I went to ante natal last night and we watched a MW bath a baby.
I sat there and felt like crying. I was staring at this tiny day old baby and I felt absolutly terrified. Not about the birth, but about looking after a baby. I wanted to run out of the room. I have been worrying about bonding the past two days too. I always felt very close to bubba inside me and was in love from day one. But with everyone in OH family saying how much the baby looks like OH son from ex-wife I can't help but feel annoyed about their comments.
I didnt sleep well last night and ended up sleeping most the day, I am supposed to be working from home this week and got nothing done today again.
This coupled with bad dreams, one about my belly being full of wriggling mice has made me feel like poo today.
I hope it passes.
Aww hon, I hope you cheer up .
Its completely normal to feel terrified. How could you not? They're so tiny and fragile looking but they're tougher than they look. I remember when I was bringing home Drake how scared I was. I thought I was going to hurt him, drop him, etc. The first few days were rough but after that you get the hang of it. If you have a good support group you'll do just fine hon
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You will be fine once its your own. I love lil ones I was so excited for an example to see Helens twins and hold them but they were so small when we met at the meets I was terrified to hold them! Of course still anxious when we got home about bathing - we both do it. I bathed Caitlin on my own in her chair for the first time last night. Just do things together - comes naturally and so does the love
Nap when you can during the time yoru not suppose to be working just assuming nights is for sleep like it would be pre-pregnancy isn't realistic - I learnt hard way towards end!
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I'm sorry hun. I've heard that the bonding and caring for them comes naturally once they are here. I'm scared too, since this is our first, but I know that once she is here, all of my fears will go away shortly, and the only thing I'll care about is that my precious little girl is here with us.
My mom always wanted a little girl, and when she first got pregnant, she wanted the baby to be a girl so bad. She was prepared for a girl, and when my brother was born, she was scared that she wouldn't love him. But after she held him, she said that she fell instantly in love, and until I was born 4 years later, they were best friends. Actually probably after I was born lol. But my point is that we all worry about if we will love our babies enough, and if we will be able to take care of them, and I think it's just completely natural to love this little child as soon as you see them. Try not to worry too much about things.
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I guess it's just a moment of weakness, OH has said that bathing is a two person job and we have each other, I guess I am not used to thinking that way, been too independent for too long.
I must learn to accept help and that sleeping patterns are squewif. and that just because I slept all morning doesn't mean I am depressed does it?
Bloody hormones
Stop worrying yourself babe, I am sure as soon as you see that little baby you will fall in love all over again!! If you ask me, one scan looks very much like another to me so for me.
I guarantee bubba will look nothing like his ex when born!
As for the caring of baby, when I had Jade I was exactly the same as I had never held a baby before nevermind anything else I was going to have to do. The night she was born & my family left me (they had no choice ) I cried my eyes out as I was so scared, I didn't know what to do with her, but I had this lovely MW who came and spoke to me and calmed me down. But I can tell you this, as scary as it is now you will learn so fast it is untrue and your instincts are your best friend! You will do great babe and you will be in the swing of things and telling others how to look after your baby in no time! x
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sure u will be fine, and im sure ur baby will look like u and ur OH, in laws r always REALLY insensitive, i remember when i first got pregnant and my OH lost a baby in his previous relationship at 12 weeks and we were really made up about sharing our news and his nan came out with a lovely comment about his x losing the baby, oh yes! they know how to set the mood! x
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) I cried my eyes out as I was so scared, I didn't know what to do with her, but I had this lovely MW who came and spoke to me and calmed me down. But I can tell you this, as scary as it is now you will learn so fast it is untrue and your instincts are your best friend! You will do great babe and you will be in the swing of things and telling others how to look after your baby in no time! 
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