feels like she's losing him? i've been putting it down to that. x

Oh yes, mothers of sons can be appalling. Not all of them, obviously, but it's a very well-known phenomenon. There are plenty of "I hate my mother-in-law" sites around to cater to this For some reason the bad ones seem to think their grown-up sons are still their babies and that their mums should be the most important people in their lives. Thankfully my OH doesn't stand for any of it


What I never understand is why the FILs are always so lovely! I don't know how they stand it.

So will the baby not get first christmas stuff next year because it will be her 2nd??
Doesnt most first christmas stuff have the year on it? Not a wise move granny She could have bought you a mum to be thing or like my mom last year bought us a tree decoration of a door and it said something like "first christmas in our new home"

wow i think i'm lucky, my mil isnt even bothered about the fact she is going to be a grandmother, none if the oh's family seem to care, mine however are mad about it but wouldnt dare by xmas pressies for her.

i did get them a 'from the bump' xmas card though, just had to get it when i saw it lol