Pregnancy - Second Trimester

Louise · Aug 14th, 2007, 12:33 PM

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Originally Posted by Terrie

you say theyre not bothered about your anxiety but you just said thats why they offered you extra care? sorry hun but you're not making sense.

if you continue being stressed/depressed it can have an affect on your son so you have to be careful.

you think that you will be happier after your son is born? thats not always the case hun and if the extra care is there i would take the help just incase you get PND

(not that im saying you will)

Without sounding mad lol (if thats possible) I worry, and I worry LOAAAADDDS about everything, mainly health. I was always going drs before I got preg because I was worried I had this that and the other... hypocondriac I believe? so when I got pregnant, they thought that the added stress of that will take its toll and make me 394857657 worse than before- that, added ontop of the crap my mother did sent out alarm bells.
They claim they wont know how Im going to 'end up', until my baby is born, which is why they're sticking around- they're saying it will either make me worse, or make me better, as I will have something other than my health worries to concentrate on etc:
If I stay the same after Nicky is here,thats it, they will leave me be- but if I go down hill and get PND as you said, then.. well, I dunno what they intend on doing to me.
But Im guessinf everything connects to one another? atleast it does when you;re reading from a dr's prespective and it's coming from a bunch of medical notes.
Know what I mean?
Everything looks mental when its all bunched up together.

Tezzy · Aug 14th, 2007, 12:36 PM

i think you need to concentrate on being a cheerful/energetic mother for your son. if you act down/depressed around him it can cause stress for him, and you dont want that do you?

Louise · Aug 14th, 2007, 12:39 PM

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Originally Posted by Terrie

i think you need to concentrate on being a cheerful/energetic mother for your son. if you act down/depressed around him it can cause stress for him, and you dont want that do you?

Not at all no, and I do believe I will give my son the best start in life that I possibly can. But the past is the past, and certain things, no matter how hard you try, cant be changed
Sure, you can make a fresh start, ' a new beginning'- but whats done is done, right?
Did you say you got PND? If so and you dont mind me asking, how do you know you have it?

Tezzy · Aug 14th, 2007, 12:41 PM

yes i had PND and i was really happy most of the way through my pg and i had a great labour etc.

i made a post about it when i found out i had it... or just before id been diagnosed. i will find it for you if you promise not to stress out about thinking you will have it too!

Louise · Aug 14th, 2007, 12:45 PM

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Originally Posted by Terrie

yes i had PND and i was really happy most of the way through my pg and i had a great labour etc.

i made a post about it when i found out i had it... or just before id been diagnosed. i will find it for you if you promise not to stress out about thinking you will have it too!

lol. wow, you guys seem to know me all too well already, Thats frightening.
Yea, I would love to read your experience and how you dealt with it etc: It may help me out a little more.
x thanks x

Tezzy · Aug 14th, 2007, 12:45 PM

taking a deep breath

Tezzy · Aug 14th, 2007, 12:47 PM

http://www.babyandbump.com/showthread.php?t=2896 heres another one

Tezzy · Aug 14th, 2007, 12:48 PM

and another

Terrie!

Louise · Aug 14th, 2007, 12:52 PM

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Originally Posted by Terrie

taking a deep breath

Wow, Its hard to describe what I thought when I read that- if I say "it sounds like me" to some extent, you'll just think Im being paranoid, right?

Honestly though, ya know what? a certain part of that thread made me think of something I said a few months back, i'll quote you 'I love my son, Im sure I do'; well a HV asked me that question when I went to the hospital, I dont know how we got talking about it but she said 'you love your baby, dont you'? and ya know what, I felt as though I HAD to say yes, because if I said what I truely felt, which was 'He's not even here yet, how can you love something thats not even born', I was scared that I would sound off my trolly, and I worried that they would think Im not cut out to be a mother. So I told them what they wanted to hear!
I also went through a stage where I would look at my 4d scans and see nothing more than a child, I didnt look at it and see my son, I saw a baby and I was too scared to mention this to anyone. When I finally said something to the MW she said it will change when he's born, but what if it doesnt? Now I just tell them all what they want to hear because like you said in your post, I dont wanna admit that I may have a problem.
Thanks for letting me read that!

Tezzy · Aug 14th, 2007, 12:56 PM

its best to get help, honestly

i love being a mum now! me aand rhys have bonded andstuff. even though sometimes i still get a bit down if hes screaming or wont eat etc!

it took me about 3 months to get over my pnd... maybe a bit longer if im honest!

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