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Old Jan 30th, 2012, 04:33 AM   #1
foxymummy
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Bad night last night - DTD


Hubby and I haven't been intimate in the last few weeks. Well we kiss and cuddle a lot and really touchy feely towards each other.
Hubby gets weireded out by the thought of us having sex and there is a growing baby inside me. I do understand where he is coming from and its totally fine by me, most nights i'm in bed early anyway.
Hes heading away with the army for 2 weeks today so we though that last night could be a sexy night on account of him going away for a while. So i had a nice long shower, shaved my legs, put on some nice perfume, nice underwear etc etc
So we get down to it and everything was going well then i started to get really uncomfortable and a little sore so we stopped and I would finish him off iykwim but he couldn't climax. I was sooooo dissapointed and i know he was too. We barely talked after it. He said it was nothing to do with me but of course it was, i mean how could it not have anything to do with me?
We had an amazing sex life before we got pregnant, we dtd at least 4 times a week some weeks even more and now hardly anything.
He woke me before he left this morning and we had a kiss and a cuddle goodbye but it feels like were arguing somehow but we're not, it just feels awkward.

Anyone else go though this?


 
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Old Jan 30th, 2012, 04:37 AM   #2
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youre not alone - we havent DTD in two weeks and we have gone from 2-3 times per week before BFP to about once a week at the most. I dont feel like it but what hurts more is the fact that he doesnt seem to be bothered either. ive mentioned it but his response was 'well its not like youre all over me' Id just like to think that he found me remotely attractive or he could even just lie to make me feel better!


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Old Jan 30th, 2012, 04:42 AM   #3
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We were talking yesterday evening about it and kinda joking at the same time. I told him the last time we had sex was almost 6 weeks ago and if he didn't jump on me then i'm gonna start dry humping the table cause I'm that horny! he just laughed and i was serious!


 
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Old Jan 30th, 2012, 05:39 AM   #4
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Maybe he feels like it was his fault you were uncomfortable and sore - I have endometriosis which, even before getting pregnant, would sometimes make sex quite uncomfortable for me. If I showed that I was in pain or had to stop and change position for any reason, my OH would sometimes have to give up too because he felt terrible that he thought he was hurting me. Of course it's not his fault at all, but the worry can be a huge turn off.

Try and talk it out, and definitely try again once he's home


 
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Old Jan 30th, 2012, 11:01 AM   #5
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Yea i was thhinking of doing something nice for him when he comes home.


 
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