is my 3yr old daughter jealous/being naughty because of me baby

sarahtia · Jan 30th, 2012, 05:36 AM

hiya girls

i am so confussed right nw, my daughter use 2be so good and loved going to school but since she found out that i am pregnant she has changed!! the teacher pulled me 2 1 side and told me what she has been doing since after christmas i could of died she wont listen, tells them to shut up, and the list goes on!! at home she wont go 2 bed and screams to be with us so we have to go 2bed, she wont listen and is becoming so hard to handle.

i feel like we have done this to her as she is nearly 4 so she has been our world and stil is but since there will be a new baby soon and it is so close to her bday she might not like it. she does talk about the baby and kisses my tummy but i guess i am so confussed to why she has changed. i just nt sure what to do any mre, i will not smack her, we do have a naughty step tho, just wondering if any1 else went through this or how you would handle it.

thanks 4 reading

Kerrieann · Jan 30th, 2012, 05:47 AM

We are going through this too, my son is 4 and always talks about loving baby and being excited etc but has been sooo naughty, its like its from no where, we have a 1 year old too and my 4 year old has started saying he hates him etc

dunno what to do, hes almost un-controllable at night times and in the mornings getting ready for school! Also wont resort to smacking but i get close if im honest! It just doesnt make sense that hes all of a sudden like this, luckily hes not naughty at school though

**Vickie** · Jan 30th, 2012, 19:26 PM

Hannah's been pretty defiant and difficult lately as well. I think that though some of it may be my pregnancy, most of it is just her age. All of the other moms I've talked to with children around the same age are having the exact same issues I'm having

mommy12 · Jan 30th, 2012, 20:02 PM

I have not experienced this, although my boys are very lively to begin with, could it possibly be some1 at school that is acting out and she see that person getting away with it so figures she should try it? My oldest has some issues with listening but no problems thus far at school. he wasnt jealous the first time around andit doesnt seem like either of them is jealous this time. good luck and i hope everything works out for you

ilove3baby · Jan 30th, 2012, 20:56 PM

My DD is almost four too and I dont think it has really "hit" her that she is going to be a big sister...everyonce in a while she will asks about little sister but nothing to major...Im sorry your DD is having such a hard time. Wishes to you.

kpnutt · Jan 31st, 2012, 02:47 AM

Sounds like my son. We maje sure we follow through with time out and stick to routine. He has tried too sleep in our bed, but i really dont want to start that up. I noticed that he is gettting back to himsellf.

parisa · Jan 31st, 2012, 04:51 AM

I am an Early Childhood Educator. I see this everyday.
Yes, ur daugter is somewhat jelous. She has been the center of ur life until now, and all of a sudden another baby will be replacing her (in her thoughts).
For one, when she does not go to bed, don't just give up and go to bed so that she will follow. If she throws a tanrtum, ignore the negative behavior.
She needs to learn and respect that bed-time is for her and not the whole family. Don not give up. There should be consequences for negative behavior.
Another thing is that u can get her excited about the birth. Say things like:
You are going to be a big sister wow!
Are you going to help mommy feed, walk and hold the new baby?
And make sure that ud ont' talk too about eh new baby. Try to make it into a positive expereicne for her.

sarahtia · Jan 31st, 2012, 05:59 AM

hiya thanks 4 every1s replays makes me feel beta 2know that i am not the only 1 going though this, my daughter did get bullied at the begining of the yr as there was a big meeting about it but it has stopped nw so dont think its got much 2 do wiv skool as she has got a best friend in er class an she loves going its just her behavour 2wards the teachers!!

i have involved her with what i have bought 4 the baby an she has picked things as wel i just dont get it tho coz she can be so nice bout the baby then h8 the baby. i will just have to stick to the naughty step and hope that she like the baby when she comes

xSin · Jan 31st, 2012, 06:06 AM

When it comes to the baby and your daughter, she might be feeling like she's "Giving up" a role (being your baby) ...my recommendation is make her feel equally as important by putting positive emphasis on a new role "big sister" and let her know through various methods of including her, what a big girl she is, and how that is just as special and important as a newborn.. Being mom's helper, etc.

