This is my first baby and im due in 3 days (although feeling LO will be late anyways). Im quite a negative person which is sad .

I think its mainly due to the fact my dad died when i was 6 and my grandma who i was close to died a few years ago - its literally just my mum - im an only child and she was too. So she is the only family i have and i grew up and sitll do worrying something will happen to her.


Ive suffered one missed miscarriage early 2008 at 14 wks and naturally this pregnancy has been scary. Ive not had any problems as such but ive found myself to be worrying so much aobut everything and anything.My Oh isnt that supportive he just says oh dont be silly (which sort of makes it worse) and he says because im so negative then i could bring bad luck my way. However i see it as if iam assuming the worst then i may not be so upset - which is a horrible way to think

The other week i was worried my stomach was soft - got it checked all was fine.Then i was concerned it was too hard - midwife said it was fine. Then last week (baby always hiccups ONCE A DAY) and for 2-3 days i had none and panicked so rung midwife who said its nothing to worry about. Then yesterday i noticed baby had hiccups twice in the evening. Then i woke up at 3am today and Lo had hiccups - then again at 8am then again at 11 :30. I ofcourse flipped out as although many say yes its healthy you then read stories on th einternet that say it can be a problem.I just wish id stop worrying - ive come this far yet it is making me sick - i cant stop thinking that ill never see my baby .If anything ive panicked more in last few weeks/days then i did earlier on and i hate it .

Oh hun I'm so sorry that you feel like this. I'm sorry that I'm not going to be any help at all - I just didn't want to read and run
Maybe it would help to talk through all these fears with a doctor or MW - there must be people who are trained to listen and help?
Have you tried talking to your mum - it might help just to talk it all through in "real" life and share your fears with your mum?
I'm sorry I've not been any help xx

Uv done really well to get to this far! Everyone panics about things that they dont need to, especially at this late stage in their pregnancies! No one can ever really prepare us for everything we experience in pregnancy, so its natural to be unsure about things! You're doing the right thing by phoning ur midwife! Its better to phone and find out that everything is okay, than to not phone and sit and worry and get yourself in an even worse panic!

So just try and relax, because in not a very long time at all, you will have your little one in your arms and the stresses of the past 9 months will be forgotten about! xxxx

I am not sure what to say, i can totally relate though. Part of me still tries to not get too excited about the baby being here, because i think that i want it so much its never going to happen. I suffered a miscarriage at 12 weeks, and i think that is alot of my problem. I do envy people that breeze through their pregnancies without a worry. Your OH is probably just trying to stay positive so not to scare u with his worries, mine is like that! Not really sure what i am trying to say, but just to let u know u r not alone, and u r welcome to write all your worries to me. U should talk to your midwife about your worries, they may be of some help at reassuring u x

it sounds to me like to really to talk to someone properly about your fears... It is natural to be anxious - but you do have to ensure that you relax too.. You have come over many hurdles to get this far, and you should be enjoying yourself!!

Thank you - my midwife never has he rphone on so i rung labour ward and asked their midwife to help me. I dont think ive rung them so much in these last 2 weeks.

My mum seems to think im looking for somethign to worry about .Even before pregnancy i would assume everything and anything was bad. Im just waiting back for the midwife to double check - she told me she hasnt ever heard of any problems - however she will check and phone me back.Its crazy how last week i was worried as LO hadnt hiccuped for 2 days and now because 4 times in the day. Then once because my stomach felt too soft - then too hard. I think i sit and think too much as im also too scared to go out incase my waters go and also im worried of catching swine flu so late on so i tend to avoid going out all together.

Thing is i get myself into such a state where iam hysterical and even when im told all is ok part of me still worries.In some ways i just wish i was induced NOW and then i dont have to worry about Lo inside me.Although i know ill be a nervous wreck when here.

I had seen consultant the other week and i mentioned i get worried etc but they didnt really listen much - as the reason they see me is because i was on anti depressants before i got pregnant.So they more concerned thinking ill get PND I dont feel depressed but i do think that not being on them has made me more of a panicky person and hasnt helped with the panic attacks i get . I think im my own worst enemy sometimes

Awww hun, I don't know much about pregnancy (yet!) but I do know anxiety and depression. I've just stopped taking my anti-depressants whilst i'm trying to conceive and i've found myself to be quite anxious and stressed out for the last couple of weeks. So far i've just been writing everything down and trying to look for at least one positive in every situation. Not the most helpful advice i know, but just wanted to let you know you're not alone!

Oh hun, all your fears and anxieties are entirely normal and completely understandable. You are so close to the finish line now sweetie, you just have to hold on just a little while longer and your LO will be with you safe and well.

I know how you feel, its like in the last few weeks you go through a phase of re-living every fear and concern you have, whether baby is ok (despite all your scans saying s/he is fine) that its not moving enough, that it moving too much, will you be able to cope, will you be alone, will you be a bad mother... every emotion under the sun. But its just normal anxieties about the 'unknown' more than anything and a deep seated worry than labour will be awful or that something bad will happen.

But these fears are unfounded sweetheart, just try to concentrate on what you DO have, what your KNOWN things are. Yes you had had terrible things happen in your life, but you have a supportive OH (even though they don't always appear to be), and wonderful Mother who loves you very much and you are her world. Just as your LO will be yours too

Try to relax as best as you can as it will make the next few days more bearable...
thinking of you xx

I am due on Friday and I have all the same fears as you, I too am one of life's born worriers and such a pessimist that I do my own head in! I had a mc at 7 weeks and worried so much for the first 12 weeks that it would happen again (and since then about everything and anything!) It is completely normal to be worried about something going wrong though and you wouldn't be human if you didn't!

Sending you big your LO will be in your arms before you know it (and before you know it he/she will be a teenager and you will have a whole new set of worries like I have with my DD who is in Turkey with her Dad as we speak and has already been parascending much to my complete horror )

PS Race you to the finish line?

I'm due next tuesday and I'm feeling just the same. It's so scary, especially when you're prone to panic and anxiety anyway. Try not to beat yourself up about it - see the worry as a positive thing, it means you're sensitive to your LO's needs and you'll be really attuned to whatever he wants.

I'm sure that if you can get hold of your MW she'll be able to reassure you and put some extra support in place. They'll be used to this hon, and there's no shame at all in asking for help when you need it.

Hang in there, I'm sure you'll be a fantastic mum and everything will be fine.