People assuming it was unplanned!!!

NuKe · Nov 25th, 2009, 12:02 PM

I had to post this, as I'm getting really pissed off with people assuming our pregnancy was unplanned! Every time I run into someone I haven't seen in a while and they either notice my bump or I mention it, they get this look on their face! Rarely do I hear 'congratulations' too! I just want to scream "WE WERE TRYING FOR OVER A YEAR!!!" at them! I mean I'm 24 which is young by some people's standards, but come ON! I'm in a comitted relationship and we both have steady jobs and are 1000000% ready for this! Does anyone else get this reaction?

Racheltn · Nov 25th, 2009, 12:07 PM

Yeah, same here..people assume that because of my age, since i'm only 23..but i've been married for 3 yrs..and It was def planned..but I dont let it bother me..I believe people think it because more than 60% pregnancies are not planned...But i'm sure it has to do with age too ,I don't let it bother me because I know it was planned and as does my family..so that's all that matters

NuKe · Nov 25th, 2009, 12:14 PM

that's true. i guess i just got pissed cuz i ran into an ex and his mum in the supermarket and they both pretty much looked down their noses at me (even thought they are both about 12" shorter than me! lol). i just felt like saying ummm... right you think you are better than me and ur unemployed and living with ur mum? feck them!

New2Bumps · Nov 25th, 2009, 12:16 PM

I agree I think it's because most are unplanned these days! You shoulda said how pleased you were as you'd been trying for a while!

flowertot · Nov 25th, 2009, 12:22 PM

i'm getting this reaction this time and i have no idea why. my mum thinks it was too soon after dd but i think thats rubbish because she will be nearly 2 and a half when LO is born. i got a better reaction with my first pregnancy when i was 24 myself.

katieeandbump · Nov 25th, 2009, 12:24 PM

yeah i remember when i was 1st pregnant and id always get asked...'oh ur keeping it' wtf?!?! obv if i wasnt keeping it i wouldnt of told u numnuts! some people just cant stand people being happy! xxx

NuKe · Nov 25th, 2009, 12:39 PM

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Originally Posted by katieeandbump

yeah i remember when i was 1st pregnant and id always get asked...'oh ur keeping it' wtf?!?! obv if i wasnt keeping it i wouldnt of told u numnuts! some people just cant stand people being happy! xxx

omg thats HORRIBLE! id understand ppl saying that if yano, you were 12 years old or something but its completely innapropriate i think!

QTPie · Nov 25th, 2009, 12:43 PM

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Originally Posted by NuKe

that's true. i guess i just got pissed cuz i ran into an ex and his mum in the supermarket and they both pretty much looked down their noses at me (even thought they are both about 12" shorter than me! lol). i just felt like saying ummm... right you think you are better than me and ur unemployed and living with ur mum? feck them!

You expect your ex and his Mum to celebrate that you are pregnant...

Some people always find fault ot "speak their minds too freely" - some people (even my Mum) expressed surprise that I was pregnant (I am 35, been happily married for 12 years and with husband for 16 years... most people just thought that we "weren't having children"

). We were just too busy with other things (I did high level sports for some time, plus we were having such a good time that it is hard to stop and have kids...), then it took us a little over a year to conceive when we did start trying...

HOWEVER, I think that you are being very wise having kids in your early/mid 20s - being 35 makes certain things quite a bit tougher plus you (being 11 years younger) have longer to "enjoy" your kids

My advice - just ignore everyone and enjoy your pregnancy, baby and child... those are the only things that matter

.

QT

Celesse · Nov 25th, 2009, 12:59 PM

I'm nearly 30 and no one has made mention to anything other than this being a planned pregnancy. OH isn't working so I thought some people may have thought it was an accident. In fact I think OH's family can't understand why we didn't start breeding sooner, what with me being so "old". I think the average age for a first baby in his family is 18.

My mum and dad were a little shocked, then excited, but never questioned whether it was planned or not.

Not sure whether its an age thing, or just people making assumptions. Either way it's rude and I'm glad it hasn't happened to me.

QTPie · Nov 25th, 2009, 13:04 PM

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Originally Posted by Celesse

In fact I think OH's family can't understand why we didn't start breeding sooner, what with me being so "old".

Snap!

Husband is 37, sister-in-law has just turned 36 - neither have children yet. In-laws don't know that SIL has been trying for quite a few years ("undiagnosed fertility issues")... they have been impatiently waiting for their first grandchild...

If I had gotten pregnant shortly after we got married (12 years ago), they would have been ECSTATIC!

QT

Nov 25th, 2009, 12:02 PM	#1
NuKe Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: N. Ireland Posts: 13,171	People assuming it was unplanned!!! I had to post this, as I'm getting really pissed off with people assuming our pregnancy was unplanned! Every time I run into someone I haven't seen in a while and they either notice my bump or I mention it, they get this look on their face! Rarely do I hear 'congratulations' too! I just want to scream "WE WERE TRYING FOR OVER A YEAR!!!" at them! I mean I'm 24 which is young by some people's standards, but come ON! I'm in a comitted relationship and we both have steady jobs and are 1000000% ready for this! Does anyone else get this reaction?

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Nov 25th, 2009, 12:07 PM	#2
Racheltn Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: Jacksonville Posts: 466	Yeah, same here..people assume that because of my age, since i'm only 23..but i've been married for 3 yrs..and It was def planned..but I dont let it bother me..I believe people think it because more than 60% pregnancies are not planned...But i'm sure it has to do with age too ,I don't let it bother me because I know it was planned and as does my family..so that's all that matters

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Nov 25th, 2009, 12:14 PM	#3
NuKe Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: N. Ireland Posts: 13,171	that's true. i guess i just got pissed cuz i ran into an ex and his mum in the supermarket and they both pretty much looked down their noses at me (even thought they are both about 12" shorter than me! lol). i just felt like saying ummm... right you think you are better than me and ur unemployed and living with ur mum? feck them!

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Nov 25th, 2009, 12:16 PM	#4
New2Bumps Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: May 2009 Location: England Posts: 3,839	I agree I think it's because most are unplanned these days! You shoulda said how pleased you were as you'd been trying for a while!

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flowertot Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: Cheshire, UK Posts: 876	i'm getting this reaction this time and i have no idea why. my mum thinks it was too soon after dd but i think thats rubbish because she will be nearly 2 and a half when LO is born. i got a better reaction with my first pregnancy when i was 24 myself.

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Nov 25th, 2009, 12:24 PM	#6
katieeandbump Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: May 2009 Posts: 1,428	yeah i remember when i was 1st pregnant and id always get asked...'oh ur keeping it' wtf?!?! obv if i wasnt keeping it i wouldnt of told u numnuts! some people just cant stand people being happy! xxx

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Nov 25th, 2009, 12:59 PM	#9
Celesse Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: North East UK Posts: 5,497	I'm nearly 30 and no one has made mention to anything other than this being a planned pregnancy. OH isn't working so I thought some people may have thought it was an accident. In fact I think OH's family can't understand why we didn't start breeding sooner, what with me being so "old". I think the average age for a first baby in his family is 18. My mum and dad were a little shocked, then excited, but never questioned whether it was planned or not. Not sure whether its an age thing, or just people making assumptions. Either way it's rude and I'm glad it hasn't happened to me.

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