i totally agree--- my hubby is the same way as mickey's ---- although he is starting to get a lil annoyed like when i want a back massage ---he's like ur taking advantage of me and im like ya maybe just a lil---but my back really hurts---lol so i give him a massage tooo to make up 4 it --- but he would never in his right mind call me fat--- he luvs my pregnant body--- and yes the boobs help too---- lol

I'm sorry to hear that MissM. Like it's not hard enough for us to adjust to our constantly changing bodies, he has to make it harder for you by criticizing you, and especially in front of friends? I need reassurance from my DH all the time. I've only started showing in the past couple weeks, and I already feel down about it. If he wasn't here to support me and accept and love my body, I would be a mess. I would try to talk to him calmly and rationally about it, even tho it can be hard sometimes when we get emotional. Tell him that the things he said, and his actions really hurt. And that this baby is 50% him, and that you're the one doing all the hard work to bring it here. Who knows, maybe he will come around. If not, I say that slap in the face Wobbles suggested. =)

I think I agree with marleys suggestion actually!

MissM how are you

That is so true Marley. I was referred to a councillor after all this shit happened and she told me that it was domestic abuse and she said not to move back but I felt I had to as I still love him and want to settle her with both parents. He is on trial though and if he is an arse I have places to go. I do think he just banters with me as he used to be fat ane I just say hey im pregnant when he says im fat.

Im up and down Wobbles and have told him how im feeling but this affair has destroyed my confidence as we are not sexually compatable and he went off with someone who he connected with when I felt down about my body.

I am so sorry you are going through this sweetie. You deserve better. Pregnancy is a difficult time for all of us, making and bringin up a child is the most difficult job in the world and he should be understanding of this. Pregnancy is a magical and beautiful time in a woman's life and for him to try to ruin this experience for you is selfish. Your man should be there for you in every way possible. Giving you back massages, listening to you complain about all the niggles, making you tea, cleaning etc..Most of all he should be there everyday telling you what a wonderful mother you are going to be and that you look beautiful. My man does all of this. We are gonna feel paranoid and feel fat and haggered enough as it is carrying those babys around- If he cannot be appreciative of that then I would seriously reconsider if it is worth having this man in your life. I understand you want to be settled for you baby's sake and that you still love him. But if your man carries on when the baby is here the child is gonna sence mummy isnt happy and this will in turn upset him/her. Not to mention that i think love alone isnt always enough in a relationship-If it was all our relationships would be perfect! This man is bullying you and you need to be loved and supported. You need respect from him as a woman, a lover and a mother and at the minute hun you aint getting any of that. Personally it sounds to me like he treats you like this because deep down it is HIM who lacks the confidence and by putting you down it makes HIM feel better, like the bigger person which is wrong and a weakness in my opinion. You need that confidence of yours in order to bring your baby into this world, how dare he just come and take it! Im so sorry if any of this is harsh or has upset u. But you seem like you have a lot of love to give and i wouldnt waste it on him. Just remember you are beautiful and strong and dont let him or anyone else make you believe otherwise. Good luck xx

for me it sounds like this as well!

i agree with all of this!

Thanks SweetSammi.

hope ur ok hun xxxx