Helen

Hi and welcome

Definitely extra pillows in bed. One between her legs and one under the bump. You might even offer to sleep in the spare room if that's an option. Stay patient when she wakes in the small hours and can't sleep. Bite your tongue when she turns the light on to read! Can you tell this is the voice of experience?!

I'd offer to do something to her feet and legs. I felt really embarassed towards the end but I couldn't reach my feet to wash them. One of the nicest things DH did for me was give my feet a wash,and rub some cream into them and my poor swollen legs. He stopped short of offering to cut my toenails and paint them but he did send me for a pedicure and that was bliss!

Good luck!

ColinAndJulie

Brilliant advice everyone! thanks so much.
i try my best to do things that take the pressure off her, i am now responsible for foot rubs, back rubs, scalp massages, stroking her face when she wakes in the night (it seems to send her to sleep), helping her bath and more recently i have become chief leg shaver!! i dont mind any of it because to be completley honest, i dont think i could possibly be more proud of her, the way she deals with everything and just gets on with it and the real biggie....... she's carrying my son (and making a fantastic, comfortable, safe place for my little boy to live until he gets here).
it really helped her to know that you are all going through or have gone through the same thing, and like everyone says, it will all be so so worth it!
thanks for all the advice and all the welcomes, look forward to talking to you all about this miraculous thing!

Colin

Helen

Aw what a lovely thing to say!

If you show as much care and attention to your little boy as you do your lucky wife then you are going to make a fantastic father.

ColinAndJulie

Thanks for those kind words Helen, i will never understand these dads who are happy to sit back and let the 'missus' do everything. the thing is, My Dad died of cancer in 2003 and the sad thing is that i didnt realise just how much that man meant to me until he was on his death bed. I didnt have the closest relationship with him while he was alive but after he was gone i realised just how important he was in my life. i am devastated that he will never meet his grandson but i'm going to spend the rest of my life making sure my son doesnt have to wait until i'm gone before realising the importance of a proper 'father and son' relationship. And also i'll make sure that he knows how fantastic his grandad was!

Julie also lost her dad in 2003 to a brain haemorrhage (6 months before my dad died) and so looking after her and letting her know there is a 'New Dad' in the house, will hopefully make her feel better to.

I think it's time more dads stepped up to the plate (i know most already do!)