Why bother me now!!!

lhamil88 · Jun 17th, 2009, 12:46 PM

i need help ladies!...i split with my bf in jan after numerouse orguments about his alcohol n drug abuse...then found out that i was pregnant. i told him soon as i found out...but the situation was still a lil strange so we were talkin but not often and didn't see much of each other.

2 week after our split he gets a new gf and starts to come into the pub where i work kissing n cuddling her infront of my face...not once has he spoke to me or asked about baba....

now 5 months on!!! he decides to text me n ask if it's a boy or girl n what his or her name is?...

now the dialemma...do i text back?

advice needed

angelstardust · Jun 17th, 2009, 12:49 PM

Txt back saying that as you have not yet had the baby (pregnancy is 40 weeks, idiot) you don't know.

itsmelou1984 · Jun 17th, 2009, 12:53 PM

dunno wat to say hun but didnt wanna read and run...id probably ask why the sudden interest? x x

lhamil88 · Jun 17th, 2009, 13:13 PM

i just feel very down and realy dunno what to do about this ... i spoke to mum n dad n mum says it's up to me n isn't gunna sway me either way but dad has gone mad (he never liked him n e way)

might just leve it a bit n see what else happens

angelstardust · Jun 17th, 2009, 13:20 PM

It's a tricky one. Depends on whether you want him in you lo's life or not.

leanneh · Jun 17th, 2009, 14:31 PM

yeah maybe he has had time to think about it and has realised what he would be missing out on... after all they say a mum is a mum from when she gets pregnant but a father aint a father till he sees the child....
hope you sort things out hun

puddingqueen · Jun 17th, 2009, 14:50 PM

Change your number hun.........

He is not worth knowing.........

If you have no feelings for him, only you can decide what you want to do........we can give you all the advice in the world but we cannot tell you what to do..........

Ball is in your court hun, whatever you decide, make sure you are happy about it.

Hugs & good luck

xx

pharrison87 · Jun 17th, 2009, 14:56 PM

I agree he isnt worth knowing! But you may feel he has a right to be part of LO life so its up to you... what an idiot bringing his new GF to ur work. God i hate men like that!!

If you do decide he can play a part you make sure you call the shots and if he can be reliable then let him be there...

Let us know what u do xx

Marg_27 · Jun 17th, 2009, 14:57 PM

Id tell him to balls!!!

!!!!

Love ya xxx

ladyjayne · Jun 17th, 2009, 14:59 PM

I agree with angelstardust and itsmelou, tell him you dont know coz the babys not born and ask why he's suddenly interested.
Only you'll know whether he's being genuine or not or if he's possibly just split with the new g/f and feeling a bit sorry for himself?
Hope you work out what you want to say.

Jun 17th, 2009, 12:46 PM	#1
lhamil88 Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: doncaster Posts: 218	Why bother me now!!! i need help ladies!...i split with my bf in jan after numerouse orguments about his alcohol n drug abuse...then found out that i was pregnant. i told him soon as i found out...but the situation was still a lil strange so we were talkin but not often and didn't see much of each other. 2 week after our split he gets a new gf and starts to come into the pub where i work kissing n cuddling her infront of my face...not once has he spoke to me or asked about baba.... now 5 months on!!! he decides to text me n ask if it's a boy or girl n what his or her name is?... now the dialemma...do i text back? advice needed

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Jun 17th, 2009, 12:49 PM	#2
angelstardust Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Ayrshire, Scotland Posts: 2,318	Txt back saying that as you have not yet had the baby (pregnancy is 40 weeks, idiot) you don't know.

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Jun 17th, 2009, 12:53 PM	#3
itsmelou1984 Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: west yorkshire england Posts: 407	dunno wat to say hun but didnt wanna read and run...id probably ask why the sudden interest? x x

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Jun 17th, 2009, 13:13 PM	#4
lhamil88 Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: doncaster Posts: 218	i just feel very down and realy dunno what to do about this ... i spoke to mum n dad n mum says it's up to me n isn't gunna sway me either way but dad has gone mad (he never liked him n e way) might just leve it a bit n see what else happens

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Jun 17th, 2009, 13:20 PM	#5
angelstardust Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Ayrshire, Scotland Posts: 2,318	It's a tricky one. Depends on whether you want him in you lo's life or not.

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Jun 17th, 2009, 14:31 PM	#6
leanneh Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: blackpool Posts: 178	yeah maybe he has had time to think about it and has realised what he would be missing out on... after all they say a mum is a mum from when she gets pregnant but a father aint a father till he sees the child.... hope you sort things out hun

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Jun 17th, 2009, 14:50 PM	#7
puddingqueen Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: Wales Posts: 616	Change your number hun......... He is not worth knowing......... If you have no feelings for him, only you can decide what you want to do........we can give you all the advice in the world but we cannot tell you what to do.......... Ball is in your court hun, whatever you decide, make sure you are happy about it. Hugs & good luck xx

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Jun 17th, 2009, 14:56 PM	#8
pharrison87 Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: East Sussex Posts: 153	I agree he isnt worth knowing! But you may feel he has a right to be part of LO life so its up to you... what an idiot bringing his new GF to ur work. God i hate men like that!! If you do decide he can play a part you make sure you call the shots and if he can be reliable then let him be there... Let us know what u do xx

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Jun 17th, 2009, 14:57 PM	#9
Marg_27 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Aug 2008 Location: Nottingham Posts: 2,561	Id tell him to balls!!! !!!! Love ya xxx

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Jun 17th, 2009, 14:59 PM	#10
ladyjayne Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Dec 2008 Posts: 585	I agree with angelstardust and itsmelou, tell him you dont know coz the babys not born and ask why he's suddenly interested. Only you'll know whether he's being genuine or not or if he's possibly just split with the new g/f and feeling a bit sorry for himself? Hope you work out what you want to say.

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