19 days till due date, how are you all coping as you get nearer to due date?

golcarlilly · Jul 19th, 2009, 03:42 AM

I am feeling really nervous and emotional today, getting scared about the impending birth, the fear of the unknown is awful isn't it? I feel like the slightest thing could set me off

and I won't be able to stop!

I have been

about the birth so far but I find myself thinking about it more and more every day now, especially since my lovely ticker now informs me I have only 19 days left

How is everyone doing as their due date approaches - are you actively thinking about it or still

?

PrincessSoph · Jul 19th, 2009, 03:53 AM

i was with you on ignoring it was gonna happen hun but now i have a date ive had to face it and it starting to scare me!!

im still not reading up on anything tho and when a thought comes in my head im trying to ignore it but cant seem to anymore!

Zoya · Jul 19th, 2009, 04:26 AM

i m also very scared....

and no doubt.......exiting as well...waiting to meet my baby...

good luck to all of us.........

it coming close.......

joeyjo · Jul 19th, 2009, 04:32 AM

I'm trying to think positive about the whole thing, remember it is a natural process and that although it will be hard work I will have my beautiful baby at the end of it and I am so excited about that.

I am refusing to think in terms of pain and agony and choosing instead to think of hard work, discomfort and exertion/effort.
I'm not reading any birth stories etc ... and I'm not letting people tel me any horror stories, if they start trying to tell me i ask them not to unless it ws all ok, not too bad etc.... as I don't want to let the fear get in.

I just want to stay as relaxed and calm about it all as I can. After all - I'm a vet and I have seen many animals give birth and they generally delve within themselves to find the strength to deliver naturally in a quiet, calm space.... Even those that do require assistance don't generally seem too upset.

I might be deluded, I might be wearing rose-tinted specs but that is how I intend to stay for now

Kiddo · Jul 19th, 2009, 04:47 AM

I'm with Joey. I've been avoiding birth stories like swine flu and whenever someone IRL tries to tell me about someone they know's experience I just "la la la" inside my head till they're finished. People only ever seem to want to tell you the horror stories for some reason, which is so not what we want to hear just now.

I'm trying to get excited about the birth rather than become scared of it and the closer EDD gets, the more I'm finding myself looking forward to going into labour. All that might get thrown dramatically out the window once labour actually starts of course but I'm trying to look on it as being really close to meeting our baby rather than a day to be frightened of.

tmr1234 · Jul 19th, 2009, 05:39 AM

i couldnt wait to give birth agane i loved it last time apart from the pethaden (sp) but the last few days i have got so scard that i have to push this life out of my body and at the end of the day it is up to us and us alownd to get this child in to the world. but cant wait for it to start now its the not knowing when that is getting to me

misswren · Jul 19th, 2009, 05:49 AM

Waiting is always a bit tricky, in any situation!
Have faith in your body and instincts, and in 25 days you'll wonder what the 19 day deadline was all about

hehe
You can totally do this, I had a lovely midwife with my last baby and she totally relied on how I was feeling etc and I had a nice mobile labour, didn't need to ask for pain relief til about 4pm (having started slight twingeyness 10pm the previous eve) but then discovered I had quietly dilated all the way, hopped up, did a bit of pushing and panting and had my hairy wee thing at 5pm (why do they have to tell you they can see the head so much though? They think it is an incentive, I think: well just grab it then!)f

Good luck with it and try to enjoy your last few weeks - tis perfectly natural to have nerves, all part of human nature, but I think you'll be fine

golcarlilly · Jul 19th, 2009, 07:27 AM

Thanks for the positive replies ladies, I am going to try hard and focus on the positives from now on and not let the panic set in!!

aries5486 · Jul 19th, 2009, 07:31 AM

i tried to stay possitive but when i got my c section date that went all out the window!! But ill be fine i know it but still scared!!!!

bjl1981 · Jul 19th, 2009, 07:44 AM

Its the weirdest wait I've ever had. Its not like a holiday, where everyday you know for sure you're closer to going, its only ever a guess. Baby could come today...or in 4 weeks time! I'm reluctant to plan things incase baby arrives, I'm unsure how far to go from home incase I need to come back.
I have tried not to think about the birth/pain, because thinking about it isn't going to change it one little bit! I'm prepared for pain, not sure how I'll cope, or what drugs I might need, just going to take it as it comes.
I had a really emotional day on friday for no apparent reason, ended up crying all over DH when he came home from work, hormones are a killer!
Just want LO here now, and I still have 2 weeks till due date!!!!

