Hospital visits?

missjess · Mar 4th, 2008, 21:41 PM

Who is gonna come with you while you give birth ?
Are you allowing anyone to come visit?

(sorry rant)
I'm gonna have my OH with me, but I don't want anyone else over there. People can come AFTER I get home to see LO. I want some time to rest at the hospital, I don't think I will feel like seeing anyone right after the birth (I'm gonna be tired...) Maybe it seems a bit harsh, but that's just how I feel about it.
My mother doesn't want to respect that! We just had an argument over the phone about the fact that I don't want the whole family at the hospital. They can come at home when we get there. She just doesn't wanna understand !!!

Jenny · Mar 4th, 2008, 21:51 PM

Its completely your choice who should be allowed, your mom should respect that. Hopefully she comes around and accepts your decision. I'm sure when she gets over it that she'll understand.

As for me, Miah is the only one allowed while giving birth but after that, I don't mind my parents coming to visit or his but thats it. Nobody else. I don't want a huge parade of people thats for sure.

**Vickie** · Mar 4th, 2008, 21:58 PM

At the birth I only want my DH, no one else. Afterwards though I expect most of his family to want to come visit, which is fine with me, as that's what my family would do if we lived in Texas. I completely understand what you are saying though, and ultimately the birth and the rest of the hospital stay should go how you want it to go. Hopefully your mother (and everyone else) will come to accept that

AquaDementia · Mar 4th, 2008, 22:06 PM

I honestly don't mind anyone seeing us AFTER the birth, but no one except for my mom and hubs in the delivery room.

luckyme225 · Mar 4th, 2008, 22:32 PM

I just want my fiance and I in the room... I want the special moment to just bond as our new family. I don't mind immediate family coming to visit after the birth and once I've fed. I hope my mom will understand

... hopefully she will because I know it was just her and my dad during my birth.

Gatorade · Mar 4th, 2008, 22:38 PM

My exbestfriend was supposed to be there with me through it, but she backed out of it along with our entire friendship.
So as it is now I'll be going in alone.

Really, do whatever is most comfortable for you.

Samantha675 · Mar 4th, 2008, 23:30 PM

You could tell her that if she is not going to abide by your wishes, you just won't call her till you get home. If she doesn't know you are at the hospital, then she can't drag the whole family up there.

Since I am planning a home birth, it is up to me who is here. So far my team consists of my DH, my mom, and my two best friends. My midwife, and I think two others will be attending me. I love the thought of having some of the most important people around me when I labor, and I have asked each of them for different reasons.

anita665 · Mar 5th, 2008, 07:14 AM

I've been really strict with my family. OH will be at the hospital & the only one allowed to visit after would be my sister. Everone else has to wait till I say I'm ready. I feel quite bad because I wouldn't mind most of my family but it's my mum who I want to keep at bay because I know she will go over the top and stress me out. If I allow my nan to come over I know I can't then say "but not mum". My nan understands though and isn't bothered.

sarahJ · Mar 5th, 2008, 10:11 AM

I'll be having my fiance in hospital with me and then once ive had the baby i dont mind who comes to visit as i cant wait to show baby off hehe

Mar 4th, 2008, 21:41 PM	#1
missjess Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Montreal Posts: 4,794	Hospital visits? Who is gonna come with you while you give birth ? Are you allowing anyone to come visit? (sorry rant) I'm gonna have my OH with me, but I don't want anyone else over there. People can come AFTER I get home to see LO. I want some time to rest at the hospital, I don't think I will feel like seeing anyone right after the birth (I'm gonna be tired...) Maybe it seems a bit harsh, but that's just how I feel about it. My mother doesn't want to respect that! We just had an argument over the phone about the fact that I don't want the whole family at the hospital. They can come at home when we get there. She just doesn't wanna understand !!!

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Mar 4th, 2008, 21:51 PM	#2
Jenny Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: Edmonton, Alberta (Canada) Posts: 2,122	Its completely your choice who should be allowed, your mom should respect that. Hopefully she comes around and accepts your decision. I'm sure when she gets over it that she'll understand. As for me, Miah is the only one allowed while giving birth but after that, I don't mind my parents coming to visit or his but thats it. Nobody else. I don't want a huge parade of people thats for sure.

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Mar 4th, 2008, 21:58 PM	#3
Vickie Mum (Mom) Administrator Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: Toronto, ON Posts: 75,703	At the birth I only want my DH, no one else. Afterwards though I expect most of his family to want to come visit, which is fine with me, as that's what my family would do if we lived in Texas. I completely understand what you are saying though, and ultimately the birth and the rest of the hospital stay should go how you want it to go. Hopefully your mother (and everyone else) will come to accept that

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Mar 4th, 2008, 22:06 PM	#4
AquaDementia Mum (Mom) Inactive Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: London, Ontario, Canada Posts: 3,793	I honestly don't mind anyone seeing us AFTER the birth, but no one except for my mom and hubs in the delivery room.

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Mar 4th, 2008, 22:32 PM	#5
luckyme225 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: Washington Posts: 6,111	I just want my fiance and I in the room... I want the special moment to just bond as our new family. I don't mind immediate family coming to visit after the birth and once I've fed. I hope my mom will understand ... hopefully she will because I know it was just her and my dad during my birth.

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Mar 4th, 2008, 22:38 PM	#6
Gatorade Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: British Columbia Posts: 121	My exbestfriend was supposed to be there with me through it, but she backed out of it along with our entire friendship. So as it is now I'll be going in alone. Really, do whatever is most comfortable for you.

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Mar 4th, 2008, 23:30 PM	#7
Samantha675 Pregnant (Expecting) BnB Addict Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: Austin Texas Posts: 8,123	You could tell her that if she is not going to abide by your wishes, you just won't call her till you get home. If she doesn't know you are at the hospital, then she can't drag the whole family up there. Since I am planning a home birth, it is up to me who is here. So far my team consists of my DH, my mom, and my two best friends. My midwife, and I think two others will be attending me. I love the thought of having some of the most important people around me when I labor, and I have asked each of them for different reasons.

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Mar 5th, 2008, 07:14 AM	#8
anita665 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: Norfolk, UK Posts: 2,689	I've been really strict with my family. OH will be at the hospital & the only one allowed to visit after would be my sister. Everone else has to wait till I say I'm ready. I feel quite bad because I wouldn't mind most of my family but it's my mum who I want to keep at bay because I know she will go over the top and stress me out. If I allow my nan to come over I know I can't then say "but not mum". My nan understands though and isn't bothered.

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Mar 5th, 2008, 10:11 AM	#9
sarahJ Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: north wales Posts: 39	I'll be having my fiance in hospital with me and then once ive had the baby i dont mind who comes to visit as i cant wait to show baby off hehe

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