Hehehe I love these threads. My MIL is doing my head in too but strangly not too much about baby stuff. She randomly pop over one day, I was sleeping as I hadn't been sleeping well, but it was a horride sweaty hot sleep, got woken by the door bell, ran downstairs thinking it was the posty (ooooh baby stuff delivery!) opened the door in my jammies, all wet with sweat and leaky boobs to find MIL in Auntie IL standing there. I was super confused and tired, looking a state and puffing like mad as I'd just run, they come barging in nattering away as I stand there a bit stunned and come into the living room asking for a cuppa.
She proceeded to stay for over half an hour with me all smelly and minging and blantently knackered and give me all sorts of advice about how its not always natural to love your baby straight away (to which I replied, I know, the mdiwives have post natal depression help and every class under the sun and are always there 24 hours a day if I'm having trouble with anything) and about how people will keep visiting constantly as she never got time alone with her baby when he was born ( I replied, well everyones banned from seeing me, I'm not telling anyone when I go into labour! heheh)
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oooh I feel good now.......

I CANT STAND mine!! Luckily she lives miles and miles away in south wales, its not far enough tho for me, id be happier with her in timbuktu! I always knew she didnt like me from the second she set eyes on me, shes always hinting things and looking directly at me, but i just look away and ignore her. Shes so bad though, she gave me a panic attack last week with a big rant at me that came out of nowhere.. I swear if i had a plane and some rope.. Lol x

Wow thats really good to hear they not all bad

I do mainly get on with mine, and sometimes I do wonder what we'd do without her, but i think she knows this and therefore pushes the boundaries sometimes . ie: butting in when we try to discipline the children in front of her, actually believing that she has a say in new bubs name , booking swimming lessons for one of my children without asking us, the list goes on........ but what really got me recently was taking one of my kids to see Father Christmas without telling me . Id planned on taking them all the following week (as i do every year, kind of a tradition) to the local garden centre where they had a ride on Santa train and real reindeer etc. I was soo cross, especially as she'd only taken one of them, er hello, there are four other children here too!!!! Grrrrr.........

haha 27yrs old moses basket - did they exist then!

definately be careful with the smoking thing....you never your MIL might give up!

i cant imagine not getting on with my OH's mum, shes been so supportive from day one as she was also a teenage mum, she was younger then what me and OH was so was glad we are that bit older.
she does have a different aproach to my mum (who buys buys buys), OH mum hasnt bought anything at all yet but says that this is our baby and we should get ready to support it ourselves not expect everyone to do it for us, which at first i didnt like but now i think she is right.
she always rings and texts and pops in for a brew.
im havin my mum and OH in with me for the birth and have said all along after that i want a few hours to rest and just for me OH and baby to bond before visitors. ive told his mum that if she wants to and is allowed in for the birth then she can do, id feel totally comfortable with it, if not she may come straight after on her own though.

my problems lie with OH's little sister who is 12 but acts like shes 20. she is so strong headed and opinionated its unreal. the thought of labour then having to deal with her an hour or so later is drivin me mad. so ive made strong points that OH mum must come on her own if she wants to see her straight away which she said she is more then happy to do.

my auntie keeps offerin me parentin advice and makin all kinds of remarks which is annoyin, tellin me what to do and what not to do, all her kids are clingy of her and she babies them all. so the thought of my children bein like that is a no go.
i just bursh the comments off and say i'll do things my own way and learn from my own mistakes as i go along. if i need your help il ask for it.
if i didnt get on with OH mum, i would be upfront and straight with her and tell her. this is OUR child and we'll do it OUR way, thanks for the advice and ur opnions, if i need them il ask.

hope they start to lay off a bit =) x

You would think that all MIL will let you get on with it coz I cant imagine being like that with my son's OH or does it just come with age lol.

Its good to see how some of you get on really well with the MIL and some of you have said that you would tell her straight if she was being annoying! But when you have an emotional, teary MIL like mine you rather not have the hassle and just get on with it - having her chatting in the 'background'

mine is living in my house until 2 weeks after the baby is born and she gets worse by the day. it's literally so bad that I am leaving friday to go stay with my parents an hour away until my dr. appt tuesday. I can't be here with her all the time. my husband gets a break, he goes to work and i'm STUCK WITH HER!!!

I had a high fever and chills and was throwing up yesterday...she wouldn't even make my 6 year old some food, she just sat in her room and talked on the phone and then miraculously when my husband gets home she comes out and makes dinner...for them

This morning she was up eating breakfast watching tv...when I got up she shuffled back to her room and closed the door.

I swear to god I hope the baby comes at 37-38 weeks just so she can get the hell out of my house.

sorry to go crazy on your thread

yea his grandad actually wove it and tis really nice i have bought new insides lol. and of course a new mattress.

She wont give up they all smoke. and he has 10 brothers and sisters, you walk in and its like a hazey mist!
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Luckily for me I fall into nice MIL category. She's not been pushy with anything baby related, if anything the opposite "it's your baby, you do what you want" although it sounds like we agree on most stuff like that anyway (or she's being v polite and agreeing with what I say!)

We do have one relative who works at the hospital I'm due to give birth at who is likely to try and get in before the official visitors are allowed by flashing her badge. If they tell her that I'm there I'm going to sue them for patient confidentiality, she works in admin so no reason why she would need to know!

My advice for MIL handling would just be ignore as much as you can, bite your tongue, smile sweetly and hope and pray that they'll be so happy when their grandchild arrives that they'll forget that you're ignoring all their suggestions! As long as your OH is on your side hopefully you'll be ok.