Jul 19th, 2009, 03:42 AM	#1
golcarlilly Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: Huddersfield, West Yorkshire Posts: 10,442	19 days till due date, how are you all coping as you get nearer to due date? I am feeling really nervous and emotional today, getting scared about the impending birth, the fear of the unknown is awful isn't it? I feel like the slightest thing could set me off and I won't be able to stop! I have been about the birth so far but I find myself thinking about it more and more every day now, especially since my lovely ticker now informs me I have only 19 days left How is everyone doing as their due date approaches - are you actively thinking about it or still ?

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Jul 19th, 2009, 03:53 AM	#2
PrincessSoph Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: South Wales Posts: 4,070	i was with you on ignoring it was gonna happen hun but now i have a date ive had to face it and it starting to scare me!! im still not reading up on anything tho and when a thought comes in my head im trying to ignore it but cant seem to anymore!

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Jul 19th, 2009, 04:26 AM	#3
Zoya Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jul 2008 Location: Switzerland Posts: 1,000	i m also very scared.... and no doubt.......exiting as well...waiting to meet my baby... good luck to all of us......... it coming close.......

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Jul 19th, 2009, 04:32 AM	#4
joeyjo Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: Herts Posts: 4,387	I'm trying to think positive about the whole thing, remember it is a natural process and that although it will be hard work I will have my beautiful baby at the end of it and I am so excited about that. I am refusing to think in terms of pain and agony and choosing instead to think of hard work, discomfort and exertion/effort. I'm not reading any birth stories etc ... and I'm not letting people tel me any horror stories, if they start trying to tell me i ask them not to unless it ws all ok, not too bad etc.... as I don't want to let the fear get in. I just want to stay as relaxed and calm about it all as I can. After all - I'm a vet and I have seen many animals give birth and they generally delve within themselves to find the strength to deliver naturally in a quiet, calm space.... Even those that do require assistance don't generally seem too upset. I might be deluded, I might be wearing rose-tinted specs but that is how I intend to stay for now

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Jul 19th, 2009, 04:47 AM	#5
Kiddo Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: Scotland Posts: 4,439	I'm with Joey. I've been avoiding birth stories like swine flu and whenever someone IRL tries to tell me about someone they know's experience I just "la la la" inside my head till they're finished. People only ever seem to want to tell you the horror stories for some reason, which is so not what we want to hear just now. I'm trying to get excited about the birth rather than become scared of it and the closer EDD gets, the more I'm finding myself looking forward to going into labour. All that might get thrown dramatically out the window once labour actually starts of course but I'm trying to look on it as being really close to meeting our baby rather than a day to be frightened of.

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Jul 19th, 2009, 05:39 AM	#6
tmr1234 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: Chester Posts: 4,305	i couldnt wait to give birth agane i loved it last time apart from the pethaden (sp) but the last few days i have got so scard that i have to push this life out of my body and at the end of the day it is up to us and us alownd to get this child in to the world. but cant wait for it to start now its the not knowing when that is getting to me

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Jul 19th, 2009, 05:49 AM	#7
misswren Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: NW England Posts: 625	Waiting is always a bit tricky, in any situation! Have faith in your body and instincts, and in 25 days you'll wonder what the 19 day deadline was all about hehe You can totally do this, I had a lovely midwife with my last baby and she totally relied on how I was feeling etc and I had a nice mobile labour, didn't need to ask for pain relief til about 4pm (having started slight twingeyness 10pm the previous eve) but then discovered I had quietly dilated all the way, hopped up, did a bit of pushing and panting and had my hairy wee thing at 5pm (why do they have to tell you they can see the head so much though? They think it is an incentive, I think: well just grab it then!)f Good luck with it and try to enjoy your last few weeks - tis perfectly natural to have nerves, all part of human nature, but I think you'll be fine

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Jul 19th, 2009, 07:27 AM	#8
golcarlilly Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: Huddersfield, West Yorkshire Posts: 10,442	Thanks for the positive replies ladies, I am going to try hard and focus on the positives from now on and not let the panic set in!!

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Jul 19th, 2009, 07:31 AM	#9
aries5486 Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: a wee town called Kirkcaldy in Scotland!!! Posts: 700	i tried to stay possitive but when i got my c section date that went all out the window!! But ill be fine i know it but still scared!!!!

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Jul 19th, 2009, 07:44 AM	#10
bjl1981 Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: Wigan, UK Posts: 1,368	Its the weirdest wait I've ever had. Its not like a holiday, where everyday you know for sure you're closer to going, its only ever a guess. Baby could come today...or in 4 weeks time! I'm reluctant to plan things incase baby arrives, I'm unsure how far to go from home incase I need to come back. I have tried not to think about the birth/pain, because thinking about it isn't going to change it one little bit! I'm prepared for pain, not sure how I'll cope, or what drugs I might need, just going to take it as it comes. I had a really emotional day on friday for no apparent reason, ended up crying all over DH when he came home from work, hormones are a killer! Just want LO here now, and I still have 2 weeks till due date!!!!

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