Anyone else feel like their DH/OH isn't giving them enough personal attention? Mine is typcially quite wonderful; cooks and cleans, does the laundry, massages my very swollen feet, tells me I'm beautiful, etc... he has his days don't get me wrong - but overall he's a wonderful man that I adore.

But I feel like lately he's just taking care of the "tasks" like the things I jsut listed. I need cuddle time, and time to sit on the couch and watch and movie and just be with each other. I don't feel like we do that anymore.

We also haven't had sex in about 2 months... he told me that he still thinks I'm beautiful and sexy and all that but it completely freaked out by the baby "being there" if we made love. I kinda feel the same way, but I miss our intimacy SOOO much. I miss just being naked with him and kissing for hours.

When I try to talk to him about it, I feel like I'm nagging or complaining - I don't know what to do....

Advice????

I don't really have advice.... but I feel the same!!!!!!

My DH works on the road, and he's been gone for the last 5 days. He got home this morning. He throws ALL his work clothes on the floor in our bedroom, puts his sweats on, grabs his f*cking lap top that he's always on, and plants his ass on the couch. Didn't really talk to me all morning....... THEN, I go to sit on the couch where I usually do, but he's all stretched out, and I wasn't about to argue with him to sit there, so I went on the other love seat and closed my eyes for a bit. I wake up, and he's playing his PS3 for 4 hours after that! Isn't that a wonderful day after not seeing him for 5 days??

I honestly wasn't even excited for him to come home. It's so sad to say that.... but it's true. I'd rather him be gone on the road, than have him home and ignore me. It really hurts. He used to be SOOOOo good to me!! But lately, he's practically ignored me. We haven't had sex since around week 20 because I had a low lying placenta, but it's okay now, and he still doesn't want to. I could kind of understand that though, guys can get that way with babies in there right? I kept saying how I wanted to have sex today, to at least bring on labour (he's VERY excited for baby to come), and I can guarantee that it's not gonna happen.

Oh my god, as I write this, he just tripped over his shoes that are in the middle of the floor. lol.........

It hurts me that he doesn't appear to really put much effort into caring for me. He'll rub my feet, back, legs, totally make me feel good, but that's about 5% of the time. Oh well, maybe my expectations are higher, and I'm emotional....
I guess some guys just don't get it.

I don't try to talk to my DH about it either, because it comes out like I'm nagging too, so I just keep it to myself, and sometimes go in the bedroom and have a little cry!

xx

Me too! I mean, he's still sweet and offers to do things for me, but I guess I just imagined we'd be especially close during this time. He also isn't as interested in feeling the baby move as I thought he would be, which kind of upsets me. He's very excited about the baby though. I guess the hormones don't help us with our insecurities.

Yeah, mine isn't as 'into' feeling ours moving either. I mean, he always feels it, but not for very long! Or, if he moves a lot, I'll tell him, and he'll put his hand on it for like 20 seconds, and give up. lol

Exactly! He feels one tiny kick and then he's off! He says he doesn't want to hurt the baby. When my mum came to visit, she sat there for half an hour every night with her hands plastered to my tummy feeling everything she could, lol.

My DH is great round the house, with massages when he's not too tired - but I hate it when he goes out of the room lol!

Quite often he disappears upstairs 'for a minute' and then goes on Championship Manager for hours! I find myself sitting in the study with him so I can get some of his company...

Mine sooo does that!!
i guess guys r just different abt pregnancy...i dont think OH means to b so insensative. He seems to wanna throw himself into practical task rather than b emotional which i think he thinks is kinder/more helpful/more needed in someway. OH seems to react to most big things by getting all practical where as i get all 'talky' or deal with things emotionally...its funny how completely the opposite men and woman can b...i think hetrosexual relationships r mother natures little joke!

don't have any advice!

My OH will put his hand on bump for like 30 secs to then get bored! He's so excited about babies arrival though.

He is such a star around the house, does so much. We were both having a good clean Monday and he was like look just go to your parents and when you come back it will be all done. How cute? i never I helped, then went for a soak in the bath while we finished!

Sex...we've not had it at alll since finding out i was pregant. At first cos was scared after misscarriage, then because of Low lying plancenta now because the idea freaks him out with baby being there . We still cuddle up in bed though, kiss and be intimate it other ways...so guess i'm quite lucky!

8hugs* men are strange tho and i don't think we'll eve udnerstand them

thank GOD I'm not alone!

I feel like every time the baby moves I ask him to feel it and he's probably thinking "yeah, feels like the last time!" LOL