Stef

Ok so I have been complaining about being overdue and that I have had enough.... BUT...

I don't feel ready?

Yes my bags packed, The house is clean, the Nursery is set up, The moses baskets awaiting the baby, I know how to put my pram up, put the car seat in the car but am I really ready?

I said the other day that I wasnt feeling the excitment any more and I think this is why I am feeling so unready for it all, as i felt soooo ready the week coming upto my due date.

I also feel like I have been robbed of my Birth Plan and everything I wanted. Obviosuly I want to meet bubs. I have been waiting such a long time now, I think going 11 days over due has really gotten me down.

As you may know my partner suffers from depression and I am finding it hard to comfort him and keep myself together.

I have so many mixed emotions at the moment and im so fearful of the whole process of being induced. I think this is because the midwives have NEVER bothered discussing it with me. They just say oh we dont need to discuss that it probably wont happen.

Im so unsure of what pain releif Not that I have many options. Wether or not to have an Epidural asI know once im on the bed attached to the drip, stuck to the montior I wont be able to move anywhere.

Is it normal to get 'cold feet' as such before going in for an induction?

Tam

Having your first baby and not knowing what to expect is bloody scary!!!! Getting cold feet......I think most people want to rewind 9 months!!

You are ready babe, the fact your MW is no help is crap! But you are ready, you are just scared and the un-known is a scary place to be, but honestly babe, you will do great and as soon as you have your little one in your arms, all of this will be a distant memory!

It is perfectly understandable what you are feeling babe, and I really hope you manage to get plenty of rest tonight, don't you go worrying about it all, you really have nothing to worry about, this time tomorrow you will be on cloud 9! x

Tam

I forgot to add.....

As far as pain relief is concerned....if you want an epidural, then there is no reason not to have one, it does make is so much more bareable! But, if you are active during your labour, you may find having that will be a hinderance to you. Play it by ear babe, there is the gas & air, that is a great thing, but I didn't find that strong enough after a while. There is pethedine, I found that no help at all, but many people benefit from that alot.

You can have all 3, starting with gas & air, and see how you go, then if you need something stronger, go for pethedine, then if that is not doing it, go for the epidural.

Good Luck babe! I am really looking forward to seeing that post telling us all you have had baby!!! x

Stef

Thanks Tam... Think I just needed some reassuring words... Just so I beleive im not going insane.

I think im just so apprehensive but as you say... With it being the first etc its just so scary what to expect or not to expect.

X

lorrilou

i know exactly how you feel, honestly you'll be fine. as for having an epidural, they are bloody great. must admit i felt abit of a failure having to have one really wanted to do it on my own, but things never work out the way you want them too.

Layla

I cant offer any comfort to you only that i share some of your fears



Best of luck for toorrow babe, i really hope it all goes ok for you, i will have my phone with me so keep me posted as and when you can, i will be thinking of you

x

Linzi

I can't really offer any advice because Ive never been there myself, but I remember my mum saying the evening before she was induced with my little brother 'I dont think Ive been so scared in my life, I dont think Ive thought this through properly' and thats after one child already.

I dont really know what to say hun but I hope it goes really well for you and just remember when you see your little one all of these fears will completely disappear!

*massive hugs*

xxx

Newt

awww hun, this is one of the reason I wont write a birth plan, I feel for you I really do. I hope everything goes well for you and you get to bring Bubbs home soon.

Stef

Thanks guys. Im just being silly I think. Me and Chris want bubs more than anything in the whole world. Its just everything with the induction seems so daunting...

I suppose the doctors etc know what they're doing though... Or I hope so. The NHS often gives me doubts but I guess they know more than me.

Thanks again guys. I know once its all over i'll be thrilled, I possibly be on could 9 and lost for words.

And Layla... Don't you worry i'll keep you updated when I can... and spend the rest of the time screaming at Chris. HAHA, Only because its a brillient excuse to. LoL. Only kidding..

Thanks though... Thanks for all the support from thw whole forum since I joined up on the TTC route.

Xx

Mango

Best of luck BabyBean! This is my first time around too so I understand how scared you are but take everyone's advice as they have been through it before. If other women can do it there is no reason you can't! You'll be great hun, and I hope you're all smiles when you see your lil one...exciting!