I noticed one post started going towards the MIL's, so I thought I would dedicate a new post just for her.......

She has already decided on the baby’s name! But she doesn’t ask whether I like it, it’s always an indirect approach using my niece. “We are going to name the baby ‘so and so’ coz I have always like that name don’t you agree –saying it to my neiece. This is a common approach she always uses if she wants to say something!
I just grit my teeth and think to myself ‘you can think again if you think I'm calling him that’

One day she was asking OH if he will be ok in the labour room and if not she will come with me instead!!
Hahaha yeah right, actually it might not be a bad idea. That way I can pull her hair and blame it on the labour pains!

The list is endless……. But it’s definitely calmed down a bit over the last few weeks coz I stopped going down there. Told my OH to tell her that I’m tired and cold and just want to rest at home when she calls asking why we don’t come down.

I guess we all will handle the MIL in different ways – the best way to handle mine is to agree at the time and then do your own thing. She soon gets the hint coz if I argued and said ‘no’ she would just argue back with tears.
She has always seen herself as the dominant woman having 3 boys and my SIL has always done what was instructed and now she can’t take the fact that I don’t do ‘as she says’

And there are MIL's who are the complete opposite…anyone?? No-one?? Lol

I really get on well with my MIL. It shocks me to see some of the things they are capable of!!!

My advice is just smile and nod, gets me through anything that annoys me - short of saying eff off!

Normally, mine is perfect and lovely and we get on really well. The only thing that really gets to me is comments that set me up for a fall.

e.g. I wear earplugs at night, force of habit I guess, but I do. I always hear my alarm through them, it's mainly to block out hubby's breathing! Anyway, got this:
MIL: You won't be able to wear earplugs when the baby's here.
Me: I certainly will, OH can sort it out if I'm sleeping (me being flippant)
MIL: Oh, actually, what's sleep hahahahaha
Hmm, very funny.

And just the usual, 'Wow, your life is going to change so much'. Oh really? I wonder how? Please enlighten me - I hadn't thought anything would change at all

lol mine isnt too bad. but she has said a few things like she asked if i was planning to breast feed and i said yes, then she said well if i ever come down can you make sure you have a bottle ready or go out of the front room and do it as i would feel uncomfortable... i sat there and thought if you dont like it dont flippin come down... and she was on about a nappy special offer and i said theres no point im useing terry nappys unless its an emergency then i will use a disposable, and she said well if i ever change him i will use a disposable because i dont like terry nappys.... well its simple... dont change him

I get on wll with my mil and can't imagine her saying things to upset me- shesjust nit like that xx

I'm really lucky too. My MIL is being really lovely, and supportive. Probably saying all sorts behind my back though!!! Might change when little one is here i suppose. My own mother has caused more problems, not with me cause i just tell her no, but with my DH. He is sure she is trying to muscle him out, or make decisions for us. I know its just her way and if we say no she backs off, but he hasn't had so many years with her!!!

ahhhh. my MIL is a total snob! she married into money and it went to her head!

I'm so glad OH is nothing like her atall!
We dont even know what we are having and she keeps buying laura ashley dresses etc.... and they look so uncomfortable for newborns... i tol her i intend to have LO in sleepsuits ans babygrows for as long as possible! I'd rather LO was comfy than looked stylish!
She also turns her nose up at me breastfeeding! has had an interior decorator come round and design a bloody nursery for her house (i'm sorry but i thought i was the one having the baby) Has bought herself a buggy (which is fine in theory, but she commented that she got it because it nicer looking than ours and was more money therefore far superior)

Its not just baby stuff, she constantly put OH down as he refuses to be "snob-like" and will never accept her hand outs even when we are struggling.

He's doing a really hard course at the moment even though he's dyslexic and rather than being supportive she says things like " oh well if you fail at least you tried" and "your just not as bright as your brothers"

AAhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh.

although i'm a good girl and most of the time i just let things go over my head! I find avoidance is the best solution!

I'm so shocked at what some of your MIL's are capable of!!

lol i am glad i aint hte only one. I love my MIL to pieces. But when i speak with her or she texts me she says "hows my baby" Or "hows my grandchild!" I answer either yes Mike (my husband) is fine. or Yes my baby is fine.
Has told me I am not allowed a dummy for the baby.
Told me i was stupid for wanting to get a new matress when she gave us my hubbys moses basket from 27 years ago!!!!
Told me if the baby is hungry when i try and breastfeed to use a bottle (um from research you dont need to top up with a bottle as you produce enough for bubs)
Also we got a baby einstien given to us bit like a walker thing for when they can sit up and told me to bin it as it makes them lazy!!!!

the thing that gets me the most is I dont want smoke round my baby and my midwife said in the antenatel classes to not let anyone near baby for 45 mins after they have had a cigarette and i know i will be having to fight this one as she is a chain smoker. Me and hubs arent and hubs thinks its a stupid thing and said its not worth the hassle!!! Um it is if it harms my baby thank you!!!!!

Hehe I could sit here for hours ranting about mine!!

I had a 2 week break from her as she went on holiday, but tge fun started when she got back!! We went round to hers to say welcome back etc, and my damn OH left me alone with her (grrrr)

She proceeded to slag him off to me while he was out of the room...she said things like 'so have you noticed yet that he lies about things, he's not trustworthy' ummm excuse me but we've been together 2 1/2 years, I know him well enough, yes he might lie about how many fags he's had in a day, but nothing worse.

Then she slagged him off for leaving 2 glasses on the table while she was away. No thankyou for him doing her washing, washing up, hoovering etc while she was away!

I don't get why she thinks it's ok to slag him off to me as soon as OH is out of earshot.....grrrr. She was even going on about how he needs to be more responsible... Errr hello my pregnancy was a huge shock and he's really stepped up to the plate. Fair enough he can't find work, but he looks after me soo much, does all the housework etc, why keep putting him down?

Sorry that was longer than I thought!!!