hi all. just a quicky, for all the fab peeps who answered my original question on terrified to give birth! i have been to see my consultant today and OMG do i feel heaps better. he read through my notes, spoke to me about my fears let me cry and get it all out then said that no one could force me to have a labour i didnt want, and that he would book a c-section for me for 39 weeks and that if i changed my mind in that time it was entirely my choice to do so but it would be easier to unbook a c-section than try and book one at 39 weeks.. he wants to take over my care coz i told him all about the rude m/w and he wasnt pleased, and he wants me to see his m/w in his clinic from now on... thank you soooo much to everyone who listened to my whining and your help in posting positive messages im really gratefull. all ive got to do now is get to 39 weeks in one peace. X

So glad you got chance to speak to someone who was prepared to listen to your worries. All the best in whatever you decide, either way you will have a beautiful baby to hold at the end of it all

thanx for that coccyx, ive got to say im getting more excited about "meeting" her now i know i have an option of a c-section or the chance to change my mind if i want instead of being told that there was only 1 way to do it.. think all the stress was stopping me bonding a little but now ive just sat here holding my bump and ive got butterflies in my belly and i cant wait. x

Glad all went well hunni

made up for you, think hard about the c section thing though, it probably wont be that bad and it will be over and done with in no time rather than having to suffer for longer with a wound etc xxx

Glad your appointment went well

I agree, my cousin had both a normal first and caesarean with her second and she admitted that she struggled more with a c-section and couldn't do much for a while

Glad that everything's turned out for you, you're so lucky you found sucha nice consultant and a new midwife, I went to my doctor today and she's just so un-sympathetic, but I can't really change

I'm so glad you're feeling more in controll of your pregnancy and birth now - that's absolutely the way that is should be. Do think hard on the c-section though; it's serious medical intervention that leaves a lot of healing to be done (that you might not feel up to if you've got a new born baby to look after!) Just remember that child-birth is a perfectly natural experience and there are many ways you can be in control of it... Most of all, though, remember that this is *your* pregnancy - get in know about all your options, and don't let any one pressure you into something you don't feel is right.