maybe it is just my pregnancy hormones but this is really starting to get on my nips now.... my OH works 9til5 gets home goes on the computer until dinner is ready then goes back up on the computer till bed,leaving me down stares to watch TV! I don't mind him going on the computer,he can do what he likes but surly being on it all night and not spending anytime talking with me isn't healthy for a relationship?

I haven't said anything to him yet but it does upset me! are any of your OH the same? would you feel a bit annoyed? or should i just let him get on with it? xx

mine too but we have laptop in the front room so we can still chat - unless he puts his headphones in and does some mixing for 2 hours - and plays it loud so i can hear it out his ears! really annoys me - i just take the mick when he stops and say "oh hello!! how are you?" lol! x

hiya, my OH is exactly the same he works 8 til 5 comes home goes in a bath gets dinner and sits glued to computer for the rest of the night, he thinks because he works all week hes entitled to a rest all weekend etc

i have spoke to him several times but got no where so yesterday i took drastic action and got his mum to take the laptop and ps3 to her house, he never even grumbled about it and even offered to make dinner thats a first for him.

xx

wow! brave lady lol! good idea but i will try talking to him first lol!

same as my OH hun... one of those things, i just nag and nag...
he spend the evening watching a film in bed with me last night, which was nice x

My husband does this sometimes but it's more of a case of him losing track of time when he's on the computer. If I think he's been up there for too long I'll give him a shout. Nothing worse than sitting fuming and doing nothing about it as you just get angrier and angrier and will eventually flip out and overreact.

I would make sure I'm calm and broach the subject with him (when he first comes home). Tell him you'd like some couple time before bubs crashes the party. He's probably seeing what he's doing as getting his computer time in now (like my guy trying to "stock up" on sleep LOL).

My husband too, we've kind of reached an agreement now.
He has a stressy time at work and comes home and just needs to sit there and lose himself in a game for a while, and then after a couple of hours he'll be perfectly sociable. The kind of job he does, he continually has people coming to him and demanding decisions and that he do something for them NOW and it's just constant and exhausting.
The last thing he wants when he gets home is me putting more demands on him (not sure how this will change when the baby arrives, we'll see...) so I just leave him to it, but he knows it makes me unhappy (jealous, actually) if he plays all. freaking. night. so this doesn't happen very often.

I see it as insulting that when he comes home he would prefer to spend time playing games than talking to me, his wife. He doesn't see it like that, he's just trying to get work out of his head. Maybe it's the modern equivalent of how men on their way home from work would go to the pub for an hour or two before going home - all the wives were probably thinking 'why don't you want to come straight home to be with me?'

Tell him how you feel, but I think you've got to allow him some time to unwind - it's just how a lot of men are. Make him understand he can still play, just balance his time with you as well.

Good luck.

yeah your right i will! hes not even playing games hes on facebook lol. oh well im not the only one so not point stressing x

Maybe your OH is also getting it all out of his system now, before baby comes? Thats what my OH is doing, as he knows its all going to change after the baby comes...

My OH is funny - I can tell when hes itching to get upstairs to play games or go to his studio, as he stands beside me, hands in pocket, looking all innocent, about to 'Sooooo....I'm going upstairs?'. I find it so amusing that he doesn't realise that hes even doing it, that I laugh and let him go.

id say somethign to him my hubby does this sometimes he just get absorbed in the computer and when i mentioned it to him he said he thought he'd let me watch what i wanted and give me some peace and quiet so he might be doing it for tht reason?