Ill try and explain this without writing a essay! With my first daughter i had to have an emergency c-section, i dilated to 4 cms no more over 28 hours, i had to be induced, baby wasnt going in right position, she had a bowl movement in me and extremly stressed, basically nothing was progressing i had an awful experience and from this i now have awful panic attacks.

She came out with black arms and legs and could of lost her if they were any later, and later found out that my birth canal is actaully quite narrow so would of been hard to push her out if i had actaully progressed with labour.

I had a interview when i was 12 weeks to discuss a planned c-section with my consultant. He didnt actaully say no, but went on about how i can do it vaginally, that it PROBABLY wont happen again etc etc. But the way he was going on sounded like i was having baby natural and thats that.

I went away from that giving vaginal a chance to weigh up my options and to really think it over.

Well i have thought about it , and trust me i havnt stopped thinking about anything since that discussion. I DONT want to try natural, there still is a chance i will have to have a emergency if i went through with it. I dont even want that chance. If something slightly goes wrong through labour thats it, panic attack will start and i think im dying etc. plus with my narrow birth canal there is more of a chance, also im measuing 2 weeks ahead and have large babies in my family.

What i am getting at is i have to see this conusultant again to re discuss it in a couple of weeks. Is he able to say no and that i have to do it natural. Do i have a right to have a planned c-section? I really didnt want a c-section with my first i wanted to try natural and i did, but that day was the most most scariest and distressing day of my life, i dont want a repeat redoing it naturally..

Any advice girls? Im going out of my mind with worry that he will just say no.

I honestly don't know what he'll tell you (or even if he can refuse you) but I would think that you would be able to choose if you wanted to have another C-Section done. I hope your doctor listens to you and you get to have the birthing experience you want.

I'm so sorry for your bad experiance previously!
Due to it though I see no reason why anyone can refuse you to have a c-section. I would definatly contact your doctor/mw and express your concerns x

Hon, your first delivery experience sounds so much like mine! Wow, it's like deja vu!

For my second I had a planned C-section and I wasn't given the option to delivery naturally. I am very petite. Here, at 38 weeks of pregnancy they deliver the baby if it is a planned C-section. My second was over 8 lbs. I honestly don't think I would have had the capability to deliver him naturally, in addition to the fact that it had been only 18 months after my first delivery.

Once again, this time around my baby will also be delivered with a planned C-section.

I never felt less of a woman for delivering by C-section and am so fortunate to have two healthy children!

I don't blame you for not wanting to go through the whole entire experience of your first again. And if you do have a narrow canal and there could possibly health concerns for you and your baby, I would seriously think about talking to your doctor about this and demanding what you want.

It sounds like your first birth was very distressing. I hope things go better for you this time although i don't have any advice for you.



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I'm not sure which country you are from and if the rules are the same, but my OH spends alot of time working in hospitals. If you have genuine concerns and it really sounds like you do, then you can demand a C-Section, the consultant has no right whatsoever to refuse you and make you give birth naturally.
It might be worthwhile speaking with your midwife before perhaps she can make some notes in your file for you to take with you?

Thanks everyone for your replies, i spoke to my midwife awhile back and she said it was my body and what i went through isnt something that obviously id want to repeat so i should demand that i want one, im just very shy and clam up and i have just so much to say but nothing ever comes out!

I havnt seen my docter through out my pregnancy is that something i should do before my consultant? Will they help me push the consultants mind? My consultant may even let me its just incase he doesnt i want to have things to back me and make him see i need it!!

He can refuse you as ultimately he signs the forms, you can not demand a c-section on the nhs. ( Had discussion along these lies with my GP friend) But given your history and obvious concerns I'm sure he/she would agree. If your birth canal was narrow then it will be the same this time surely. I had an emergency section with my first and am having my fourth section in May. Trust me as uncomfortable as it was afterwards the planned sections were a lot better than a traumatic labour and then emergency section. Good luck

I would definitely be assertive when asking for the section. If you know your birth canal is narrow and the chances of you delivering a child is slim, I don't see why they would refuse you a section. Baby's health comes first right? not to mention you can get hurt in the process too.

Good luck hon, hopefully he doesn't make a big deal about it.

Im sure your GP wouldn't dismiss it if you tell him how scared you are and how much your last experience has affected you. If you aren't happy with his answer I would suggest going to another doctor and asking them for a decision as well. Definately be assertive though in what you're asking for.

Hope whatever you choose isn't too stressful for you hun.

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