Gabs.... so sorry for you stressful night... I can honestly say I do not understand the male population at all... and I know as a mom it is so hard to just sit there quiet and let the husband continue on with the kids when they are being far too harsh... I am sure you just called his mom because you were tired of having the same old fight and you were fed up...

I don't know your husband... but from the sounds of what went on earlier in the night.. he loves you and the boys... and I am sure he just is mixed up right now... angry at you and him mom... and hopefully a bit embarrassed by his own behavior...

Give him some room... don't get the papers for him... divorce is not what you want and that may only fuel the fire...

I think you should talk to him about counseling... for his anger... so his boys don't end up having the same troubles he does...

Big hugs Gabs... Try to rest as much as you can... and give him the space to sort it out... just let him know that divorce is not what you want but you have to talk... maybe your inlaws would keep the kids for a bit while you guys talk...

i wish i had helpfull advice hun, jut hope your okay, be strong xx

So sorry your going through this

Thank you all so much for all the kind words and advice.

I ended up texting him a few times and he wouldnt response..so then i called like 5 times. I finally said could you PLEASE text me........and you know what he sent back.

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That...a period!! What a jerk! So then he finally called to talk to Owen and then i tried to talk to him and he said that I'm annoying, blah blah blah...and hung up. I then texted him saying "ok you win, I know you hurt me b/c it feels good but enough is enough."

He called within 2 mintues and said he wasnt hurting me to make me feel good, but that I'm a terrible parent. That owen is naughty b/c of me and that I never stick to what i say when discpliing him and neither does his mom. This is upsetting b/c i do discipline him but i agree i should be more strict. He said that if it happens again he's gone.....?!?!

I just said okay I understand and left it at that. Why?....b/c all i wanted to hear is that he wasn't leaving and then i would at least be at peace and could stop shedding tears.

This isn't the end and he will not get away with no getting help, or at least talking about it seriously with me or his parents. But I have a feeling things will be OK...just like they always do.

I have a close friend of ours and I'd like to have her talk to us about parenting strong willd children and how to keep it from getting out of control. I"m hoping he at least agrees to do this.

Again thank you all and I will let you know how things go tonight when he gets home! You all are so wonderful and I wish I could come hug each and everyone of you! God bless you all.

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goodness hon what an ordeal, hope it works out. xxxx

He's just being an arsehole because he's butt hurt you called his mum. He's prolly ashamed of his temper and is taking it out on you.

Too damn right you should have called his mum, he has NO right to treat you like that. Who does he think he is? If anything you should be mad at HIM and not talking to HIM.

If it were me I'd just ignore him until he stops having his little tantrum. Keep calling him, texting him is giving him the attention he wants and the ammo he needs to hurt you more.

He's calling you a terrible parent? You're not the one with the temper and who is off sulking because his mum told him off.

I'm sorry he is treating you so crap

Oh sweet I am so sorry you are having to go through all of this.

You might not want to hear this but i believe you and your children are victims of abuse and that your oh needs to leave you alone, get himself sorted out once and for all before he tries to get back into your life.

I know you are married and have made a promise to be together but he is not treating you or your children with love & respect even if 99% of the time he is great. Living on an emotional rollercoaster is not healthy and it's no wonder your little boy is behaving the way he does.

You need to be strong for you and your little ones. I truly believe that nothing will change if you allow him to come back now. Your hubby needs to get help and leave you and your kids to get help too so when you are all feeling more in control you can rebuild a better life together.

Sorry if this is not what you want to hear but as you have said, your son is aware of what is going on, you need to invest in his future by cutting your oh loose until he is fit and able to be a good role model and loving partner.
xx

OH Gabby sweetie I dont know what to say, but I just wanted to send you my good wishes and hope it all works out. Xx