11.5 years between last baby and this one, any advice??

hedgewitch · Jul 10th, 2009, 06:31 AM

my youngest is 11 half years old and i also have a 14 and a 15 year old. now 33+ and am soooo nervous. everything seems to have changed, the feeding rules, sleeping rules etc for babies are all different. been told i now have to feed on demand even if it is every hour, can't make bottles up and put them in the fridge, must have a grobag!!! its now like a military operation to have a baby instead of it being an enjoyable experience.
any other ladies got that sort of gap between babies and how did you cope? feel like a first time mum again and so worried as i can't remember anything from last time. feeling so old and out of touch and i'm only 33 lol. all advice gratefully received

soon2b6 · Jul 10th, 2009, 07:20 AM

Hi, My eldest is neary 14, and Im 36 this time around. Things do change youre right, but I cant help thinking that quite often common sense is all thats needed, the fact that my eldest did fine without a grobag and she didnt die from having bottles all made up in the morning says to me that its probably going to be fine for this one too!!!! (planning to BF this time cause did with all the others~) Ive also seen certian other advice take a c change over the years, for example with my second baby I was told you should NOT sleep in the same bed, with my third, the mw tucked us up together in bed in hospital

Dont forget you are an experienced mum and it will all come back, why dont you come and see the buddies thread "older mums" we are mostly 30+ years old there, but you wouldnt tell!!!

BuxtonKerry · Jul 10th, 2009, 07:21 AM

Hi hun, I cant really give you any advice on this because Im a first time mum and Im not going through what ur going through.. All I can say is dont worry urself 2 much about new feeding rules and stuff because when ur baby arrives it will all flood back to u. U will respond 2 ur babys needs, know what he/she wants or doesnt want. So all I can say to you is not to worry, enjoy that new mum feeling again and just go with the flow!! xxx

puddingqueen · Jul 10th, 2009, 07:23 AM

Hi hun

My eldest is 16(I am 35) and everything is so different, luckily we have be to antenatal classes which included a tour of the maternity unit where our baby girl is going to be born.

I can't really offer much advice as I am sort of in the same position as you........don't worry about it being a military operation, if you think like that you won't feel relaxed about being a new mum again.

We are looking forward to be new parents again.

Please don't worry hun, if you do have any queries have a word with your midwife or you health visitor after your LO is born.

Honestly hun don't worry...............if anything it will come back naturally to you.......

Hugs & enjoy the rest of your pregnancy.

Lynn x

hedgewitch · Jul 10th, 2009, 07:25 AM

thanks soon2b6, just feeling really out of it and totally dumb!!

MW making me feel like i'm stupid lol. seems like everything has changed so much and they make me feel so unsure of myself, and i will be joining you on the forum, thanks for the tip, still a newbie so still finding my way round

hedgewitch · Jul 10th, 2009, 07:28 AM

thats another thing, i haven't been offered any antenatal classes at all. i thought they were offered as standard but my hospital or midwives haven't mentioned anything.

suzielou3 · Jul 10th, 2009, 07:35 AM

I am sooooo glad that you have posted this thread, i also have a biggish gap my kids are 11, 10 and 8. I am 32 and feeling really old..lol, things are so different from before, and my midwife expects me to remember all the stuff from 8/9 years ago......hmmm dont think so, i cant remember what i done last week

I had 3 wonderful and easy pregnancies last time, but this little boy has caused me no end of troubles so far!! Im putting it down to old age

Things will come back to us i think naturally like the other ladys have already said, and lets face it, babies dont come with a manual, so we need to muddle through and do it as best we can. Plus im hoping for a little bit of help from my older 3 kids, but i may be hoping for a little too much there!!

Any way i hope it all comes back to you and you have a wonderfull time with ur new baby, just relax and go with the flow. Sending you big

puddingqueen · Jul 10th, 2009, 07:42 AM

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Originally Posted by hedgewitch

thats another thing, i haven't been offered any antenatal classes at all. i thought they were offered as standard but my hospital or midwives haven't mentioned anything.

Hi Hun

Perhaps you should give your MW a quick call and see if they are offering any antenatal classes in your area, there is an alternative going to private classes but I think they are abit expensive.

Good luck

Lynn x

lisa_33 · Jul 10th, 2009, 10:17 AM

i didnt realise there were so many of us.....my 2 are nearly 13 and nearly 15, and i have to say i feel the same. everything seems so different, but i agree a bit of common sense should beused. also i am finding pregnancy so much more difficult this time! i havent been offerd antenatal classes, but have been a tour of hospital on wednesday as its a new one, really looking forward to seeing it, but a bit worried i am gonna be so old compared to everyone else!!

amylw1 · Jul 10th, 2009, 14:35 PM

at the end of the day its my baby i will do things my way. if MW and HV dont like it then tough! i will be making bottles up in a batch and putting in fridge like i did with other 2, i wont be getting a growbag as i think they are unsafe!

