Pregnancy - Second Trimester

Louise · Aug 14th, 2007, 12:59 PM

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Originally Posted by Terrie

its best to get help, honestly

i love being a mum now! me aand rhys have bonded andstuff. even though sometimes i still get a bit down if hes screaming or wont eat etc!

it took me about 3 months to get over my pnd... maybe a bit longer if im honest!

It may be better to get help, but suposing it doesnt help? If I openly admit "YES I HAVE A PROBLEM, I ADMIT IT" They might think im an unfit mother.
As you can see, my way of thinking is obviously why Im having to 'talk' to someone at the moment, and this is possibly why im considered to be 'high risk'- but I dont like feeling as though im being 'assessed', im a human being and when Im in the company of the dr's, I feel like im nothing more than a 'project' to them.
Surely u know how that feels? If I admit there are a few issues, its like I have proved them all right, and thats something I really dont wanna do!

Tezzy · Aug 14th, 2007, 13:01 PM

if you read my thread about feelin like a crap mother then you will see this isnt true. a lot of people get PND and have depression. tablets helped me be a fit mother i doubt i coulda done it otherwise

Tezzy · Aug 14th, 2007, 13:02 PM

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Originally Posted by Louise

Surely u know how that feels? If I admit there are a few issues, its like I have proved them all right, and thats something I really dont wanna do!

why do you care about proving them right? surely you care about being a good mother more?

Louise · Aug 14th, 2007, 13:06 PM

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Originally Posted by Terrie

why do you care about proving them right? surely you care about being a good mother more?

Of course. But was there ever a time throughout your PND where you thought to yourself "I wanna do this alone", "I want to overcome this on my own- by myself?"
See, just by writing these posts I make myself sound like a complete and utter nut case. God knows what you all must think.[/center]

Tezzy · Aug 14th, 2007, 13:08 PM

i got help straight away and didnt try to do it on my own

Louise · Aug 14th, 2007, 13:09 PM

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Originally Posted by Terrie

if you read my thread about feelin like a crap mother then you will see this isnt true. a lot of people get PND and have depression. tablets helped me be a fit mother i doubt i coulda done it otherwise

I did read it yes, but at the same time, although people do suffer from PND- For someone who is stubborn to admit that they may need help, thats not an easy thing to do!
Did you find it easy?
They tell me its not something to be ashamed of etc:, but I dont wanna feel like Im going mad, like theres something wrong with me, and isnt that what PND is? 'a condition'? Yes, maybe I should swollow my pride and get some help, but although I had a few problems in the past, I was never this bad which is why I cant understand whats changed or 'gone wrong' How can being pregnant/having a baby, change a persons way of thinking/feeling, so much?

Tezzy · Aug 14th, 2007, 14:10 PM

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Originally Posted by Louise

I did read it yes, but at the same time, although people do suffer from PND- For someone who is stubborn to admit that they may need help, thats not an easy thing to do!
Did you find it easy?
They tell me its not something to be ashamed of etc:, but I dont wanna feel like Im going mad, like theres something wrong with me, and isnt that what PND is? 'a condition'? Yes, maybe I should swollow my pride and get some help, but although I had a few problems in the past, I was never this bad which is why I cant understand whats changed or 'gone wrong' How can being pregnant/having a baby, change a persons way of thinking/feeling, so much?

firstly i had PND and i wasnt 'mad' or 'psycotic' you can easily offend people for saying that. yes PND is a form of depression but its not that 'theres something wrong' with you. you are looking at PND as a really horrid/nasty thing and i must say i cant agree.
it is NOT something to be ashamed of, you are NOT making people think you are mad. you are simply admitting that you need help to be a good mum. theres no shame in that at all. i wanted what was best for my son. there was no doubt in my mind that i had to get help. yes i felt like crap after i was diagnosed but looking back im so glad i told my HV and doctor. it helped me so much

Louise · Aug 14th, 2007, 14:17 PM

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Originally Posted by Terrie

firstly i had PND and i wasnt 'mad' or 'psycotic' you can easily offend people for saying that. yes PND is a form of depression but its not that 'theres something wrong' with you. you are looking at PND as a really horrid/nasty thing and i must say i cant agree.

it is NOT something to be ashamed of, you are NOT making people think you are mad. you are simply admitting that you need help to be a good mum. theres no shame in that at all. i wanted what was best for my son. there was no doubt in my mind that i had to get help. yes i felt like crap after i was diagnosed but looking back im so glad i told my HV and doctor. it helped me so much

I didnt say you were mad, and I certainly didnt mean for it to come across like that.
Certain dr's and HV have got such a knack with words and they make you feel as though THEY believe you're a nut job.
I dont think Im nuts, or that having PND means you're nuts, but seeing as nobody has actually told me what PND is all about, hasnt explained a darn thing to me and expects me to agree to help, when I dont even know the first thing about the condition they're attempting to say I may have, how do you expect me to feel?
In NO WAY am I saying PND means you're mental- I was about to compliment you on your maturity actually (not to be patronizing), but you clearly have your head screwed firmly on your shoulders- and Im grateful for you explaining more about the way you felt, so please, dont take anything I said the wrong way, as I was not refering to you or anyone else, I was on about myself.

Tezzy · Aug 14th, 2007, 14:21 PM

it came across as you thought everybody with PND was mad/psycotic and i just wanted to clear up that thats untrue. you did not offend me. if you havent been told clearly what PND is then of course you can come to wrong conclusions about it

Louise · Aug 14th, 2007, 14:23 PM

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Originally Posted by Terrie

it came across as you thought everybody with PND was mad/psycotic and i just wanted to clear up that thats untrue. you did not offend me. if you havent been told clearly what PND is then of course you can come to wrong conclusions about it

Sorry it came across that way, I didnt mean for it to sound so bad!
I think I may actually look in the PND forum, it seems the dr's aint going to explain it to me properly, so all I basically have for help is you guys!

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