I've given birth and it wasn't super fast or easy but the thought of a C-Sec scares the crap out of me. I may be backwards though..

i personally would love to be able to get the baby out without ruining my pelvic floor but i dont think i would like a c section because of the scaring and how difficult i have heard it is to look after a new born anyway without having to deal with the pain. ive also heard a c section is a huge operation and quite serious. x

I have been reading Ina May Gaskin's Guide to Childbirth. If you don't know her, she is the most well known midwife in the US. The first half of this book is story after story of all natural home births. I tell you it makes me want to roar my womanhood from the rooftops. It makes me feel so strong and confident in my body's ability to have this baby naturally. I honesty think that your mental state affects your birth. I saw it with 2 close friends. One kept telling herself she would have to have a C-section,so when she went into labor, her body shut down, and she had a C. My other girl friend kept saying how she was going to have the horrible long labor everyone fears. Well she sure did. I really would say, go and find this book ASAP, it might help you address your fears.

good idea, im gona think positive thoughts now for the next 2 weeks and see what happens lol.
*quick labour*, *minimal pain*, *DONT TEAR*
lol xxx

Hi.
I'm still only in the early stages of my pregnancy and it's ages and ages till the big day comes but still i'm petrified allready! lol
The reason im so scared is because i wont be having any drugs or an epi.
My o/h doesnt want me to and i want the birth to be as natural as possible.
This will be my first and i dont know what im getting myself in to! lol
I have always wonderd about c sections but a few people that i know who have had them say that you are only ever allowed to have 3 c sections.
Is that true?
I feel sorry for my friend because she has always wanted a big family but she has allready had her 3 c sections which means no more babys for her. Doc says that it would be impossible for her to have a natural birth because her pelvis is far too small.
Seems really strange.

I'm not even pregnant, but I have had an ovarian cyst removed, and have the bikini cut scar just like a c-section...I would die if I had to go through that recovery, and take care of a newborn. Well I wouldn't die but it would have been so much harder. It's difficult for me to understand why someone would WANT to go through that. While I know childbirth is painful, I think it's a much better route. It's a shorter recovery time and I just know as soon as I hold the baby in my arms, I'll forget all about it. It would be really nice if I was one of those women who have an O during childbirth. lol

Women were built to give birth

I was thinking the same! id much rather have a normal birth than a c-section - I wanted to do everything to avoid any major surgery.

I was terrified thinking about giving birth too, I think it's only natural. I was ok in my early 3rd tri, but as I got to 35/36/37 weeks I suddenly started panicking loads, thinking of the worse case scenarios..!!
I shocked myself, I was tired, in pain for 2-3 days and in labour for 14 hours - im not saying the contractions aren't bad but I was coping ok until I was 8cm dilated then I needed a little help. I had my baby with gas and air (I don't expect anyone else to care, but I was SO proud of myself!!) and didn't tear and only had 1 stitch in there.. I thought that was a result - id expected myself to be a complete wuss! plus i've got a beautiful, happy little girl for a few days of pain!

Being realistic, things can go wrong, it is painful BUT it is also such a lovely experience and you will cope because you know you are going to see your little one for the first time. You might really shock yourself.

Hope you are feeling ok as it is a worrying time x

I was exactly like you before i had callum, didnt bother me with nicole.

Im sure you'll be fine and its one of those pains that you forget about straight after.

Pink diamond, why doesn't your oh want you to have any pain relief?NO way would my hubby have suggested that, its your body and only you will know at the time what you can cope with. Hope I don't sound mean but my friends oh told her she couldn't have any pain relief, she had some gas and air and he told her she had failed! HA HA her midwife asked how many babies he had given birth to, and that no medals were given for not using analgesia!

Pink diamond i wouldnt rule out having drugs during labour. I wanted to have a natural birth with callum, cos i did with nicole, but had to end up having an epidural. No way callum was coming out without one.

sorry but its Really unfair of your partner to say that. Im sure he wouldnt be saying that if it was him giving birth.