Who is gonna come with you while you give birth ?
Are you allowing anyone to come visit?

(sorry rant)
I'm gonna have my OH with me, but I don't want anyone else over there. People can come AFTER I get home to see LO. I want some time to rest at the hospital, I don't think I will feel like seeing anyone right after the birth (I'm gonna be tired...) Maybe it seems a bit harsh, but that's just how I feel about it.
My mother doesn't want to respect that! We just had an argument over the phone about the fact that I don't want the whole family at the hospital. They can come at home when we get there. She just doesn't wanna understand !!!

Its completely your choice who should be allowed, your mom should respect that. Hopefully she comes around and accepts your decision. I'm sure when she gets over it that she'll understand.

As for me, Miah is the only one allowed while giving birth but after that, I don't mind my parents coming to visit or his but thats it. Nobody else. I don't want a huge parade of people thats for sure.

At the birth I only want my DH, no one else. Afterwards though I expect most of his family to want to come visit, which is fine with me, as that's what my family would do if we lived in Texas. I completely understand what you are saying though, and ultimately the birth and the rest of the hospital stay should go how you want it to go. Hopefully your mother (and everyone else) will come to accept that

I honestly don't mind anyone seeing us AFTER the birth, but no one except for my mom and hubs in the delivery room.

I just want my fiance and I in the room... I want the special moment to just bond as our new family. I don't mind immediate family coming to visit after the birth and once I've fed. I hope my mom will understand ... hopefully she will because I know it was just her and my dad during my birth.

My exbestfriend was supposed to be there with me through it, but she backed out of it along with our entire friendship.
So as it is now I'll be going in alone.

Really, do whatever is most comfortable for you.

You could tell her that if she is not going to abide by your wishes, you just won't call her till you get home. If she doesn't know you are at the hospital, then she can't drag the whole family up there.

Since I am planning a home birth, it is up to me who is here. So far my team consists of my DH, my mom, and my two best friends. My midwife, and I think two others will be attending me. I love the thought of having some of the most important people around me when I labor, and I have asked each of them for different reasons.

I've been really strict with my family. OH will be at the hospital & the only one allowed to visit after would be my sister. Everone else has to wait till I say I'm ready. I feel quite bad because I wouldn't mind most of my family but it's my mum who I want to keep at bay because I know she will go over the top and stress me out. If I allow my nan to come over I know I can't then say "but not mum". My nan understands though and isn't bothered.

I'll be having my fiance in hospital with me and then once ive had the baby i dont mind who comes to visit as i cant wait to show baby off hehe