SO me and hubby go to a BBQ yesterday and all seemed relatively tame. I left ? later on in the afternoon as didnt have a good nights sleep the night before so went home and had some sleep then came back - upon returning I relaised that the Charles had arrived and everyone was loaded already (this was at 8pm!) other half had obviously done some, I stayed another few hours then when I left I said to hubby - make sure you keep your phone on you cos I need to know that I can get hold of you, if your not back in the early hours I will come pick you up around 9am tomorrow okay - ok no probs he says
Sooo again I didnt leep properly, Itext him around 1am and hear nothing back, so I call, no reply
So I get up this morning and go and pick him up - Morning I say as my friend answers the door, Hubby here to go? Err says friends he is not here, and he has lost his phone, dont know where he is!?
I stand there open mouthed! WTF!!! I am nearly 33 weeks pregnant, I think I lost my mucus plug yesterday and this is what I get
I am SO ANGRY I CANNOT BEGIN TO EXPLAIN - WHEN HE GETS HOME I AM CHUCKING HIM OUT AND AT THE MOMENT I FEEL LIKE I WNT HIM OUT OF MY LIFE ALTOGETHER!! WTF! What if I had gone OR GO into labiur! I cant even get hold of my own husband I dont know where the hell he is!!!!!

I am drinking tea with 6 sugars to try and help me calm down

Men can be insensitive pricks sometimes. If I were you I would go out to a friends house, go out for a nice lunch and come back later today when you are in a better frame of mind. Getting upset and stressed wont help you or baby x

Right he has just tried to come in - I have just thrown a bag at him and his bike - I hurt my tummy where the handlebars dug in and am now in pain! - and kicked his ass and told him to get the hell out - I am now trying to calm down my blood is boiling - he said he had been at a friends and yes he had lost his phone - I screamed at him " Your meant to be in radio contact, I havent heard from you for nearly 12 hours anything could have happened but you are so god damn selfish you just wanted to have fun well you can sttay out now and DONT come back!

I'd be livid too hun. He'd be straight out of the door. Can't believe he didn't come home to go to bed??? You make sure you make him suffer when he gets back!!!!!!

Oh hun, men can be like that - seems like they lack common sense in their dynamics. That would be something my OH would do, leave his phone on silent. The other day I was really mad with him because I normally pick him up after work on my way from the school run. Well he decided to work an extra hour and conveniently 'forgot' to tell me so me and my poor sons were waiting in the car for forty minutes in that awful heat and would he answer his phone? NO. I was so livid that I could have stripped naked. When I got hold of him 10 minutes later he had an earbashing and we left him there (10 minutes before he finished). I just told him I wasnt going to wait any longer in that goddamn heat with my swollen cankles.

I reckon your hubby in his drunkness might have decided to walk home and you missed each other. It is annoying though after you have put in the effort to go and pick up your OH because you love them that they dont seem to have taken that into consideration, but I would say dont worry, it is certainly the alcohol and he wouldnt behave like that under normal circumstances. Maybe it is time to tell him to cut down the drinking now that you are close to delivery.

Yep try to calm down and dont stress yourself out, he will probably get his comeuppance by walking all the way home while drunk

Hugs

I have to agree with Mimiso. I can truly understand why you are livid but I have just been realising that men have no idea what it is like for us even though we can try and try to explain!

My husband has caused me tears on more than one occasion through my pregnancy with drinking and staying out a couple of times... at the time it was like my world had ended(!) In hindsight though, it's typical male behaviour!

Now that I am full term the drinking is off although he does still have the odd bottle of beer.

Try and remember the good things about hubby- I have realised that hormones and emotion in pregnancy tend to bring out their worst points and I think it is tougher on them than we realise. My poor hubby gets some amount of grief from me these days and I just have to reign myself in sometimes xxx

Oh goodness that's terrible! I'm so sorry hun! I can't imagine going through this and then being majorly pregnant on top of it. Maybe after you cool down and find out WHERE THE HELL he was.......then you two could talk about chaning lifestyles alittle bit..rather then just divorce? Idk your situation other then this so just my opinion. I'm so sorry hun. BIG HUGS>!!!

But i can tell you that me and hubby don't go out without each other and would NEVER stay away all night...and so therefore we havent dealt with this problem. Yet we already have children so I think that is a big part in why.

If this is your first...do you think things would be different when baby came?

Oh honey, no wonder you are mad at him.

Did you mean that he had taken cocaine? If so, I would def get rid of him, a grown man with a baby due should know better.

Big hugs

Men Drive us mad!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Hope your ok xxxxxx

I agree id have told him straight were to go if he was...unless we've missunderstood but thats exactly wat it sounded like..?

Id have left there and then and told him never to come back, infact if i even knew he was talking to people who got up to that sort of thing he'd be out in an instant!

Staying out all night without telling you is disgusting!!! my husband would never dream of it and if he didnt he wouldnt be walking back threw that door thats for sure!