Jul 10th, 2009, 06:31 AM	#1
hedgewitch Other BnB Addict Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: sunny south wales Posts: 4,237	11.5 years between last baby and this one, any advice?? my youngest is 11 half years old and i also have a 14 and a 15 year old. now 33+ and am soooo nervous. everything seems to have changed, the feeding rules, sleeping rules etc for babies are all different. been told i now have to feed on demand even if it is every hour, can't make bottles up and put them in the fridge, must have a grobag!!! its now like a military operation to have a baby instead of it being an enjoyable experience. any other ladies got that sort of gap between babies and how did you cope? feel like a first time mum again and so worried as i can't remember anything from last time. feeling so old and out of touch and i'm only 33 lol. all advice gratefully received

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Jul 10th, 2009, 07:20 AM	#2
soon2b6 Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: Lincolnshire Posts: 862	Hi, My eldest is neary 14, and Im 36 this time around. Things do change youre right, but I cant help thinking that quite often common sense is all thats needed, the fact that my eldest did fine without a grobag and she didnt die from having bottles all made up in the morning says to me that its probably going to be fine for this one too!!!! (planning to BF this time cause did with all the others~) Ive also seen certian other advice take a c change over the years, for example with my second baby I was told you should NOT sleep in the same bed, with my third, the mw tucked us up together in bed in hospital Dont forget you are an experienced mum and it will all come back, why dont you come and see the buddies thread "older mums" we are mostly 30+ years old there, but you wouldnt tell!!!

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Jul 10th, 2009, 07:21 AM	#3
BuxtonKerry Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: Buxton, UK Posts: 47	Hi hun, I cant really give you any advice on this because Im a first time mum and Im not going through what ur going through.. All I can say is dont worry urself 2 much about new feeding rules and stuff because when ur baby arrives it will all flood back to u. U will respond 2 ur babys needs, know what he/she wants or doesnt want. So all I can say to you is not to worry, enjoy that new mum feeling again and just go with the flow!! xxx

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Jul 10th, 2009, 07:23 AM	#4
puddingqueen Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: Wales Posts: 616	Hi hun My eldest is 16(I am 35) and everything is so different, luckily we have be to antenatal classes which included a tour of the maternity unit where our baby girl is going to be born. I can't really offer much advice as I am sort of in the same position as you........don't worry about it being a military operation, if you think like that you won't feel relaxed about being a new mum again. We are looking forward to be new parents again. Please don't worry hun, if you do have any queries have a word with your midwife or you health visitor after your LO is born. Honestly hun don't worry...............if anything it will come back naturally to you....... Hugs & enjoy the rest of your pregnancy. Lynn x

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Jul 10th, 2009, 07:25 AM	#5
hedgewitch Other BnB Addict Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: sunny south wales Posts: 4,237	thanks soon2b6, just feeling really out of it and totally dumb!! MW making me feel like i'm stupid lol. seems like everything has changed so much and they make me feel so unsure of myself, and i will be joining you on the forum, thanks for the tip, still a newbie so still finding my way round

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Jul 10th, 2009, 07:28 AM	#6
hedgewitch Other BnB Addict Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: sunny south wales Posts: 4,237	thats another thing, i haven't been offered any antenatal classes at all. i thought they were offered as standard but my hospital or midwives haven't mentioned anything.

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Jul 10th, 2009, 07:35 AM	#7
suzielou3 Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: uk Posts: 195	I am sooooo glad that you have posted this thread, i also have a biggish gap my kids are 11, 10 and 8. I am 32 and feeling really old..lol, things are so different from before, and my midwife expects me to remember all the stuff from 8/9 years ago......hmmm dont think so, i cant remember what i done last week I had 3 wonderful and easy pregnancies last time, but this little boy has caused me no end of troubles so far!! Im putting it down to old age Things will come back to us i think naturally like the other ladys have already said, and lets face it, babies dont come with a manual, so we need to muddle through and do it as best we can. Plus im hoping for a little bit of help from my older 3 kids, but i may be hoping for a little too much there!! Any way i hope it all comes back to you and you have a wonderfull time with ur new baby, just relax and go with the flow. Sending you big

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Jul 10th, 2009, 10:17 AM	#9
lisa_33 Trying to conceive (TTC) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: ayrshire scotland Posts: 1,668	i didnt realise there were so many of us.....my 2 are nearly 13 and nearly 15, and i have to say i feel the same. everything seems so different, but i agree a bit of common sense should beused. also i am finding pregnancy so much more difficult this time! i havent been offerd antenatal classes, but have been a tour of hospital on wednesday as its a new one, really looking forward to seeing it, but a bit worried i am gonna be so old compared to everyone else!!

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Jul 10th, 2009, 14:35 PM	#10
amylw1 Other BnB Addict Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: peterborough Posts: 2,684	at the end of the day its my baby i will do things my way. if MW and HV dont like it then tough! i will be making bottles up in a batch and putting in fridge like i did with other 2, i wont be getting a growbag as i think they are unsafe!

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