xxleannexx

I know, i bet she will start asking why ive decided to bottle feed and like you said i dont really have a proper reason its just something i would feel more comfortable doing! oh well, will let you u kno what she says haha!

fifi83

Easy said then done this but just say..........

'my baby my choice deal with it' *she says*

Thats what im hoping to say if she says anything to me but knowing me i will agree with everything she says and before you no ill be in breast feeding classes

xxleannexx

haha yeh prob, i will prob do the same as i will be scared to disagree with her!

Ann-Marie

I BF my first baby no problem... out having coffee... round friends... Ponchos are fantastic for allowing you to do it discreetly. I was amazed by how much good feedback I got when out in public.

I hadn't even thought about it with my second, naturally I was going to breastfeed. However, Ethan just wouldn't latch on properly, I was in so much pain, bleeding and cracked. I screamed everytime I tried to latch him on, and would cry all the way through. He was even possetting my blood !! The midwife and health visitor kept telling me it was fine, I just had to bear with it....
In the end, I had to give up, because I realised I wasn't bonding with him, and was feeling so resentful towards him. I was even worried that I was going to hurt him as he latched on from gripping him so hard, and just from the pure exhaustion and frustration and sense of failure.
When I started to bottle feed him ( formula, because I couldn't bear the pain anymore), I knew I'd done the best thing FOR US. I could actually enjoy my baby, and finally began to bond with him. DOn't get me wrong, I've always loved him so much it hurts, but I was so lost in trying to do 'the right thing', that I lost sight of the most important thing.

Now that I could be potentially expecting twins, I'm a bit nervous of what I'll do next. I know I'll try to BF, but if it doesn't work, I'm not gonna beat myself up about it!

So, sometimes it's not about 'choosing' whether or not to BF.

Sorry for the essay.... but you did ask.... lol

Linzi

Im going to give it a go but Im worried about going out in public and having to do it coz Im quite shy or if I go out and leave my OH to give the baby a bottle it might not take back very well. Someone told me if you chop and change a lot between bottle and breast the baby gets confused and will only take to the bottle. I dont know how true that is. Dont really know very much about breastfeeding yet.

My mum never breast fed with my little brother because shes really shy and self concious and a few others I know did it once or twice but couldn't get it to work for some reason. I definately wouldnt judge people for not doing it because it doesnt sound awfully pleasent....

xxx

jenny873

im not breast feeding basically just because i dont want to lol, ive been thinking about it for the first week or so to give the baby the good milk but after that im bottle feeding and im not letting no midwife try and bully me to carry on lol my midwifes quite nice though x

MarchBaby

I'm going to bottle feed, but I am going to express my own milk. I just dont feel comfortable breast feeding, and wasn't going to do it at all when I found out I was pregger. However, I have sort of changed my mind about giving him the great milk, but still dont want to feed from the breast for the same reason I didn't want to when I found out. I also want to be able to go into public without worrying about finding a bathroom to feed him everytime he gets hungry (you NEVER see people BFing around here.. EVER! ), and I want my OH to be able to feed him aswell.

snugglemuffin

I think we all get scared at disagreeing with your midwife but she isn't all powerful and can be wrong! Also your allowed to disagree she doesn't have to live your decisions you do. If any try and bully you just tell them to shove it you can always ask to see another and if there is none just make a complaint. I hate the thought of anyone feeling pressured into something that can give bad memories of the first days with your child just because someone doesn't like your choice.

*rant over* apologies

lorrilou

I didnt breastfeed nicole, she couldnt latch on and had to go to scbu. I really wanted to tho but these things happen. So anyway when i found out i was pregnant with callum i decided i wanted to breastfeed this time, i only managed to do it for 5wks, although it was a lovely experience and i would defo do it again it is so time consuming, dont know whether it was just us but callum didnt really have a set time between feeds was just as and when.

coccyx

Should not have to feel you need to feed in a toilet. Can be done very discreetly. Nobody else eats a meal in a toilet.!!! I refuse to hide away, I'm doing a very natural thing ( I only accidently exposed the world to a glimpse of my boobs!) Hardly compares to the boobs you see on display on the front cover of magazines and people accept those.