overcomer79

Let me first start off by saying that I do try to get along and live peacefully with my neighbors. To make a long story short, my neighbor got married last year to this woman who would play excessive loud music during odd hours of the night. I tolerated it. I live in a townhouse and often times her music would filter into my bedroom.

Let's fast forward to March of this year. I am three months pregnant and we come home to a notice on our door from animal control saying that our animals weren't properly vaccinated and did NOT have adequate shelter. There is a dog house out back but the dog generally stays in with us so he is provided for! To this day, I still believe it was her that called animal control.

It wasn't until May (when I started showing) that this lady wanted to befriend me. I thought it would be ok since I just want to live peacefully here until we decide it was time to move to a bigger house. Well, since then, she has become the meddling neighbor. Mind you, she only is nine years older than me but her mental state is much younger. I respect those with disabilities as I too am disabled and often judged harshly by others (including my MIL).

Yesterday, my child's godmother and I went out to lunch and she wanted to buy me a decent thermometer so I got out of the house for a bit. We pull back in the parking lot and were engaged in a conversation when my neighbor asks "are you leaving". I answered that we just got back and turned to my child's god mother and wanted to continue our conversation. My neighbor walks over and OPENS my car door while I'm in the middle of this conversation!! I did NOT invite her to the car as this was a private conversation that we were having.

Then OH and I go out last night. Upon returning, I hear "oh there you guys are" as if I didn't have permission to leave my own house!!!

I was visiting my parents a few weeks ago, turned my phone off (didn't know OH turned it on) and she called and was just making sure that I hadn't gone into labor!!! WTF!!!!! I really think the only reason she befriended me is because of the baby. I'm not dealing with it and made a decision last night that she WILL NOT know when I go into labor. She has invited herself over to take care of my pets while I'm in the hospital. I don't think so!!! I have a very good friend that will either a. look after the pets or b. come sit with me while OH tends to them. Probably the latter.

It has gotten to the point where I avoid her phone calls because she is meddling. I am in and out of work until students come back and I get calls like "are you at home?" and "I just wanted to check on you". It is overbearing and I just don't know how to approach this.

Am I overreacting? Please be honest. Everyone here has seen me walk my dog to the vet even when he has been sick. I walked him to the vet while I was 7 months pregnant because he was sick (recently). That is why I believe that she called animal control. If I think that, why am I going to let her sit my pets while I'm gone or even babysit (she has offered but she didn't even raise her own child!) James once he is here.

I'm fuming and certainly don't need another mother. Honestly, if my own mother was like that (I'm 30) we would not have the relationship we have now.

rant over and thanks for reading xxx

sara k

oh my god....these people have too much time to interfere in others lives...plz keep distance...and straightly stop them doing this.....avoid their phone calls...i know u wanna good relations with neighbours but not like this...

Pippin

Your not overreacting hon if it is bothering you! Have you tried saying things like "I'll contact you when I need you don't worry yourself" or "seriously leave me alone" hahaha . No in all seriousness if you keep saying you'll contact her when you need her and avoid all telephone calls and carry on walking when she sees you outside she should get the message soon enough. it's horrible I know but hang in there.

GG76

This would annoy the hell out of me! Maybe she's trying to make up for not caring for her own child. I'm afraid she sounds like the type that will not take no for an answer and will become resentful and give you guys a lot of trouble (like calling animal control on you for no reason). For your sake, I hope I'm wrong. That is the last thing you need to have to worry about at this point in time. But if she does continue to harrass you (which is what I would call this overbearing unwanted attention), I would document her actions incase the law is called into play down the road...whether by you or her. I might sound paranoid, but it is better to be safe than sorry.

GOOD LUCK!

jojo2605

I agree, you are not being unreasonable at all. Sounds to me like someone who could become quite clingy given half the chance and in the long run i think its best to be harsh and firm from now on and set the tone for the future. as has already been said; keep conversation to a minimum, don't answer her calls, tell her thanks for her offer for taking care of animals, etc, but you have family/friends who have already offered so you wouldn't want to put anyone else out and besides, your family and friends want to help out first and formost before anyone else. She will get the message eventually. i for one would not like to have to be like this with a neighbour; i fiercy guard my own privacy and it's partly why i am polite to my neighbours but don't make too much of an effort to 'befriend' as i think if things turn sour you have to live there - i know that seems an incredibly sad way to live but my mom and also friends on seperate occasions have had problems with neighbours and have sometimes had to move beause of it. your life is your own, don't feel bad about guarding it x

overcomer79

Fortunately I was told by animal control in March that they could slap a citation on her for false allegations. I'm sure social services could/would do the same.