Am i being silly?

pixie87 · Mar 23rd, 2009, 15:03 PM

hi sorry but i have to get it of my chest, I'm not sure if i'm being unreasonable or not......
Last night got a phone call from other half saying he was going out for a quick drink with friends, i said fine no probs (although was slightly jealous lol) He eventually strolled through the door at 4 in the morning! and i was in a bit of a bad mood with him!! He than said that i was being unreasonable and sed fine he'll never go out again! Really! how selfish of him to try and make me feel guilty.
I think its great he has some him time with the lads, but what about me! stuck indoors all day everyday.. just think he could be a bit more understanding!

I don't want him to resent me for not letting him have fun but i feel a bit left out and unloved too be honest. Am i just being over sensitive and hormonal? lol

phew ok moan over xxx

pixie87xx
team blue 35+2

juliespencer9 · Mar 23rd, 2009, 15:07 PM

i would be well p...d off if my oh did that, i dont think your being unreasonable, did he ring and let u know?

happy mum · Mar 23rd, 2009, 15:09 PM

i don't think you're being silly, i would go ape if my DH came in at 4am!! drink with the lads fine but if its a big night i want to know in advance think its only being considerate! but to me a drink with the lads is home by 11/11.30pm, 4am is nightclub and curry!!

Angel2Fire · Mar 23rd, 2009, 15:10 PM

Your not being unreasonable, if mine did that I would be well annoyed.

2nd time mum · Mar 23rd, 2009, 15:14 PM

Hi I don't think you are being unreasonable. If you are going for a quick drink you don't end up there until 4am, not without phoning you first anyway so you know.

mama2b · Mar 23rd, 2009, 15:17 PM

Ive had all this with my oh. I would be seriously hacked off to especially if he said he was only going for a few then didn't bother to let yo know he was going on an all nighter.

Its a difficult situation as like you I don't mind oh going out but it is annoying that we don't have that luxury and won't do for a while !

I would tell him that your problem isn't him going out as such its not actually letting you know hes going on a bender thats the problem !!!

PuffinMuffin · Mar 23rd, 2009, 15:18 PM

Your def not being unreasonable! coming in at 4am is not a quick drink with the lads, or even a long drink, thats an all nighter and he should have let you know at some point if it was going to be such a long one. Christ, I dont think my hubby is brave enough to pull a stunt like that lol

Missy85 · Mar 23rd, 2009, 15:20 PM

not due in here yet, few days off hehe

just had to say i agree with the others.. the point is he said it would be a quick which it obviously wasnt. Also it seems he didnt ring you to let you know if that was me i would be annoyed as i would have been worried...

Lara+sam+bump · Mar 23rd, 2009, 15:32 PM

I wod go mad if my OH did that. You cant go out, he can, so the least he shud of done is have the decency to let you know when he'd be back and stick to the time he said. My OH wouldnt hav the guts 2 do it either lol, id kill him xxx

pixie87 · Mar 23rd, 2009, 15:34 PM

no he didn't call! think that was the worst thing! my hormones are going mad at the mo so was worried something had happened or something. thanx for your replies.
I'll speak too him about it when he gets back from work!

Mar 23rd, 2009, 15:03 PM	#1
pixie87 Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: cyprus Posts: 150	Am i being silly? hi sorry but i have to get it of my chest, I'm not sure if i'm being unreasonable or not...... Last night got a phone call from other half saying he was going out for a quick drink with friends, i said fine no probs (although was slightly jealous lol) He eventually strolled through the door at 4 in the morning! and i was in a bit of a bad mood with him!! He than said that i was being unreasonable and sed fine he'll never go out again! Really! how selfish of him to try and make me feel guilty. I think its great he has some him time with the lads, but what about me! stuck indoors all day everyday.. just think he could be a bit more understanding! I don't want him to resent me for not letting him have fun but i feel a bit left out and unloved too be honest. Am i just being over sensitive and hormonal? lol phew ok moan over xxx pixie87xx team blue 35+2

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Mar 23rd, 2009, 15:07 PM	#2
juliespencer9 Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2008 Location: South of England Posts: 1,696	i would be well p...d off if my oh did that, i dont think your being unreasonable, did he ring and let u know?

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Mar 23rd, 2009, 15:09 PM	#3
happy mum Other Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Sep 2008 Posts: 1,601	i don't think you're being silly, i would go ape if my DH came in at 4am!! drink with the lads fine but if its a big night i want to know in advance think its only being considerate! but to me a drink with the lads is home by 11/11.30pm, 4am is nightclub and curry!!

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Angel2Fire Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: Derby Posts: 811	Your not being unreasonable, if mine did that I would be well annoyed.

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Mar 23rd, 2009, 15:14 PM	#5
2nd time mum Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: Dundee Posts: 1,368	Hi I don't think you are being unreasonable. If you are going for a quick drink you don't end up there until 4am, not without phoning you first anyway so you know.

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mama2b Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: Warwickshire Posts: 2,067	Ive had all this with my oh. I would be seriously hacked off to especially if he said he was only going for a few then didn't bother to let yo know he was going on an all nighter. Its a difficult situation as like you I don't mind oh going out but it is annoying that we don't have that luxury and won't do for a while ! I would tell him that your problem isn't him going out as such its not actually letting you know hes going on a bender thats the problem !!!

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Mar 23rd, 2009, 15:18 PM	#7
PuffinMuffin Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: Bedfordshire, UK Posts: 136	Your def not being unreasonable! coming in at 4am is not a quick drink with the lads, or even a long drink, thats an all nighter and he should have let you know at some point if it was going to be such a long one. Christ, I dont think my hubby is brave enough to pull a stunt like that lol

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Mar 23rd, 2009, 15:20 PM	#8
Missy85 Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Merseyside, UK Posts: 2,003	not due in here yet, few days off hehe just had to say i agree with the others.. the point is he said it would be a quick which it obviously wasnt. Also it seems he didnt ring you to let you know if that was me i would be annoyed as i would have been worried...

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Mar 23rd, 2009, 15:32 PM	#9
Lara+sam+bump Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: Sussex- UK Posts: 888	I wod go mad if my OH did that. You cant go out, he can, so the least he shud of done is have the decency to let you know when he'd be back and stick to the time he said. My OH wouldnt hav the guts 2 do it either lol, id kill him xxx

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Mar 23rd, 2009, 15:34 PM	#10
pixie87 Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: cyprus Posts: 150	no he didn't call! think that was the worst thing! my hormones are going mad at the mo so was worried something had happened or something. thanx for your replies. I'll speak too him about it when he gets back from work!

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