My OH has been really supportive of this pregnancy so far, running around after me and taking a couple of weeks off work to look after me after my spell in hospital. Usually I a complete clean-a-holic but lately he's been teling me not to do so much etc etc especially as it starts off my SPD and Back ache and Im a miserable cow then alnight
Anyways, a few weeks ago I started feeling really tired during the day again etc, mainly due to not being able to get comfy at night so therefore not sleeping too well, so catching up on it during the day, Aswell as doing the housework and looking after 3 other children.
Now I have admitted to him that I know Im tetchy and tired and lethargic most of the time but I am quite happy staying in the house during the day pottering around or having the odd nap, I have no desire to go out anywhere.
This morning, well about 11 ish I yawned and said I was tired, well he came out with 'Your always bloody tired, you need to get out and do something because its all in your head!!!' He then proceeded to say that whilst in work yesterday he saw a heavily preg woman (bigger than me) walking 100 mph down the corridor, so why cant I be like that??!!!!!!!!!!! I blew up and was sooo angry that he was comparing this strange womans pregnancy to mine,someone he's never set eyes on and he wants to know why I cant walk that bloody fast! I mean, I have SPD......IT HURTS TO WALK he bloody well knows this, I have a support belt for it and am under a consultant for it, for christ sakes I had it sooo bad I was admitted to hospital and was induced on my last pregnancy!
He says he thinks I am becoming a recluse and should go out and even suggested we go out for a walk around the block together and if I get pain he will go get the car! I mean WTF!!!!!!!!!
He upset me so bad I just sobbed my heart out and then he tried to say he didnt mean it all the way it came out and he was worried about me! He wasnt comparing this woman to me, but why even mention her if he wasnt? He thinks I am becomming depressed!! FFS!
Like I say, I am tired most of the time, its an effort to get ready, do hair, makeup etc to go out and when I do go out and walk for a while Im in agony later so I try not to bother unless I have to. I am out of breath and panting quite hard after walking up the stairs and I like nothing better than to have a nap in the afternoon before the kids come home.......does this mean I am depressed??? I dont feel dpressed, I am loving being pregnant, its what I sooo wanted for months before I actually fell, I know its hard work at the moment but I also know I will be back to my old self once Leo is here.
Does anyone else feel like I do at this stage or should I see a doctor?

It sounds like you're having a rough time, hon but from what you say I am sure your OH is just concerned about you and what he said probably just didn't come out the right way. His idea of him going for a walk with you and then running back to get the car if you need it might be a good one. Touch wood I don't have SPD so I don't know what you're feeling but just getting outside might lift your spiritis a bit. Fresh air can do wonders.

I also have no idea whether you might be depressed or not but there's probably no harm in chatting to the doctor about it. There might be another reason for the tiredness too - maybe anaemia?

I'm not saying you shouldn't speak to your M/W about it, but I stay in most of the time, main reason being I haven't got the energy to go venture out. I prefer to stay in my PJ's and relax, taking naps whenever I feel I need to.
I have to drag myself out of the house to get the kids from school.
I'm sure your OH is just concerned for you and din't mean anything by what he said. Hope you feel better soon xox

Aw hun im sorry i dont know what to say but i didnt want to read and run ...

It sounds like your in agony but your OH being a man is always going to come out with something stupid, im lucky that ive never really been ill in my pregnancies but i know my OH thinks most girly things like hormones are all in a woman's mind

Anyway hope you feel better soon hun xxx

Men always come out with things without thinking. Sorry he made you feel like crap

Hey sweets.
Well firstly I wanna give u a cuddle
Ive been a hermit this pregnancy, im happy keeping myself busy at home. Ive had different periods of not being able to sit still to feeling pooped out and wanting to chill out on the sofa all afternoon...
I know my OH was glad when i started ironing and washing up again as at some points I just couldnt face it!
It wont be long until ur busy with a little one and u will need all ur energy!! Ur Oh is just a man and hes obviously worried about you, and wonders if u are out and about it will help, bless him hes got himself into a pickle now!! LOL
He prob wants to see u blooming and hates seeing you not happy so hes over reacted.
If u need time out - Take time out u hear?
Although my OH is great he still doesnt really get the whole pregnancy thing...men lol
Just give him a telling off - not long to go now really

Men truly don't have a clue...I'm sure he meant well though. My OH thinks I'm at home all the time as well...well I work full-time, I'm in school taking a very tough course right now and am exhausted as I'm not sleeping well. Also trying to get our home cleaned up a bit when I do have some spare time. So when I do go out I only want to see my sister and my nieces usually...I save my energy for those little girls. He mentioned it last night...I kind of felt like a dork, but we just have to do what works for us right now! So you put your feet up and rest!

Hi hun......
I think men don't realise how hard it is on us women both physically and mentally to be pregnant. They think it's part and parcel of being a woman and it's supposed to be easy....well it's not...we all know that.

My OH is also supportive and helps me....but i realised last week that he doesn't see how much we give up as women to get pregnant and having children. My OH has booked his international football trip to portugal next month for 3 days, a day in cardiff for another international in march....and possibly a 2 match trip in europe again in october.....
When i mentioned a night away sometime after valentines just the 2 of us before LO arrives......he questioned if we could afford it WTF.....
The money thing pissed me off...but more than anything......what about me?

I've sacrifficed a lot of stuff for our LO arriving.... but he hasn't.
At the time i was so so pissed off for a few days.....but i've come to the conclusion hes a man....and he doesnt understand what i'm goign through. That's how I'm coping....cos i know my hormones make everything feel 10 times worse too.

Chin up hun...dont let him get you down.......men sometimes will not simply understand.

xxxx

Thanks Girls, I know you are right about OH just being concerned but I really did think he understood and now I feel, well I dont know how I feel really..hurt, upset, inadequate, a burden, lazy, fat...all the things I didnt feel before he said it.
I think maybe my hormones are playing a part in me feeling really upset about all this as its prolly not as bad as I think.
What really got me is he said all this just before it was time for him to go to work. I had to go with him to pick up my car as he left it at work last night, and all the way there he kept apologising and trying to hold my hand and I just couldnt stop the tears from falling. I felt that bad. then he said that we should make up and forget it all now as he doesnt want to go to work all day and feel crap!!

I still feel upset by it all now and ive not answered any of his grovelling texts..

hun, thats just men for you