What I'm trying to say is much clearer in my head than what I've written, ....lol sorry, hope that helps some

Jan 30th, 2012, 05:36 AM	#1
sarahtia Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2011 Location: wales Posts: 245	is my 3yr old daughter jealous/being naughty because of me baby hiya girls i am so confussed right nw, my daughter use 2be so good and loved going to school but since she found out that i am pregnant she has changed!! the teacher pulled me 2 1 side and told me what she has been doing since after christmas i could of died she wont listen, tells them to shut up, and the list goes on!! at home she wont go 2 bed and screams to be with us so we have to go 2bed, she wont listen and is becoming so hard to handle. i feel like we have done this to her as she is nearly 4 so she has been our world and stil is but since there will be a new baby soon and it is so close to her bday she might not like it. she does talk about the baby and kisses my tummy but i guess i am so confussed to why she has changed. i just nt sure what to do any mre, i will not smack her, we do have a naughty step tho, just wondering if any1 else went through this or how you would handle it. thanks 4 reading

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Jan 30th, 2012, 05:47 AM	#2
Kerrieann Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: Hertfordshire Posts: 3,186	We are going through this too, my son is 4 and always talks about loving baby and being excited etc but has been sooo naughty, its like its from no where, we have a 1 year old too and my 4 year old has started saying he hates him etc dunno what to do, hes almost un-controllable at night times and in the mornings getting ready for school! Also wont resort to smacking but i get close if im honest! It just doesnt make sense that hes all of a sudden like this, luckily hes not naughty at school though

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Jan 30th, 2012, 19:26 PM	#3
Vickie Mum (Mom) Administrator Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: Toronto, ON Posts: 76,004	Hannah's been pretty defiant and difficult lately as well. I think that though some of it may be my pregnancy, most of it is just her age. All of the other moms I've talked to with children around the same age are having the exact same issues I'm having

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Jan 30th, 2012, 20:02 PM	#4
mommy12 Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: ontatio Posts: 86	I have not experienced this, although my boys are very lively to begin with, could it possibly be some1 at school that is acting out and she see that person getting away with it so figures she should try it? My oldest has some issues with listening but no problems thus far at school. he wasnt jealous the first time around andit doesnt seem like either of them is jealous this time. good luck and i hope everything works out for you

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Jan 30th, 2012, 20:56 PM	#5
ilove3baby Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2011 Posts: 595	My DD is almost four too and I dont think it has really "hit" her that she is going to be a big sister...everyonce in a while she will asks about little sister but nothing to major...Im sorry your DD is having such a hard time. Wishes to you.

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Jan 31st, 2012, 02:47 AM	#6
kpnutt Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: Coventry Posts: 114	Sounds like my son. We maje sure we follow through with time out and stick to routine. He has tried too sleep in our bed, but i really dont want to start that up. I noticed that he is gettting back to himsellf.

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Jan 31st, 2012, 04:51 AM	#7
parisa Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2011 Location: Vancouver, Canada Posts: 272	I am an Early Childhood Educator. I see this everyday. Yes, ur daugter is somewhat jelous. She has been the center of ur life until now, and all of a sudden another baby will be replacing her (in her thoughts). For one, when she does not go to bed, don't just give up and go to bed so that she will follow. If she throws a tanrtum, ignore the negative behavior. She needs to learn and respect that bed-time is for her and not the whole family. Don not give up. There should be consequences for negative behavior. Another thing is that u can get her excited about the birth. Say things like: You are going to be a big sister wow! Are you going to help mommy feed, walk and hold the new baby? And make sure that ud ont' talk too about eh new baby. Try to make it into a positive expereicne for her.

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Jan 31st, 2012, 05:59 AM	#8
sarahtia Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2011 Location: wales Posts: 245	hiya thanks 4 every1s replays makes me feel beta 2know that i am not the only 1 going though this, my daughter did get bullied at the begining of the yr as there was a big meeting about it but it has stopped nw so dont think its got much 2 do wiv skool as she has got a best friend in er class an she loves going its just her behavour 2wards the teachers!! i have involved her with what i have bought 4 the baby an she has picked things as wel i just dont get it tho coz she can be so nice bout the baby then h8 the baby. i will just have to stick to the naughty step and hope that she like the baby when she comes

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Jan 31st, 2012, 06:06 AM	#9
xSin Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Dec 2011 Location: Vancouver Island Posts: 512	When it comes to the baby and your daughter, she might be feeling like she's "Giving up" a role (being your baby) ...my recommendation is make her feel equally as important by putting positive emphasis on a new role "big sister" and let her know through various methods of including her, what a big girl she is, and how that is just as special and important as a newborn.. Being mom's helper, etc. What I'm trying to say is much clearer in my head than what I've written, ....lol sorry, hope that helps some

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